2019 PSLE Discussions and Strategies (Children born in 2007)

[jedamum]

Bochapmum3\" post_id=\"1947071\" time=\"1574090746\" user_id=\"167967:

Anyone thinking of only asking the daddy accompany child? Usually they are the calmer ones right? From dc’s feedback, already know that cannot expect too much. Yet, what if it is much worse than expected..? How should we react?

I didn't accompany ds1 during his results release. Because i didn't want my instant reaction to affect him. The dad updated me and i adjusted my moods as essentially this milestone was reached and time to move on. So for ds2, only his dad went with him too. I met up with them later at the restaurant for celebration. (both dsa-ed)

[phtthp]

Bochapmum3\" post_id=\"1947071\" time=\"1574090746\" user_id=\"167967:

Anyone thinking of only asking the daddy accompany child? Usually they are the calmer ones right? From dc’s feedback, already know that cannot expect too much. Yet, what if it is much worse than expected..? How should we react?

Hello bochapmum3,


Actually, no need 2 parents to accompany kid. Just 1 parent will do, if the other parent is not free, or not easy to apply leave

Just collect the Psle results slip, go back to the car, then open up the file.

If child do well, can celebrate with your family later on, at high tea or dinner at night.

If child did not do well, still must say positive words to encourage your child, because the child had already put in a lot of effort during the long, ardous journey of Psle preparation this year (2019) since January for 9 months , had done his (her) best. It is the effort and the journey that counts more, so must still praise your child, for the effort that had been put in. Don't just look at the end result only (Tscore). As long as your child already done his (her) best, accept it and move on. Anyway, this 3-digit number, doesn't define your child. Based on the Tscore, choose the 6 schools accordingly. Once enter Secondary school, people can't be bothered with this T-score anymore. After step into Secondary school, or when your child grow up into working world, society to work next time, nobody will ask u for your T-score. That's why this 3-digit number doesn't define your child. Once step into Secondary school, everything gets reset
back to base zero, start another new journey, afresh.

Btw, if your child had already accepted DSA offer, come what may, can't take part in S1 posting anymore.
If receive good Tscore, like that lor.
If Tscore unexpected, also like that lor, because u cannot change school, after accepted DSA offer.

[Kialoukui]

Just wondering if Singapore is the only country in the world having PSLE (Tscore) and scare the hell out of every child and parents each year?

[phtthp]

Kialoukui\" post_id=\"1947081\" time=\"1574097451\" user_id=\"182021:

Just wondering if Singapore is the only country in the world having PSLE (Tscore) and scare the hell out of every child and parents each year?

This T-score system is not so worrying, because it still go (operate) by merit, ie. Whoever have a higher T-score with decimal points trailing behind, get to enter the Secondary school first before the rest, which is very fair

It is the 2021 new AL system, where ranking of your 6 choiced-schools come into play, that become tricky and headache. Some more, may encounter computer balloting

[Kialoukui]

phtthp\" post_id=\"1947084\" time=\"1574099877\" user_id=\"35251:

Kialoukui\" post_id=\"1947081\" time=\"1574097451\" user_id=\"182021:

Just wondering if Singapore is the only country in the world having PSLE (Tscore) and scare the hell out of every child and parents each year?

This T-score system is not so worrying, because it still go (operate) by merit, ie. Whoever have a higher T-score with decimal points trailing behind, get to enter the Secondary school first before the rest, which is very fair

It is the 2021 new AL system, where ranking of your 6 choiced-schools come into play, that become tricky and headache. Some more, may encounter computer balloting

My Guess the New AL system is only a score for the public. (To Discourage academic comparisons). As for Secondary school posting, MOE has the raw marks, they can convert it to whatever decimal points for ranking, and use them for posting behind the scene without our knowledge.

[phtthp]

jedamum\" post_id=\"1947076\" time=\"1574093685\" user_id=\"159:

Bochapmum3\" post_id=\"1947071\" time=\"1574090746\" user_id=\"167967:

Anyone thinking of only asking the daddy accompany child? Usually they are the calmer ones right? From dc’s feedback, already know that cannot expect too much. Yet, what if it is much worse than expected..? How should we react?

