Me Time!

[MrsKiasu]

My children don’t have aspiration (yet) I feel. But to me is we try la to do in our best way at all stages in our lives. Like when you are student then it is to study ba (told my children multiple time just hope everything will go ok eventually lor).


Whatever jobs that results may bring them to…I will just hope they will develop passion on whatever they ended up studying/ doing and be happy about it…that’s what their parents do.

[MrsKiasu]

I think kids are still ‘searching’… esp. when the exposure is limited…like my dd…housewife was ever her ‘job/aspiration’ … then at one point asked me if it is like this always (i think abt being monotonous if I m not wrong)…then she says she doesn’t quite like it le.

[lee_yl]

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2092191\" time=\"1671086696\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2092191 time=1671086696 user_id=195250]
Why the kids want to become a doctor? To save life and cure patients who are suffering from illness? Even they cannot become a doctor finally because of exam results, they still can become a physical therapist, a nurse or radiation therapist, etc any jobs related to the medical industries. The most important part is : their jobs in anyway are still helping the patients.

Same for solicitors, if you want to uphold the justice, there are many jobs in judicial industries helping the victims.

We should also respect those sweep the roads because without them, our roads will be dirty.[/quote]

All good and well in an utopian society but we are living in the real world and reality bites.

I respect all jobs and I value everyone’s contributions but I am also realistic enough to know that life is very tough for the blue collar workers and lower skill workers.

So if given the choice, for a better future of my children, I (and many parents) choose to aim high so that they could have more options on how to live their lives. A solicitor who chooses to practise pro bono and not be a general counsel in a MNC has the freedom to live the life he wants while others may not even have the right to choose.

[MrsKiasu]

During our time..if you are about my age, we were considered 'quite' educated..bring it to today's world, we are really a very normal ones or maybe below average in terms of cert held..Not only comparing us with our next door home neighbours..you see so many 'international' level of people with 'international' level of qualifications nowadays. It may be more difficult to be at top level in a corporation for our future gen I feel but I may be wrong..personally I am at the pro side for parents to aim for our children to be better than us.. can push to max potential just push lor.. if cannot then it is fine too..we just need 1 job to feed us and family

[MrsKiasu]

Estéema\" post_id=\"2092187\" time=\"1671083054\" user_id=\"66413:

Might be 0.25. Best expected is a 0.5 increase. If 0.75 then stock mkt will shoot thro the roof. Don’t think FED will let that happen.

As little increase as possible..those with loan praying for it..today's sora rate is 1.6x.. maybe tomorrow will go up..it will be good if we could analyse it haha..

[Estéema]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2092212\" time=\"1671108353\" user_id=\"43981:

As little increase as possible..those with loan praying for it..today's sora rate is 1.6x.. maybe tomorrow will go up..it will be good if we could analyse it haha..

Inflation in both Europe & the US maybe going downwards, but every country’s economic situation is different. Also, our govt also need to balance local fiscal needs. Hope US companies will slow down in retrenching staff here & relieve price pressures do food supplies, commodities & daily necessities. Housing pressures is ano inflation indicator, which is less difficult to manage if our economy need more foreign talents with housing needs & theres hot money fr regional investors.

[starlight1968sg]

lee_yl\" post_id=\"2092210\" time=\"1671106410\" user_id=\"17023:

I respect all jobs and I value everyone’s contributions but I am also realistic enough to know that life is very tough for the blue collar workers and lower skill workers.

Agree esp with prices of almost everything hv gone up.
Bus/train fares will be increased from 26 Dec (?). GST will be up to 8% from 7% from 1 Jan 2023 etc. Despite the lower income or needy folk can receive various subsidies/handouts from govt, it is always better to be indept than relying or depending on others.

It is always better to be able to give than waiting to receive.

[Liew Nga Wing]

lee_yl\" post_id=\"2092210\" time=\"1671106410\" user_id=\"17023:

All good and well in an utopian society but we are living in the real world and reality bites.

I respect all jobs and I value everyone’s contributions but I am also realistic enough to know that life is very tough for the blue collar workers and lower skill workers.

