Handling a primary one

[jedamum]

Snowy15:

Hi all,


I am trying to find ways to manage my primary one son as he seems to be rather stress with the school life? any advise on this?

Many thanks :?:

stress as in academic stress or friendship issues? or scare of teachers?

[Snowy15]

Hello,


He was at first stressed with friendship at the start but been able to overcome.

However, the stress in academic or the fear of teachers (especially this) worsen even though after half a year had gone....

:?:

Thanks

[jedamum]

some good tips here.

http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=10932&highlight=encouragement

high expectations of oneself and lack of self confidence may be some issues that you may need to deal with; maybe there is a significant event that trigger his fear of a particular teacher. encourage him to tell you stuff about sch on a daily basis.

[Snowy15]

Thanks for the good tips as below.


Guess not all kids are the same character, my older child was a little better to manage and thus this younger child pose a challenge to me..

also, how should i work with teachers on these, had spoken to teacher about losing stationery/file in school and at first afraid it may be some unusual thing as pre-school was alright.

teacher told my child not to tell me much as the teacher commented my feedback call to them is complain but i told teacher that i am trying to express my concern about their transition....?? :stupid: of me

thanks

[RRMummy]

Snowy15:

teacher told my child not to tell me much

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I would call up the teacher again to clarify and if can't work I will talk to principle.

[Snowy15]

Thanks, this thought did come to my mind at first, but was even of afraid that the teacher will bias against the kid but i am monitoring the situation and if things fall out, i guess i will call the teacher again


other than that, any other recommendations for me? :idea:

thanks

[jedamum]

Snowy15:

also, how should i work with teachers on these, had spoken to teacher about losing stationery/file in school and at first afraid it may be some unusual thing as pre-school was alright.

teacher told my child not to tell me much as the teacher commented my feedback call to them is complain but i told teacher that i am trying to express my concern about their transition....?? :stupid: of me

thanks

i guess for lost items, we can only inculcate sense of responsibilities at home - there are some discussion here - http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=11256&start=

for the few times that ds1 lost his books, i wrote it in the diary and told him to pass to his teacher to read if i need the teacher to help us search if she had left it out in the staffroom. i don't usually call.

teacher told your kid not to tell you much? then tell your kid not to tell the teacher that he told you anything.... in times like these, i will reassure my son that he has nothing to fear if he has not done anything wrong.

[Snowy15]

Thanks for your great advice.


All these post forums are indeed very practical and fruitful and will only to pick up some of those.

Cheers :celebrate:

[tankee]

Have you consider the remote possibility of he being "teased" in school since among other things, loosing files & stationaries?

[RRMummy]

Snowy15:

Thanks, this thought did come to my mind at first, but was even of afraid that the teacher will bias against the kid but i am monitoring the situation and if things fall out, i guess i will call the teacher again

I know what you mean. I had the same fear too.

I also monitored the situation. Just that at this age, the teachers are everything to them and any such comments is damaging and not appropriate IMHO. And like Jedamum said, I reasssured my child that she has nothing to be afraid off and tell her I'm happy she shares her experience with me. I also explained to her that by sharing with me, I can help her to analyze the situation as I am also an adult like her teacher. I do tell her that most times teachers may scold/punish becoz she did something wrong but still I would like to know and that I will not punish her again if she tells me.

But on hand, I will tackle the teacher by finding a chance to speak to her personally. I will thank the teacher for their kind attention and help in helping me monitor the situation. I will tell her how grateful I am that she keeps me updated on the situation as we mothers are keen to know how our babies are doing with all the new environment and responsibilities..

I would go along that line of reverse psychology.. if the teacher still the same (either bochap or pass such remarks) then I will go to principle to understand how what I should do to help my kid adjust. 3 chances max! :roll: