How to teach children to handle bullies

[schellen]

I saw this in NLB's latest issue (March 2010) of golibrary, their monthly publication on library events, etc.


They have a review on a DVD called \"Bully Girls\" that runs for 20 minutes. The call no. is 302.34 BUL. According to the review, the video will instruct viewers on how to identify techniques and tactics of female bullying taking place, and how to report such incidents to the authorities. It also differentiates bullying from teasing which is more benign, unless the teasing is carried out to an extreme, where the victim's self worth and dignity are severely affected. Then, I believe you can qualify this type of teasing under bullying too.

I have not seen this video yet so what I've typed here is based on the review only. I'm sharing it here in the hope that it may help.

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[quote]for immediate action, he can just shout out loud to quickly draw attention of the others when the act is committed.

if possible, get your kid to sit near to the bus driver.[/quote]That's what ds do when someone wants to play rough with him. I know it's a norm for boys to rough it out. But mine just a little bit too proper. He will first warn that he doesn't like it. Second warning, will march to any nearest adults to get help.
[quote]it'll be good to get your boys acquaint with other nicer kids boarding the same bus so your boy has better protection next time.[/quote]That is what dd is doing. Getting her group to help her when the bully strikes.

[RamblingMummy]

hi, my girl is only 2 but i do teach her to stand up against bullies. I believe that we need to teach our kids to stand up against bullies in order for them not to be victims of bullies. We will never be around all the time. In fact, teachers aren’t with our kids 24/7 either. Standing up against bullies is a lifeskill that our kids have got to learn.


I told my girl that if she does not like what the other person is doing or saying to her, then she’s got to tell that person to stop. In fact, I’ve seen her standing up for herself a number of times. Of course, if an older child is involved, then I will definitely step in.

[jiyou2003]

My DS is 7 and I saw this incident after his swimming class. He likes to stay a little longer to play water and he spotted two slightly older boys in the pool. There are from the same swimming class. So DS play with them. One of them pull my DS hair while the other one push his head under water. Those boys mother was standing and talking to other people. They didnt notice it. I quickly call to DS and ask him out of the pool. That boy pull DS hair again while he was crying and scolding that boy "stupid". Oh mine!

[pokemon]

i dont know if this is consider a bully. This boy who sit next to the ds demanded to use my ds color pencil. My ds brings along a normal 24color pack (nothing fanciful) and that boy has a 12 color pck. He as been using my ds colorpencil for a few days, till i noticed why the colorpencils are often broken. My ds said for the past few months, that boy has been changing different brands of colorpencil.


Yesterday, despite several warning from my ds, that boy ignored him and contd using my ds colorpencil, and my ds was also sillly :stupid: , allow him to use.

Today, i told ds to give that boy an ultimatum, if he contd to use, will get the teacher involve. Must check w ds later when u comes back. Apparently, this boy often told his frens, he staying in bungalow, have alot of money bt few weeks bk, he was reported by classmates for asking them for $. Teachers has informed his parents. I really think, money cant buy happiness ya!

[vlim]

Hi, I think some of you might be keen of the following link


http://www.bullyfreecampaign.sg/

[blackberrycck]

i think "bully" issues are the most difficult to solve…too sensitive already…

[PSLEtutor]

Are you being bullied?

An excellent ebook on Bully Prevention for parents, Students and teachers.
Ebook \"Stop Bully Now\" available online at http://StopBullyNow.org


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[mumma_bear]

I find this very hard to manage since my DS is just 2 y.o. When he had experienced being bullied by a kid bigger than him, my son just looked straight to his eyes, i pitied my son that time. But I was proud that he didn’t cry at all…I scolded the older kid though. I’ve seen my son fighting back when he was bullied by his cousins. I guess he has a defensive attitude built within him although I’m still worried if worse comes to worst. Thanks for the topic!

[Littlefly]

Is it possible to teach our kids how to handle bullying from Nursey stage or Pre-K? such as how to teach our kid to process criticisim or handle envy…


Or this is part of growing up where they have to learn how to defend themselves ? but what if they are at such a tender age and does not know how to express ?