All About Parenting Teenagers
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CarenL:
Teenagers are not easy to manage but I think if they can feel your genuine concern over them (not just as a mother/father figure waiting to find fault with them) they will open up to you and treat you as a friend. I have definitely seen a lot of these in my friends' parents when I was growing up and the kids are happier and willing to share everything with their parents without feeling the need to hide things because their parents focus on their feelings and solutions rather than just the problems.
Cannot emphasise this enough. The most compliant teens I've met are those who trust the adults in their lives, and vice versa. Trust goes both ways, so for your child to come clean with you, you'll also have to be transparent with them.
On the other hand, to play devil's advocate for a bit, one still needs to draw the line between \"friend\" and \"authority figure\". On a sub-conscious level, children and teens still recognise that there is a need for authority figures in their life.
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Rachel572,I think that you are absolutely right. I am acting more like a friend to my kids and less with authority like a parent.I am trying to develop this bond that we can discuss openly any issue.They are so sensitive and insecure during this period of time,and need so much attention and support
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How to help a P6 boy, who has been lying and running away from home. He does not speak up when being asked.
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Dear Parents,
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Funz\" post_id=\"1844485\" time=\"1524621020\" user_id=\"6230:
I will say that teens these days, in some ways they are less mature than us when we were at that age but in others, they are ahead of us when we were their age.
I do agree on this.......not very mature & yet more ahead than us in terms of technology, more open-minded too -
kimmy4\" post_id=\"1905498\" time=\"1554708741\" user_id=\"165797:
This is so true.. I agree 100%. They're also less responsible when it comes to some things.. and more on self love than caring for others.. That's what I noticed with a few.
I give you an example, true story
Saturday night i changed a fluorescent lamp....
Sunday the lamp not working, my son informed me of the matter, then just walked away...I immediately tell my mum-in-law (who is just beside me, when i repairing the lamp) that nowadays young children no longer has the responsibility sense anymore.
Children now just want convenience, they don't care about others.
Self-love is nice word to use, self-centred is more of the harsh & yet hard truth. But this is true though -
Therefore, now i hack care my son already…
I now act this way…tell him already, he don’t want to listen is his problem, not my problem.
He "bang wall" on things he encounter, let him wake up his idea…have to let him know things are not as simple as it is -
It’s a very sensitive age where they are going through a lot of things and finding themselves.
Sometimes it’s quite hard to talk to them… -
Teenagers nowadays have the YOLO (you only live once) mindset. Therefore they will just anyhow chiong whatever things they wanna try.
Not hard to talk to them, main issue is "are they able to understand what adults are trying to explain" -
foosoomin\" post_id=\"1905863\" time=\"1554879407\" user_id=\"136180:
I am all about trying new things. But within certain boundaries e.g. no drugs, etc. And I remind my son that the correct term is not YOLO but YODO (you only die once).
Teenagers nowadays have the YOLO (you only live once) mindset. Therefore they will just anyhow chiong whatever things they wanna try.
Not hard to talk to them, main issue is \"are they able to understand what adults are trying to explain\"
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