Handling a primary one

[tankee]

Have you consider the remote possibility of he being "teased" in school since among other things, loosing files & stationaries?

[RRMummy]

Snowy15:

Thanks, this thought did come to my mind at first, but was even of afraid that the teacher will bias against the kid but i am monitoring the situation and if things fall out, i guess i will call the teacher again

I know what you mean. I had the same fear too.

I also monitored the situation. Just that at this age, the teachers are everything to them and any such comments is damaging and not appropriate IMHO. And like Jedamum said, I reasssured my child that she has nothing to be afraid off and tell her I'm happy she shares her experience with me. I also explained to her that by sharing with me, I can help her to analyze the situation as I am also an adult like her teacher. I do tell her that most times teachers may scold/punish becoz she did something wrong but still I would like to know and that I will not punish her again if she tells me.

But on hand, I will tackle the teacher by finding a chance to speak to her personally. I will thank the teacher for their kind attention and help in helping me monitor the situation. I will tell her how grateful I am that she keeps me updated on the situation as we mothers are keen to know how our babies are doing with all the new environment and responsibilities..

I would go along that line of reverse psychology.. if the teacher still the same (either bochap or pass such remarks) then I will go to principle to understand how what I should do to help my kid adjust. 3 chances max! :roll:

[Snowy15]

yes, at first, i did worry that losing things with any reasons may be a sign of being bully, but after talking to my child, I reassure that goods friends should be understandable and not to forcing friends to agree with them.


My child got the message and understand that they should try to enlarge their circle of friends and not only following their old K2 friends....

i am happy this turns well later.....

[Snowy15]

thanks, sometimes that is the fear of being a parent, we adults are able to stand up for each other but children may not have the courage as we also teach them to have respect for all especially to their elder...


teachers have a real great impact on them as they see the teachers handling a whole class of students.

we, parents only handle our children and that is always lesser than a class.

but i suppose we parents are on 24/7 LTC for them always....and we always need to assure them that we are there for them.

in fact, the time when i talked to the teacher, is the time when an important file (filled with exam notes) and exam round the corner and i thought to seek teacher's help and started to thank her first and later on, share her my thoughts thinking to provide some feedback for my child but at the end, got the comments indirectly from my child (not to tell me things cause i will complain to her).... :stupid:

being a parent of the modern era is indeed not easy!!!

[RRMummy]

Snowy15:

thanks, sometimes that is the fear of being a parent, we adults are able to stand up for each other but children may not have the courage as we also teach them to have respect for all especially to their elder...

Yes, that is important! No disrespect allowed.

Snowy15:

in fact, the time when i talked to the teacher, is the time when an important file (filled with exam notes) and exam round the corner and i thought to seek teacher's help and started to thank her first and later on, share her my thoughts thinking to provide some feedback for my child but at the end, got the comments indirectly from my child (not to tell me things cause i will complain to her).... :stupid:

A case of teacher too overloaded?? ...I would also be like you :stupid: :stupid:

Snowy15:

being a parent of the modern era is indeed not easy!!!

I think being a student in this era is even more difficult.. :lol:

[Snowy15]

yes, that's why I believe all parents in this era are trying to help our children as much as we can but we are also afraid to make them lose their independent character.....