I didn't accompany ds1 during his results release. Because i didn't want my instant reaction to affect him. The dad updated me and i adjusted my moods as essentially this milestone was reached and time to move on. So for ds2, only his dad went with him too. I met up with them later at the restaurant for celebration. (both dsa-ed)

Hi Jedamum,

For your 2 sons last time, since already accepted DSA offer, the school already been fixed, can't change. Regardless how the results turn out, already got a Secondary school allocated (been set) for your sons. Already know which school they are going to, can't change

Last night, got a friend whatsapp me 1.45 am, said can't sleep, worrying about this Thurs results

For those on Wait-list (2 group, out here)

- one group worrying, that their WL not getting converted this Thur (21 Nov), as they desperately want it to be converted


- another group accepted WL reluctantly, and if their WL become successfully converted, but if their Tscore in the end turn out to be much better than expected, can enable them to actually enter into a better school than their DSA WL-converted school, :stupid: also can't be helped.

[zac's mum]

sembgal\" post_id=\"1947073\" time=\"1574091082\" user_id=\"5559:

Both parents will accompany the PSLE child to school by default. But some children will tell the parents not to follow them to collect results. This is one important milestone so why would some children want their parents not to turn up in school on 21/11?

Because those some children are terrified of the parent’s reaction??

If my child told me that, I’d drop him off and give him the privacy to “process” his own results without me hovering & breathing down his neck to find out. Call me when you’re ready and calm enough to see me again.

Child still needs the assurance that you will support him or her *no matter what*. I don’t think parents have a “right” to insist to be there. They are at the age of growing independence after all.

Imagine if you were collecting your own Masters or adult postgrad degree, that you have sacrificed so much time and effort for, while juggling kids and full time job...some people may want to open the results alone in privacy first, then later disclose to their spouse and later the kids. After they go though the emotional rollercoaster in privacy first. Introverts prefer to process this way. Not everyone is an extrovert and likes to share their emotions & thought process with everybody in the open.

[MerlionInGermany]

For graduation day, both parents went because it was a big thing. Most of the kids I saw, both parents went, some had grandparents also. For PSLE results day, only I went, and I saw for most of the kids, they had only one parent present. Didnt make sense for both parents to take leave just to collect results. I guess it depends on your family? If results are a big thing, everyone would want to be there. One of our classmates was even on vacation.


And from what I observed, everyone looked at their results slip and tore open the eligibility letter on the spot, right after collecting from the teacher at the table (ours was given out in the school hall). Then after everyone in our class had collected the results, they went their teacher and principal to take photos…then they stayed back in the hall and chatted about which schools to pick, which movie to watch, and the parents went home with the results slip and stuff, while the kids went out for movies. There was no family celebration lunch/ dinner or whatsoever. Business as usual as the next day was a normal working day also.

[MrsKiasu]

Bochapmum3\" post_id=\"1947071\" time=\"1574090746\" user_id=\"167967:

Anyone thinking of only asking the daddy accompany child? Usually they are the calmer ones right? From dc’s feedback, already know that cannot expect too much. Yet, what if it is much worse than expected..? How should we react?

If we think we cannot remain calm/unable to mask disappointment, imho better not tag along.. if we feel sad I believe our kid will be same and more than us coz it is them who put in all the efforts. Maybe like sembgal says, better lower our expectations? I will try to talk to dd too.. good or no good results just do a small celebration with them, if possible?.. Before the weekend, I proposed to order a cake for this Thurs but dd dont seem to take it seriously..maybe just bring her out to eat something she likes on that day then..

[mengsan]

Just ask the child whether he wants dad and mum to be there, no need second guess.


Yes PSLE results will be forgotten soon, but your path in life (Path is not the end point) is somehow determined based on the 3 digit number, The company that you will hv for your growing teens years will somehow shape your character as kids spend a lot of time in schools, how desirable your friends that you mix with. The starting point always affect the life path how difficult/easy life will be, and how much efforts required to achieve the same outcome (eg may need part time study and working to get to same education level)