In-law problems?
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From time to time, DH and I will leave DSes under the care of MIL. But then more than not, when we get home a couple of hours later, MIL will be nodding away (counting zās) on the sofa/floor and DSes left to their own devices.
And DH sometimes get antsy when i tell him I rather not have his mum come over (ie we should just bring the kids whereever we go).
But to her credit - my kids will have their milk and whatever - so long as instructions are left for her. -
hquek:
Yeah, it probably is very tiring for them...yet MIL can insinuate to my mum whenever they get on the phone, \"haiyah, they are getting bigger already, so easier to look after!!\"From time to time, DH and I will leave DSes under the care of MIL. But then more than not, when we get home a couple of hours later, MIL will be nodding away (counting z's) on the sofa/floor and DSes left to their own devices.
And DH sometimes get antsy when i tell him I rather not have his mum come over (ie we should just bring the kids whereever we go).
But to her credit - my kids will have their milk and whatever - so long as instructions are left for her.
BTW, just to share, I I scoop the formula, mark the level of water with Masking tape and arrow the TOP of that so that the levels clearly spelt out as well. Still sometimes it doesn't get done! I have to swallow hard and then explain to my poor dears that nai nai must have thought you girls were too full already!
Sigh! -
Andaiz:
Like you said, buds jie, we NOW know better! Really gotta close TWO eyes loh! :shock:
don't forget the ears too!!!
:roll: :roll:
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Andaiz:
On the rare occasion when my maid went back for home leave, I have to ask my MIL to look after the baby for a few hours so i can do marketing. I did just what you had done.
Yeah, it probably is very tiring for them...yet MIL can insinuate to my mum whenever they get on the phone, \"haiyah, they are getting bigger already, so easier to look after!!\"
BTW, just to share, I I scoop the formula, mark the level of water with Masking tape and arrow the TOP of that so that the levels clearly spelt out as well. Still sometimes it doesn't get done! I have to swallow hard and then explain to my poor dears that nai nai must have thought you girls were too full already!
Sigh!
I first put in the required cool water in the milk bottle. Then I mark out on the bottle the required full amount, so she just need to top up with HOT water to the mark. After that, I scoop the formula, put it into the container so that she just need to shake it into the bottle. Very simple right? Still,.....
so conclusion, she doesn't want to make milk. So, I don't leave the kids with her without the maid. -
buds:
Your DD1 is sooooo sweet... There is certainly a quality in her to think of others before herselfbut all DD1 said after that was, \"So how? Did you and daddy
enjoy yourself with the show? Was it good? Hope you two had a fun day.\"
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Actually, nowadays, I have learnt to be in harmony with MIL by using other ways to approach her.
As time passes, she kinda realise what type of person or DIL I am so that we won't start crossing each other's paths. She doesn't roll her eyes on me or start gossiping with her sisters within my earshot anymore (or maybe, it's because we have reduced such gatherings that there was actually no such chance).
She doesn't cook dinner as nice as my mum (DH can vouch for that), but I have learnt to swallow my food and drink the soup that she has broiled to please her. It wasn't easy making DS1 & DS2 eat the food she cooks, but I have learnt from DH to handle such sticky situations in a more amiable way. Just fill the bowl of rice to the minimal, let them eat some ęęęę to please her, so that it won't seem like they won't finish the food. If they are hungry, just let them have supper to fill their stomaches. I had always forced the rice down their throats cos I was 'afraid' that they would not be full. And it would always make me look like a terrible mother and exaggerate the fact that the dinner was not good. Not only that, it had caused more unease at the dinner table.
There was once, MIL announced a week before that she would be cooking curry on the following Saturday for dinner. It happened so coincidentally that my mum cooked curry on Friday night when we went for dinner. Mum's curry was delicious and we usually have 2 big bowls. The next day, MIL's curry was so disappointingly tasteless that DH could barely finish one. On our way home, he said, 'Luckily your mum cooked curry the night before, if not, I wouldn't even realised I had eaten curry just now.'
The very next weekend, DH told me excitedly that he received news that MIL is cooking western food. I was emotionless and said, 'okay'. There, I just digged in and finished my portion as usual. On the way back, I told DH, 'See, no expectations so that you won't have disappointments, but the canned baked beans was nice.' DH was saying that he had such expectations that night but he just laughed off saying, 'well at least the fries were crunchy'.
Activity after dinner is okay too, cos I would always keep myself occupied with newspapers and entertainment gossips, while they yak away about their family woes. DH seems less stressed up now though the stuff that he hears is still the unhappiness. He told me it's because the children and I are taken away and he has one less thing to worry about.
Other than that, DH allows me to take 'breaks' from SIL by not attending weekly family dinners. So, I kinda found a good balance with my ILs.
not for SIL and her hubby though, her high-pitched voice and vast breath (č®²äøå) still annoys me. Think I need more years of 'training' with her -
winth:
Other than that, DH allows me to take 'breaks' from SIL by not attending weekly family dinners. So, I kinda found a good balance with my ILs.
You are so lucky can take break from SIL. Mine comes to my house so I have no way of escape.
In fact MIL was upset that we did not invite SIL to join us when we went for holiday. So now I have to give up family vacation, in order not to upset MIL. Till today I still can't understand why we MUST include her. Isn't it (more than) enoughthat we see them every week??
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My MIL only want to eat out.. ...easier mah..
My SIL back from Shanghai and DH mentioned to me.. ... I pretend didn't hear..
No mood for dramas
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auntieM:
Hubby mentioned your SIL is back...so what does that imply ?My MIL only want to eat out.. ...easier mah..
My SIL back from Shanghai and DH mentioned to me.. ... I pretend didn't hear..
No mood for dramas
Mine here ever mentioned his sister will be coming back with son and hubby from US next few months. I will pretend not to hear anything too, since his family DRAMAS make my hair stand. Untolerable !!! -
janet_lee88:
No response means.. ..
Hubby mentioned your SIL is back...so what does that imply ?auntieM:
My MIL only want to eat out.. ...easier mah..
My SIL back from Shanghai and DH mentioned to me.. ... I pretend didn't hear..
No mood for dramas
Mine here ever mentioned his sister will be coming back with son and hubby from US next few months. I will pretend not to hear anything too, since his family DRAMAS make my hair stand. Untolerable !!!
Whether she is back alone, staying with ILs or for how long..
Heng DH on trip, can save quite a fair bit of drama and $
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