Living in Singapore

[Liew Nga Wing]

slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2130618\" time=\"1710228566\" user_id=\"28674:

I suppose the concern might be that if that change in perspective doesn't happen till later in life, finding a partner and having kids might be more difficult, or may not happen. But there's not a lot parents can do about it once the kids have already formed the idea that marriage and family doesn't have any appeal for them.

Even they find marriage and family have appeal for them, they still need to meet the right man or lady to be the partner. In the past, young people rushing to form their family and give birth might cause more problems. DH is a typical example. :razz:

[phtthp]

nowadays, many singles born after year 1990 prefer to remain single, not keen in marriage.

[doodbug]

At the rate this is going, this forum’s attendance will be declining - fewer parents, fewer babies, fewer kids.

[Liew Nga Wing]

doodbug\" post_id=\"2130623\" time=\"1710232843\" user_id=\"13281:

At the rate this is going, this forum's attendance will be declining - fewer parents, fewer babies, fewer kids.

Not really, more parents of those foreign students in Singapore will be interested in the info here.

[Estéema]

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2130629\" time=\"1710236365\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2130629 time=1710236365 user_id=195250]
Not really, more parents of those foreign students in Singapore will be interested in the info here.[/quote]

They hv their own networks.

[lee_yl]

I have seen friends and cousins got married and went ahead to have kids before their new flats arrived. So don’t think it has a lot to do with BTOs.


Could it also due to exposure of social media / tik Tok influence that “You Only Live Once” kind of philosophy? This kind of marketing type of philosophy good to get them to spend on expensive bags, expensive holiday lifestyle etc. but detrimental to having a family life with kids

[Liew Nga Wing]

lee_yl\" post_id=\"2130637\" time=\"1710248876\" user_id=\"17023:

I have seen friends and cousins got married and went ahead to have kids before their new flats arrived. So don’t think it has a lot to do with BTOs.

Could it also due to exposure of social media / tik Tok influence that “You Only Live Once” kind of philosophy? This kind of marketing type of philosophy good to get them to spend on expensive bags, expensive holiday lifestyle etc. but detrimental to having a family life with kids

牛不喝水，按不到牛头低.

[Liew Nga Wing]

Estéema\" post_id=\"2130633\" time=\"1710240669\" user_id=\"66413:

They hv their own networks.

You are feeling better now?

[sharonkhoo]

lee_yl\" post_id=\"2130637\" time=\"1710248876\" user_id=\"17023:

I have seen friends and cousins got married and went ahead to have kids before their new flats arrived. So don’t think it has a lot to do with BTOs.

Could it also due to exposure of social media / tik Tok influence that “You Only Live Once” kind of philosophy? This kind of marketing type of philosophy good to get them to spend on expensive bags, expensive holiday lifestyle etc. but detrimental to having a family life with kids

Yes, and \"Fear Of Missing Out\" (FOMO) - some may fear that opportunities will slip by while they take time to have a family, and they see the lives of their single and child-free friends on social media. It's hard to do much about this once that value system has taken root, though not impossible; shaping values should start earlier. If we teach children that the ultimate is to be the \"best\" or \"top\", and hold up those who have success in academics, work, income, status, etc. as role models to our kids, then it's hard to turn around when they are 25 and say - time to take your eyes off those things and start a family, and be prepared to be responsible for one or more tiny humans (which you can't return to sender), give up unbroken sleep, child-free vacations, a tidy house, expensive hobbies... Unless we can persuade them that family life is worth the sacrifices, and they find the responsibility enriching and fulfilling (even if tiring and often frustrating), many will decide it's not worth the effort to have kids. And the rat race of equating \"best\" with \"most expensive\" needs to change, so young people realise that raising kids doesn't have to require immense wealth.

I also feel that in our culture, where it's still the wife and mother who bears the brunt of childcare and housework, there needs to be a willingness to judge them on a different timeline, taking into account the years when they may have stopped work or taken on less demanding work. They shouldn't be compared with men or the child-free of the same age when they refocus on careers at 40 or 50. They may be \"junior\" in terms of experience, but that doesn't mean that they can't learn and progress because they are \"too old\". Women also need to be fair - they can't expect to earn what their same-age single and child-free colleagues do at that point, and maybe they will lag for a few years. But getting back to work is better than not at all. If young women are assured that their \"mummy\" years will not be held against them in perpetuity, they are more likely to be willing to slow down for a while for their family. And the media should stop featuring women who \"have it all\" as examples - they are often wealthy and have lots of home support. How many women have that kind of backing?

[lee_yl]

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Not just one but the whole generation starts to think twice about the pain involved when setting up a family vs happily staying single

Chance upon a Facebook reel this morning that warned females of having to juggle work, family, household chores and taking care of young children till the working mum can’t breathe as compared to the men.

Younger gen spends a lot of time on social media therefore not sure if all these will have an impact on them or else, where do they get all the partial truths from?