Me Time!

[MrsKiasu]

slmkhoo\" post_id=\"1950845\" time=\"1575157303\" user_id=\"28674:

jedamum\" post_id=\"1950773\" time=\"1575106387\" user_id=\"159:

...But mainly, they need to be able to do their own character judgement and be a brave whistle blower...

I agree with this. And the age when they are able to do this reliably varies from child to child. It's best to be watchful earlier until you have confidence in your child's judgement. But it also means parents need to be open to listen to the child's stories or they will simply hide what they are doing, and you have no means to assess how good their judgement is.

I have no confidence yet..

[phtthp]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1950868\" time=\"1575169306\" user_id=\"43981:

so far the project works, they were done through phone calls, emails, meetings after cca/supp class and each got a section to do with WhatsApp as communication tool which I find, very good. Just hope with the teammates for future proj, they able do the same too.

MKS, your daughter's IP Secondary school is All-girls school, not so bad bec at least, is the same gender

for those who joined co-ed IP school, will be worrying if inside the same project team, got mixed gender and if really got to meet up somewhere, where to go ? can't be going to the boy's house ? at the same time, the boy's parents also don't want their son to go to a girl's classmate house. laughingcat, Esteema kids are All Boys school, not so bad

so i wonder students from co-ed IP schools like (NJC, TJC, River Valley High, Dunman High, etc), where do they meet up for group discussion meeting, if cannot meet inside school compound ?

[lee_yl]

phtthp\" post_id=\"1950964\" time=\"1575214625\" user_id=\"35251:

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1950868\" time=\"1575169306\" user_id=\"43981:

so far the project works, they were done through phone calls, emails, meetings after cca/supp class and each got a section to do with WhatsApp as communication tool which I find, very good. Just hope with the teammates for future proj, they able do the same too.

MKS, your daughter's IP Secondary school is All-girls school, not so bad bec at least, is the same gender

for those who joined co-ed IP school, will be worrying if inside the same project team, got mixed gender and if really got to meet up somewhere, where to go ? can't be going to the boy's house ? at the same time, the boy's parents also don't want their son to go to a girl's classmate house. So far, laughingcat, Esteema kids are All Boys school, not so bad

so i wonder students from co-ed IP schools like (NJC, TJC, River Valley High, Dunman High, etc), where do they meet up for group discussion meeting, if cannot meet inside school compound ?

Girls must learn to protect themselves. Boys must be taught what are the do’s and don’ts. My guess is, the chance of a student from co-Ed school to be attached is higher than that for a student from single-Ed school?

DH shared after attending a social gathering where most attendees were from Hwa Chong and are now HCI parents, hearsay that some HCI parents are trying hard to matchmake their sons with NYGH girls by “organizing social events” for the boys and girls from both schools.

Ok on one hand, we do not want our children to be involved in BGR too early, on the other hand, we also do not wish to see our kids being left on the shelves... Being a parent is not easy.

[Estéema]

Girls school also hv to guide our kids. My gff daughter was always low self-esteem & feeling unable to be accepted by peers nor get herself popular enuf to be accepted or selected to be in some teams. She does hv image problem bcoz of her size. Little did my gff realize she ended up having her girl incline to stick to one peer & ended up like the other - both took on a man-woman identity.


Guess we’ve to keep our eyes, ears & heart in tune with our girls. Care for their 1st year adjustments in the new sec sch, care for their project needs (but do not over care & let them start making their own choices/perceived their choices after yr input), help yr girl to build good relationships (this my BIL taught me as he was very involved in encouraging his girls to bring her friends over whenever he hv some freebie leftovers fr his dental conferences & chat with his girls’ peers). This way, he gets to know the diff characters who are his girls’ pals & what they like or do apart fr Studies/projects.

I don’t hv dental freebies, but I bake rather awesome fondant cakes & offer doing their bday cakes or their figurines toppers.

Do sth small to help yr girl lor. Once u see sth positive going, step back quickly & let yr girl take ownership. See her coming back to you to say how she’s enjoying some attention when she offer ideas for her projects or which peer working in syn with her, etc. Help her seed the relationship but let her nurture her workmates for serious work once things take off. Reason why don’t overdo coz teens do not like us meddling, want to be seen they’re capable to alr frds & awesome in some abilities of their own (not borrowed fr mama).

