took special needs son to Aus; he graduated from uni at 17
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admire her energy. luckily, she is young & energetic.
She is also blessed with $, to help groom her son, to his fullest potential. Through her tears, sweat, pain, struggle, dedicated hardwork, Pam had also proven that there is an alternative path to school an autistic child, by going overseas. A very determined and smart mom -
Is she the same Pam that previously active in this forum until a few years back?
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It’s a parent’s choice how they want to educate their kids, and having them get through education faster may seem good. For myself, I wonder if it would actually be better not to let them rush, but keep them with their age peers as far as possible? Academic intelligence is only one part of the child, and allowing them to develop that at a higher speed than other aspects of their growing up will likely make a child imbalanced? And how does all that work out when they are starting their first job, with a masters, when they are younger than others with a bachelor’s degree? Just my thoughts.
(I have a child with some learning disabilities too, and although she is probably a bit above average in general intelligence, we have actually intentionally slowed her down a bit so she can take more time to develop her social and organisational skills. I have another child who seems pretty highly intelligent although we have never tried to quantify this, and again, rather than accelerate her, we have told her to use her extra time to try out other interests, spend time on social activities etc. I would rather her graduate with her age peers than to graduate early with others older than her.) -
yes, is the same Pam that used to be active in this forum last time
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at 18 year old, in Sg, likely that a student is studying inside an A-level Junior College or polytechnic. By the time they graduate from university (minimum 3 years later, athough some uni courses are 4 or 5 years), likely to be around 23 years old.
for Pam’s son who graduate at age 18 : that means he is able to enter work force earlier, by around 4 or 5 years earlier, compared to his peers, born in the same year as him. -
I believe she took her children’s emotional health into account and that, rather than early graduation for its own sake, prompted her to look for alternative paths.
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phtthp:
I know it will sound rude - but if he is so much younger, and it seems with behavioural/social issues, how will he fit into a workplace environment? A younger-than-average person will usually have difficulty fitting in, what more one with such issues? People may be hired (arguably) based on qualifications, but unless they work pretty much isolated, they need to be able to fit in and work with others. Personally, I don't see starting work early as an advantage, especially for someone with behavioural issues. My older daughter (21 yo) had her first proper part-time job recently, with a sympathetic boss, and it went well. But I can't see that she would have been able to do it 4 years ago. Not because she wouldn't have been intellectually up to it (it was an admin job with simple duties), but because she would probably have had difficulties with understanding how to interact with colleagues, coping with hierarchy, bureaucracy etc. It's not only about brain power.at 18 year old, in Sg, likely that a student is studying inside an A-level Junior College or polytechnic. By the time they graduate from university (minimum 3 years later, athough some uni courses are 4 or 5 years), likely to be around 23 years old.
for Pam's son who graduate at age 18 : that means he is able to enter work force earlier, by around 4 or 5 years earlier, compared to his peers, born in the same year as him. -
Pam’s children (and her grandchildren and great grandchildren) do not need to work at all considering Pam’s wealth. So, the factors that Pam need to consider when making decisions on her children’s education path are different from ours.
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Slightly OT, but i feel if there is a big enough gap between the individual and surrounding people, forcing the person to adjust is very damaging to the psyche - it is as good as saying that person is mad or crazy. Depression is a very real danger and it does happen. In such situations, it is important to take steps to remove the child from the environment.
There are many individuals who don’t fit into ‘normal’ and they will find their own ‘tribe’ as they get older. But younger children do not have that mobility and parents sometimes need to step in before they get too damaged.
Anyway in the write up, it seems that the latest psychologist says he has been misdiagnosed all these years.
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