So if given the choice, for a better future of my children, I (and many parents) choose to aim high so that they could have more options on how to live their lives. A solicitor who chooses to practise pro bono and not be a general counsel in a MNC has the freedom to live the life he wants while others may not even have the right to choose.

Is the life for blue collar workers and low skill workers really tough? I and DH are one of them but our life is not tough. :scratchhead: Of course, we are not stay in condominium and travel to Europe every year or going to dine in 5 Star Hotel every weekend. But we are happy and our life is good.

It seems that you still don't get my point. I am not saying that kids no need to study hard and struggle for excellent academic achievement. I want to state is the \"attitude or 心态\" towards study. If one going to school is to equip himself/herself with knowledge so that he or she can benefit the society and serve the country, then even he/she cannot get into the top schools or any professional field due to whatever reasons, they won't be sad and disappointed because they still can find other ways to serve the community. If one's aim for study is to climb up the ladders in society, earn lots of money so that can maintenance a high standard of living or some even just wanted to show others that they are superior to others....., then he/she will be under huge of pressure for studying under any type of education system because the desire for fame and wealth is uncontrolled.

[lee_yl]

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2092230\" time=\"1671153093\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2092230 time=1671153093 user_id=195250]
Is the life for blue collar workers and low skill workers really tough? I and DH are one of them but our life is not tough. :scratchhead: Of course, we are not stay in condominium and travel to Europe every year or going to dine in 5 Star Hotel every weekend. But we are happy and our life is good.

It seems that you still don't get my point. I am not saying that kids no need to study hard and struggle for excellent academic achievement. I want to state is the \"attitude or 心态\" towards study. If one going to school is to equip himself/herself with knowledge so that he or she can benefit the society and serve the country, then even he/she cannot get into the top schools or any professional field due to whatever reasons, they won't be sad and disappointed because they still can find other ways to serve the community. If one's aim for study is to climb up the ladders in society, earn lots of money so that can maintenance a high standard of living or some even just wanted to show others that they are superior to others....., then he/she will be under huge of pressure for studying under any type of education system because the desire for fame and wealth is uncontrolled.[/quote]

You have 佛性 but as mere mortals we are usually motivated by less lofty factors.

If you tell a PSLE kid, “you need to do well in your studies so next time you can be a 有用的人，to benefit the society and serve the country!”, think a 10yo or 12yo can understand and relate to that? What you have written sounds great on paper but how many kids can be motivated by acquiring this type of 心态？Or is it easier to motivate kids to work hard by telling them if they do well in PSLE, they can get into their dream school as the school has the coding/robotics CCA they like?

Honestly, I do not think a lot of teens are able to use as a key motivation factor the desire to climb corporate ladder to maintain a certain lifestyle to do well in exams.

Don’t mind me saying, the way you put it, it reminds me of my mother. My mum pushed me to study hard, bought assessment books for me and sent me to tuition, but now she asks me not to stress my kids to study hard. This is very typical of a grandparent’s mindset.

[Liew Nga Wing]

lee_yl\" post_id=\"2092239\" time=\"1671157102\" user_id=\"17023:

You have 佛性 but as mere mortals we are usually motivated by less lofty factors.

If you tell a PSLE kid, “you need to do well in your studies so next time you can be a 有用的人，to benefit the society and serve the country!”, think a 10yo or 12yo can understand and relate to that? What you have written sounds great on paper but how many kids can be motivated by acquiring this type of 心态？Or is it easier to motivate kids to work hard by telling them if they do well in PSLE, they can get into their dream school as the school has the coding/robotics CCA they like?

Honestly, I do not think a lot of teens are able to use as a key motivation factor the desire to climb corporate ladder to maintain a certain lifestyle to do well in exams.

Don’t mind me saying, the way you put it, it reminds me of my mother. My mum pushed me to study hard, bought assessment books for me and sent me to tuition, but now she asks me not to stress my kids to study hard. This is very typical of a grandparent’s mindset.

I and my DH have never pushed DS to study hard and force him to tuition. DS was interested in repairing electrical items when he was small and therefore he is now an Electrical Engineer.

How could you just jump to the conclusion that a 10 or 12 years old could not understand the important of benefit and serve his/her own country? If their parents are grassroots leaders and always doing volunteer work during weekend, then their kids may have the aspiration of serving the country.