Maid wants to go back - can we bring back to agency?

[laughingcat]

I am so sorry to hear that.


For airfare, the employer has to borne. Sending her to the agency, means the agency might want to earn some buck and try to convince her to stay. But with her attitude like that, means will pass on the problem to other employer.

Besides if you get the agency to help, the agency will charge you for a fee if the maid still want to go back home.

If you do it on your own, you can get to choose the air ticket fare. Why not convince her to stay for another 4 months till her contract ends and keep a close watch on her?

[annalee]

I tried to talk to her but she is very adamant that she wants to go back. She also said my son wandering off was not her fault, it was his because he chose to be distracted but he is still in preschool, only just turned 3 this June. He is not a 12 year old kid. I mean it is like whatever you say to her, she does not get it. I am also not sure if she could have done this on purpose so I will just send her back. I thought of telling agency what she did and whether they can talk to her to pay for her own fare. We actually have just sent her back a few months back because she was homesick and gave her a lot of presents to bring back to her family, I can’t believe how ungrateful she is.

[laughingcat]

Sometime it is really luck to have a good helper. Perhaps when you get another helper, state the house rules out front and get her to abide to it. Handphones is always a problem. My helper only used handphones only at night after 9 pm.

[annalee]

Thanks Laughingcat, previous helper I had, I told her no handphone when working.. only at night can use and because of that she wanted to change employer, she said she needed to be able to check her messages, sigh. So this one, I gave a bit more freedom, it also backfired.


Really hard to find a good one these days..anyone knows of any good maid agency that has good track record of more reliable maids?

I am really in a :stompfeet: and :imdrowning: state

[janet88]

laughingcat:

Sometime it is really luck to have a good helper. Perhaps when you get another helper, state the house rules out front and get her to abide to it. Handphones is always a problem. My helper only used handphones only at night after 9 pm.

I set that rule then.
my maids disappear on the dot at 9pm...then used the mobile phone all the way past midnight and couldn't get up at 6 the next morning.

[janet88]

annalee:

Thanks Laughingcat, previous helper I had, I told her no handphone when working.. only at night can use and because of that she wanted to change employer, she said she needed to be able to check her messages, sigh. So this one, I gave a bit more freedom, it also backfired.


Really hard to find a good one these days..anyone knows of any good maid agency that has good track record of more reliable maids?

maid agencies defend their maids and scold them in front of their employers.
rejected ones will have to pay 1 month lodging.
getting a dependable and reliable maid is really about luck.

[phtthp]

cannot stand maids that yak non-stop with their friends on handphone, yaking with their ear-piece on all the time, even when cooking inside kitchen for dinner, washing bowls, mopping floor, etc

[janet88]

phtthp:

cannot stand maids that yak non-stop with their friends on handphone, yaking with their ear-piece on all the time, even when cooking inside kitchen for dinner, washing bowls, mopping floor, etc

can die facing them.
give them the freedom to use mobile phone at night and they simply disappear on the dot and yak/sms until wee hours of the morning. you see maids sitting on the pavement yakking when they walk the dogs and just about every occasion possible.
many maids are calculative. if you don't give them the wi-fi password to use or if they are not happy cooking for an extra kid (like niece/nephew before school) like my neighbour, they want to change employer.

[Estéema]

I don’t give FDW privileges. I give only basic needs, the only privileges I let them hv is after 6 mths if they are keen - go for courses. The few courses incl haircutting, sewing, computer, English or the last one tried O levels but she cldnt meet the std required in Spore.


Wifi access is more of a bane, as I see it. It’s like not controlling our own kids gadget/internet access & lead to addiction.

I once interviewed a pino who asked if I provide wifi acces besides asking for high pay, weekly off-days as her previous expat eyer provides. Obviously I didn’t want her. Their focus as helpers is lost once they get access as they’ll resist any stopping & their work gets affected which pose dangers to our kids & our home items gets damaged fr careless (lack of energy after it got sap by internet usage).

If any FDW cannot exercise self-control after eyer instructions, or worst show insubordination, I plan set away to send them back. Usually, I’ll not indicate any warning of being sent back but just say they cannot work for me if they cannot follow my instructions. I’ll interview a new one, purchase air-tic to send her off before new arrives. I usually get them ready saying we need to go out so she uses the toilet as long trip. Then hubby & I guard to get her pack on the spot & set to airport. One pleaded to be sent to Batam, but I refused & said MOM requires sending back to home-country & to me she had to go back to where she comes fr. For me she is not to find easy way to return to disrupt Spore families. If she has to pay for agents to bring her back, the hurdles shld (hopefully) wake her up to be more serious abt her job & be more cooperative with her next eyer.