Me Time!

[Liew Nga Wing]

lee_yl\" post_id=\"2124022\" time=\"1701240149\" user_id=\"17023:

Many love their HDB abodes but would move to stay in a GCB if given the choice. That to me, is not considered “freedom of choice” because many cannot afford to live in GCB in the first place and learn to love their HDB.

Ha...Ha... As staying in HDB, I can tell you many HDB residents are super rich and some of them even own a few condominiums like my SIL and my colleagues but they still occupying and stay in a HDB house because they can receive the maintenance fee rebate and U-Save from the Government. The colleagues sitting besides me - is staying in a 4 room HDB flat in Haig Road but bought a new condo by paying one million cash. :yikes:

[Liew Nga Wing]

Imp75\" post_id=\"2124034\" time=\"1701242575\" user_id=\"2358:

Yes indeed that was true. But the “happiness” and “time spent” with them can’t really be quantified……so in this case, qualitatively it was a “bad” investment decision haha cos my opportunity cost was so much more. But holistically I think money loss can’t measure up to the “joys” accompanying them in their various milestones.

Indeed it was a very difficult decision to stop work cos it was a “bad” investment decision. Nevertheless it was impt bc I was ranting at them every night after work (stressed and tired) . I did beat myself up after being SAHM by setting ownself KPIs (self-tortured haha) whereby if I don’t hit, I’ll return to work. I know a bit Seow right (my hubs said so) but I guess that’s the Singaporean spirit? We were brought up this way to survive isn’t it?

Now I understand why I had got endless scolding when I was small because my mother stopped working and became a SAHM to accompany me and my silbings but I did not manage to get a good academic results and failed most exams. Maybe she thought it was a bad investment on me and she suffered a great loss. :stupid:

[Imp75]

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2124043\" time=\"1701243987\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2124043 time=1701243987 user_id=195250]
Now I understand why I had got endless scolding when I was small because my mother stopped working and became a SAHM to accompany me and my silbings but I did not manage to get a good academic results and failed most exams. Maybe she thought it was a bad investment on me and she suffered a great loss. :stupid:[/quote]

I dunno what’s up with your mom but every mom differs. I did say I beat myself up if I made the wrong decision. I did not say I take it out on my kids.

[Liew Nga Wing]

Imp75\" post_id=\"2124052\" time=\"1701253545\" user_id=\"2358:

I dunno what’s up with your mom but every mom differs. I did say I beat myself up if I made the wrong decision. I did not say I take it out on my kids.

I am sorry for causing some misunderstanding. You are a great mother. My mother is a funny person.

Actually I fell seriously ill after arguing with my mother during my trip and maybe a bit aggressive in my writing and I apologise for it.

[Estéema]

lee_yl\" post_id=\"2124022\" time=\"1701240149\" user_id=\"17023:

I am not sure should that even considered as “freedom of choice”? Precisely to avoid such lack of options, parents invest heavily on their children’s education.

Many love their HDB abodes but would move to stay in a GCB if given the choice. That to me, is not considered “freedom of choice” because many cannot afford to live in GCB in the first place and learn to love their HDB.

I’m not sure if I want GCB afterall. We’re only a small dot, unlike big countries with plenty of space.

It won’t be easy maintaining a big home to make life comfortable hor myself & to maintain a well manicured garden, tho lots of space for my gardening based on ratio of GCB plot. Wld love to hv a GR for it to run the grounds too! I loath the day I’ve to train my helpers to clean, upkeep, and keep in hospitable condition for guests. Hv to engage contract gardeners to trim & cut grass, main swimming pool, etc.

Maybe good for a short enjoyment but it can work against me as I grow old. Good for when u’re young & hv bz associates to entertain but will be too quiet for elderlies when u prefer peace & not the ra-rah-rah. GCB is not only the land affordability but the long-term maintenance of it.

So, a smaller place or condo is still good enuf with 24-hour security. I don’t enjoy having to drive out or walk far to get my daily needs or errands done. Having neighbors or security guards to meet & greet often enuf gives me a good sense of being in touch with real ppl. That’s how I feel.

[MrsKiasu]

Minus 3/5 degree with strong blowing wind almost cannot feel ears and nose. Once inside building and squeeze the face muscles, feel so different…like defrosting according to dd. Cannot imagine those people living like below minus 40degree.

[MrsKiasu]

Feel touched to have read some of the posts and also could feel many pros of utilizing tuitions for advancement. All different parenting. I have people around me to straight away ask what are you enrolling for the kids during holiday…2 tuition a subject etc. Sometimes we do feel some stress…look at it positively, it may help us to not let our kids fall too far behind … but sometimes when too stressed will feel confused of own ways.

[MrsKiasu]

We had some heart to heart talks while strolling…dd1 says she hopes able to do more things with us, with me being more relaxed about life so that in the future whether she is successful or poor she can always think back on those good memories created with daddy, mommy and sister. I have my own problem for many years and I know it is not fair for them. I have been changing and will try harder to change it.

[Estéema]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2124059\" time=\"1701265557\" user_id=\"43981:

Minus 3/5 degree with strong blowing wind almost cannot feel ears and nose. Once inside building and squeeze the face muscles, feel so different..like defrosting according to dd. Cannot imagine those people living like below minus 40degree.

Hope yr girls enjoy the winter. Stay warm. I always cover my ears & hoodies over head. Keep legs warm with socks sealing the pants fr wind & gloves ard yr sleeves.

Hv fun and enjoy the winter solstice! ️

[MrsKiasu]

Estéema\" post_id=\"2124065\" time=\"1701267792\" user_id=\"66413:

Hope yr girls enjoy the winter. Stay warm. I always cover my ears & hoodies over head. Keep legs warm with socks sealing the pants fr wind & gloves ard yr sleeves.

Hv fun and enjoy the winter solstice! ️

Thanks esteema, enjoy your holiday too..