Also, offer to send them for movies or drive them to some place they need to get their materials for projects, … but not join them for movie (giving them space & chance to develop bonding w/o dome adults ard, ooops!), etc

[phtthp]

Another challenge is,

your IP project group team mates may be staying in Woodlands, Sembawang, Yishun, Sengkang, Hougang, Pasir Ris, Bedok, Jurong, Clementi, various part of Sg : not easy to meet up

[MrsKiasu]

lee_yl\" post_id=\"1950966\" time=\"1575216582\" user_id=\"17023:

phtthp\" post_id=\"1950964\" time=\"1575214625\" user_id=\"35251:

[quote=MrsKiasu post_id=1950868 time=1575169306 user_id=43981]
so far the project works, they were done through phone calls, emails, meetings after cca/supp class and each got a section to do with WhatsApp as communication tool which I find, very good. Just hope with the teammates for future proj, they able do the same too.

MKS, your daughter's IP Secondary school is All-girls school, not so bad bec at least, is the same gender

for those who joined co-ed IP school, will be worrying if inside the same project team, got mixed gender and if really got to meet up somewhere, where to go ? can't be going to the boy's house ? at the same time, the boy's parents also don't want their son to go to a girl's classmate house. So far, laughingcat, Esteema kids are All Boys school, not so bad

so i wonder students from co-ed IP schools like (NJC, TJC, River Valley High, Dunman High, etc), where do they meet up for group discussion meeting, if cannot meet inside school compound ?

Girls must learn to protect themselves. Boys must be taught what are the do’s and don’ts. My guess is, the chance of a student from co-Ed school to be attached is higher than that for a student from single-Ed school?

DH shared after attending a social gathering where most attendees were from Hwa Chong and are now HCI parents, hearsay that some HCI parents are trying hard to matchmake their sons with NYGH girls by “organizing social events” for the boys and girls from both schools.

Ok on one hand, we do not want our children to be involved in BGR too early, on the other hand, we also do not wish to see our kids being left on the shelves... Being a parent is not easy.[/quote]If parents know each other, I find not a bad idea to chope..maybe after secondary level better?

[MrsKiasu]

phtthp\" post_id=\"1950972\" time=\"1575217709\" user_id=\"35251:

Another challenge is,
your IP project group team mates may be staying in Woodlands, Sembawang, Yishun, Sengkang, Hougang, Pasir Ris, Bedok, Jurong, Clementi, various part of Sg : not easy to meet up

meet up in school the best to me, maybe after school?

[sharonkhoo]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1950986\" time=\"1575240830\" user_id=\"43981:

phtthp\" post_id=\"1950972\" time=\"1575217709\" user_id=\"35251:

Another challenge is,
your IP project group team mates may be staying in Woodlands, Sembawang, Yishun, Sengkang, Hougang, Pasir Ris, Bedok, Jurong, Clementi, various part of Sg : not easy to meet up

meet up in school the best to me, maybe after school?

That's why \"meeting\" online is a good way if they can't meet in school. My daughters have had many project meetings that way.

[MrsKiasu]

slmkhoo\" post_id=\"1950987\" time=\"1575242249\" user_id=\"28674:

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1950986\" time=\"1575240830\" user_id=\"43981:

[quote=phtthp post_id=1950972 time=1575217709 user_id=35251]Another challenge is,
your IP project group team mates may be staying in Woodlands, Sembawang, Yishun, Sengkang, Hougang, Pasir Ris, Bedok, Jurong, Clementi, various part of Sg : not easy to meet up

meet up in school the best to me, maybe after school?

That's why \"meeting\" online is a good way if they can't meet in school. My daughters have had many project meetings that way.[/quote]Yeah meeting 'online' is good too. Glad to hear that secondary students could do that on many projects..

[Estéema]

I’m just relieved I don’t hv to deal with daugter’s Proj work and it wasn’t required then for online work. Just thankful we’ve always had the desktop at a study corner at far end of living area and we had our rules to use laptop at that hot area with a huge desk. Can’t imagine if I had a special studyroom, they can close/lock door and I won’t know what online bz they get hook up to.


When my young man started sec 1, we noticed the habit of using ear piece. I was strict not allowing it for various reasons - limit letting him burst his eardrum and not developing poor habits as I’ve seen young fellows crossing roads w/o noticing other vehicles filtering fr sideroads & not able to hear cars horning. The benefit was when he had to do grp proj online as one of his mates connect in from his vacation overseas, you can hear the chatting fr the phone & you know who is leading the proj and who are the slackers and even who is struggling to be heard.