All about Cancer
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starlight1968sg:
What is the purpose of life?
You never study enough lor.
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ngl2010:
I encourage DH to remarry if I pass away earlier than him. I have even told DS to support his father to remarry if I die first. But I have a condition. DH can only remarry after I pass away at least 1 year. I feel if he remarries within 1 year, it means he doesn't love me enough and/or I am insignificant to him and/or he does not respect me enough to even wait for 1 year (I am not even asking him to wait for too long. Isn't 1 year reasonable?) and/or he can't wait to get rid of me. An unembalmed adult normally takes eight to twelve years to decompose to a skeleton. I am only asking for 1 year. Is it too much to wait for 1 year?
Anyway, each person has its own opinion and value. To each his own.
never really gave it a thought..if to think it now..I hope dh can just have a woman outside when the kids still young..I dont want my kids to need to 'accept' another situation :sad:
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ngl2010:
I don't really expect any particular time period. I also encourage my husband to remarry if he finds someone else he wants to marry if I go first. Another way to look at a quick remarriage is that he must have appreciated married life so much that he wants that again, so I must have done something right.I encourage DH to remarry if I pass away earlier than him. I have even told DS to support his father to remarry if I die first. But I have a condition. DH can only remarry after I pass away at least 1 year. I feel if he remarries within 1 year, it means he doesn't love me enough and/or I am insignificant to him and/or he does not respect me enough to even wait for 1 year (I am not even asking him to wait for too long. Isn't 1 year reasonable?) and/or he can't wait to get rid of me. An unembalmed adult normally takes eight to twelve years to decompose to a skeleton. I am only asking for 1 year. Is it too much to wait for 1 year?
Anyway, each person has its own opinion and value. To each his own. -
ChiefKiasu:
My FIL passed away due to lung cancer at 69 (he was a healthy non-smoker who liked to walk in the nearby garden almost everyday). The first cycle of treatment he was still upbeat, went through all sessions, maintained positive mood and made sure he had a healthy diet. When he relapsed about 1 year later, he was put on a stronger course, and this time he went weak and lost his taste of food. After a few months, he decided to stop all therapy, stayed at home and not see a doctor at all. He wanted quality of life in whatever remaining time he had. But he deteriorated quickly (went very thin), and within 2-3 months, he’s gone.... :sad:
A very sad story. I can imagine how devastated his parents would be. When life is on a counter it changes a person's perspective. I had an auntie who had terminal stomach cancer who decided to stay home to meet her end. I was shocked by how thin she was but was comforted by her seeming acceptance of her fate. -
MrsKiasu:
never really gave it a thought..if to think it now..I hope dh can just have a woman outside when the kids still young..I dont want my kids to need to 'accept' another situation :sad:
My kids are grown now, but when I was thinking of this in earlier years, I decided that I would trust my husband not to choose someone who would not care for our kids. Not all step-mothers are evil and cruel; I know a few who love their step-kids and are loved in return. -
I never thought women are so 大方
Personally, I don't think I'll remarry. Love is what brought us together and remarrying just makes a joke of the years we spend in our marriage. -
I won’t bother whether dh remarry
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ChiefKiasu:
chief, you are such a good husband!I never thought women are so 大方
Personally, I don't think I'll remarry. Love is what brought us together and remarrying just makes a joke of the years we spend in our marriage. -
starlight1968sg:
I won’t bother whether dh remarry
I won’t bother too. -
The two re-marry cases I mentioned earlier.
The female married her husband’s best friend. It went something like husband was battling cancer for a few years. During those few years, this best friend helped in whatever he could for the family (fetching and sending kids to schools, etc). Woman and husband’s best friend took good care of her husband till the very end. If I remember correctly, the husband ‘entrusted’ his family to his best friend at his last moment (sort of 托孤）.
The male friend’s wife also battling with lung cancer for a few years before passing on. He took very good care of her during those few years (went for a final cruise with all the chemo drugs along with the kids). He lost maybe 10+ kgs over those years and looked underweight and haggard (and now start to be ‘rounded’ again).
Never easy for these caregivers of cancer patients.
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