$350k for 1 child?
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talking about "Giving Tree", i would like to share two real "giving tree" here: one is a giving tree of a mother, and the other is a giving tree of a child:
1)
one man i know for more than 20 yrs married and migrated to Canada. Intitially it took more than 9 mths for him to land a job in the new country, his parents kept on remitting money to support him. later on they also joined the man’s family to take care of the two babies from their births for more than 5 yrs… to suport them to buy property in Canada, the parents sold their own local property!.. in the end, the 忘恩负义 man and his wife kena kicked out the old parents who later on were helped by local Chinese community to find a place to live and the parents missed the two kids very much but their son forbid them to visit their grandchildren…
2)
one man a 24 孝, kept on giving whatever he had to his No. 1 Mother In the World since he was a freshman in U. He was awarded overseas scholarship. After grad, he kena 省吃检用 gave 2/3 of his earning to his mother and his sister. His sister 大手大脚 type, her shoes cost a few hundred $, her cloth never below $100… When the man married, his ring was only $10 but when his sister married, his mother asked for over $2k necklace as gift…the man’s wife quarell a lot with him about the money issue… but the man is very stubborn and kept on saying his mother is the No One Mother In the World so he should repay his mother unconditionally… -
tamarind:
that looks a bit 夸张
I agree with you. I do hope to set good examples for my kids
When I give allowance to my mother, I purposely let me kids see me handing over the money to my mother This is to teach them that children should support their parents when they grow up. They may not turn out the way I hope for in the future, but I must at least try to teach them. -
HyperKiasu:
I expected this type of response
that looks a bit 夸张tamarind:
I agree with you. I do hope to set good examples for my kids
When I give allowance to my mother, I purposely let me kids see me handing over the money to my mother This is to teach them that children should support their parents when they grow up. They may not turn out the way I hope for in the future, but I must at least try to teach them. Everyone has his/her own parenting style, I don't expect anyone to approve of my style
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HyperKiasu:
There is nothing wrong with the eastern feeling of being upset to be left in an old folks home.
i dunt agree again
i dun think westerns may never see their children again when children are grownup. even so, they won't feel too much disheartened.....
THe whole culture value system differs from ours. and they dun think there is anything wrong to spend their last days in old folks home.
only eastern feel upset about this....
The fact is many western ppl when they are getting old, they are still very active and very happy and still full of life like young kids !!
their old folks home is much better than what u have seen here !!
Believe me, you don't want to live your last days in an old folks home in Singapore. That is why so many maids are employed to take care of the elderly here, so that the elderly can grow old with dignity and be with their families to the end of their days. -
tamarind:
I expected this type of response
that looks a bit 夸张HyperKiasu:
[quote=\"tamarind\"]
I agree with you. I do hope to set good examples for my kids
When I give allowance to my mother, I purposely let me kids see me handing over the money to my mother This is to teach them that children should support their parents when they grow up. They may not turn out the way I hope for in the future, but I must at least try to teach them. Everyone has his/her own parenting style, I don't expect anyone to approve of my style [/quote]actually i felt 孝 should not measured by number....
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tamarind:
dear Tam,
There is nothing wrong with the eastern feeling of being upset to be left in an old folks home.HyperKiasu:
i dunt agree again
i dun think westerns may never see their children again when children are grownup. even so, they won't feel too much disheartened.....
THe whole culture value system differs from ours. and they dun think there is anything wrong to spend their last days in old folks home.
only eastern feel upset about this....
The fact is many western ppl when they are getting old, they are still very active and very happy and still full of life like young kids !!
their old folks home is much better than what u have seen here !!
Believe me, you don't want to live your last days in an old folks home in Singapore. That is why so many maids are employed to take care of the elderly here, so that the elderly can grow old with dignity and be with their families to the end of their days.
why do we differ so much in this forum :?
on the contrary, i want to live in the old folk home when i am getting old...
i m not kidding, i m serious....
i dun want to be a burden to my children same as i dun want my children to be my burden when they reach 18....
that is why i want my kids to learn to live independently.... -
tamarind:
then anything wrong with being independent?There is nothing wrong with the eastern feeling of being upset to be left in an old folks home.
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HyperKiasu:
In that case, then I'm worse
that looks a bit 夸张tamarind:
I agree with you. I do hope to set good examples for my kids
When I give allowance to my mother, I purposely let me kids see me handing over the money to my mother This is to teach them that children should support their parents when they grow up. They may not turn out the way I hope for in the future, but I must at least try to teach them. cos I purposely hand over my monthly allowance to my ds so that he can give to my mum. Much to the amusement of my mum :lol:
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markfch:
In that case, then I'm worse
that looks a bit 夸张HyperKiasu:
[quote=\"tamarind\"]
I agree with you. I do hope to set good examples for my kids
When I give allowance to my mother, I purposely let me kids see me handing over the money to my mother This is to teach them that children should support their parents when they grow up. They may not turn out the way I hope for in the future, but I must at least try to teach them. cos I purposely hand over my monthly allowance to my ds so that he can give to my mum. Much to the amusement of my mum :lol:[/quote]mmmmm if the grandmum sacrificed much of her own time at their golden age taking care of the kids.....
no offense here:
Live together with parents can benefit the young couple more than benefit the old parents if there is no relationships issues ....
i have seen enough cases of old parents taking care of kids, saving a lot of cost for the whole family...
so giving old ppl allowance is nothing.... -
HyperKiasu:
You seem to insinuate that young couples give allowance to their parents only when they need their old folk's help? Hmm, interesting food for thought ....
mmmmm if the grandmum sacrificed much of her own time at their golden age taking care of the kids.....
no offense here:
Live together with parents can benefit the young couple more than benefit the old parents if there is no relationships issues ....
i have seen enough cases of old parents taking care of kids, saving a lot of cost for the whole family...
so giving old ppl allowance is nothing....
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