All About Parenting Teenagers

[SanFran]

Thank you slmkhoo!

[kikismom]

Hi Parents


I am very desperate. I have a 14 years old son. He is getting out of hand. During HBL, he will on the games screen and starting playing and he is addicted to his hp and laptop. His results dropped drastically. I took away the laptop and he threatened to jump off the building. We need to activate police and civial defense to bring him down and he was send to IMH. He refused to any counselling and instead he said that we are abnormal parents and we are the one need counselling. Everyday we are living in a struggling mode as anytime he will go crazy and refused to go school. He no longer respect and listen to us. Third party advised and talk to him but in vain. Do you think I should just withdraw him from school?

[sharonkhoo]

kikismom\" post_id=\"2038366\" time=\"1631850080\" user_id=\"34955:

Hi Parents

I am very desperate. I have a 14 years old son. He is getting out of hand. During HBL, he will on the games screen and starting playing and he is addicted to his hp and laptop. His results dropped drastically. I took away the laptop and he threatened to jump off the building. We need to activate police and civial defense to bring him down and he was send to IMH. He refused to any counselling and instead he said that we are abnormal parents and we are the one need counselling. Everyday we are living in a struggling mode as anytime he will go crazy and refused to go school. He no longer respect and listen to us. Third party advised and talk to him but in vain. Do you think I should just withdraw him from school?

You need to convince him (somehow) that he needs counselling and will have to change his ways. If you can't get through, maybe someone else - relative, teacher, sensible older friend? You might withdraw him from school temporarily, but what will he do in the meantime? Can you get him to work or so something other than gaming? If he goes back to his gaming again, that isn't going to help. I don't know what IMH or counsellors can advise, but he can't be allowed to do what he likes and stop schooling. It will seem that he has \"won\".

[Amansinghh]

the same way to treate parents, minimize their emotion of period of rebelling

[newbieks]

Hi,


My 15 year old girl seems to be constantly tired, especially these few weeks and seem to be getting worse, to the extent that when she sit down at her study table after school she will just put her head on the table and sleep. No doubt school hours has been longer this year and all along she hasn’t been a very focused person when doing work, I am getting increasingly concerned as I have read about thyroid problems in teenage girls causing extreme tiredness and inability to focus…

[sharonkhoo]

newbieks\" post_id=\"2058996\" time=\"1645113233\" user_id=\"178749:

Hi,

My 15 year old girl seems to be constantly tired, especially these few weeks and seem to be getting worse, to the extent that when she sit down at her study table after school she will just put her head on the table and sleep. No doubt school hours has been longer this year and all along she hasn’t been a very focused person when doing work, I am getting increasingly concerned as I have read about thyroid problems in teenage girls causing extreme tiredness and inability to focus…

Sometimes stress can lead to extreme fatigue - maybe talk to her casually and see if there are any possible stressors such as workload, the need to focus closely etc, or whether there could be other causes (social?). If you think there could be a physical cause, take her to your GP and ask for a checkup. If necessary, they can order blood tests for an initial screening, and can manage simple cases as well.

[newbieks]

slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2059020\" time=\"1645143250\" user_id=\"28674:

Sometimes stress can lead to extreme fatigue - maybe talk to her casually and see if there are any possible stressors such as workload, the need to focus closely etc, or whether there could be other causes (social?). If you think there could be a physical cause, take her to your GP and ask for a checkup. If necessary, they can order blood tests for an initial screening, and can manage simple cases as well.

Thanks...will continue to monitor and see if more sleep can improve the situation

[sushi88]

newbieks\" post_id=\"2058996\" time=\"1645113233\" user_id=\"178749:

Hi,

My 15 year old girl seems to be constantly tired, especially these few weeks and seem to be getting worse, to the extent that when she sit down at her study table after school she will just put her head on the table and sleep. No doubt school hours has been longer this year and all along she hasn’t been a very focused person when doing work, I am getting increasingly concerned as I have read about thyroid problems in teenage girls causing extreme tiredness and inability to focus…

BRANDS' essence of chicken!!! It really helps! FUSS too! Fuss over her and show lots of TLC by making lots of good food for her. Try these first before going into the clinical diagnosis. Sometimes kids just need a LIFT UP, even adults!

[Zeal mummy]

newbieks\" post_id=\"2058996\" time=\"1645113233\" user_id=\"178749:

Hi,

My 15 year old girl seems to be constantly tired, especially these few weeks and seem to be getting worse, to the extent that when she sit down at her study table after school she will just put her head on the table and sleep. No doubt school hours has been longer this year and all along she hasn’t been a very focused person when doing work, I am getting increasingly concerned as I have read about thyroid problems in teenage girls causing extreme tiredness and inability to focus…

It is actually quite common for secondary school kids to feel tired and doze off easily. Considering the amount of work they have and the little time they have to sleep.. if there isn’t significant changes, I wouldn’t be too worried. Perhaps it is exam stress, or she started playing a new game. Both are exhausting and time consuming.

If you have strong suspicion, can bring her for a simple blood test at the clinic. For the peace of mind.

[jiondene537]

I have 3 kids, with the first one I was so strict and always asking for results (not matter what he did), he is a good 21 old guy now but he is shy and insecure.


With my second daughter, (only one year younger ) I gradually changed to be more open to her perspective, she is a 20 years old girl who isn’t shy but she is difficult to handle (very smart but explosive).

With my 16 years old 3rd daughter, I become less strict, more understanding, a lot of communication, we decide what is right and what is wrong together (not implying that I know everything because I don’t) and is working pretty good, she is so smart, educated, respectful and committed to everything she does pursuing knowledge for the joy of knowing.