All About Full-Time Maids
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duriz:
Your DD must be pampered by everyone in the family...Recently I had quit from a managerial post in a MNC company..The reason is very simple...I want to have a quality life with my family; to be able to spend more time with my only 5 yrs old girl...Its been almost a month and I'm still enjoying...In fact, I find its more tiring than working..not mentally but physically....I need to chauffeur her to school every morning and send her for classes in the afternoon...running here and there and seems like never ending....These days, you will not be easily cut off from society.....we have the internets, facebook etc.... :lol: I had a good fren who quit her job when her only child was enrolling in P1 and that was like 6 years ago...Her child is in Sec 1 this year and she has just returned to work...Yes, I'm very blessed. I'm an advanced age first time Mom and have a very good support system.
My MIL loves DD very much. This is because on both sides of my PILs families, they have had sons only. DD is the first girl to make an appearance in 24 years. DD is also the first and only grandchild on my side of the family. She is very privileged and I hope not too spoilt.
DH supports my decisions, be it SAHM or FTWM.
Ironically, it's my Mom and MIL whom do not agree to my being a SAHM. They said I'm still young and should not be \"cut off from society\". -
peapot:
If some maids can even keep their own nails, hair etc what else more??!!
My maid kept her nails. I found out and asked her to throw away. -
HappyAvon:
Thank you for your response HappyAvon. You are very lucky, to be able to spend quality time with your princess, albeit it being very tiring :celebrate:
Your DD must be pampered by everyone in the family...Recently I had quit from a managerial post in a MNC company..The reason is very simple...I want to have a quality life with my family; to be able to spend more time with my only 5 yrs old girl...Its been almost a month and I'm still enjoying...In fact, I find its more tiring than working..not mentally but physically....I need to chauffeur her to school every morning and send her for classes in the afternoon...running here and there and seems like never ending....These days, you will not be easily cut off from society.....we have the internets, facebook etc.... :lol: I had a good fren who quit her job when her only child was enrolling in P1 and that was like 6 years ago...Her child is in Sec 1 this year and she has just returned to work...duriz:
Yes, I'm very blessed. I'm an advanced age first time Mom and have a very good support system.
My MIL loves DD very much. This is because on both sides of my PILs families, they have had sons only. DD is the first girl to make an appearance in 24 years. DD is also the first and only grandchild on my side of the family. She is very privileged and I hope not too spoilt.
DH supports my decisions, be it SAHM or FTWM.
Ironically, it's my Mom and MIL whom do not agree to my being a SAHM. They said I'm still young and should not be \"cut off from society\". -
Hi Hi!
My maid just went back to Indonesia for two weeks home leave. I am also on leave so that I can look after my 3 yo son. It has been 2 days and so far so good! But cooked something this evening my son didn't like and did not eat. Did he miss aunty (the maid)? Well yesterday after sending maid to airport we came back and he asked for something from the fridge. When I did not give him, he ran to aunty's room to look for her (because I guess she always give in to him!) then ask \"Where\"? Other than that, I think out of sight, out of mind. Take some getting use to for me to look after DS full-time once every year for 2 weeks but looking forward to it!
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duriz:
Hi Duriz!It was a luxury not to have worked for a year and a privilege to be with my daughter for 8 months........Personally, I'd much prefer not working, doing housework and looking after my daughter than engage a FT maid. DH supports my decisions, be it SAHM or FTWM.
Ironically, it's my Mom and MIL whom do not agree to my being a SAHM. They said I'm still young and should not be \"cut off from society\".
You are very blessed indeed to have such supporting PIL and hubby! So you actually have a choice whether to be sahm or ftwm. But I guess you must have your own reasons for returning back to the work-force after 1-year else you would have just quit altogether!
For me, I am a FTWM with a very supportive maid hence I can feel safe going to work. But given the choice I would like to quit and stay at home too because there are lots of things to do for the family. But family and friends mainly not supportive because of financial considerations ie. kid still young and what about own retirement planning?
Anyway, yah, do consider hiring a maid for your MIL!
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DesertWind:
Thank you DesertWind, will do :celebrate:
Hi Duriz!duriz:
It was a luxury not to have worked for a year and a privilege to be with my daughter for 8 months........Personally, I'd much prefer not working, doing housework and looking after my daughter than engage a FT maid. DH supports my decisions, be it SAHM or FTWM.
Ironically, it's my Mom and MIL whom do not agree to my being a SAHM. They said I'm still young and should not be \"cut off from society\".
You are very blessed indeed to have such supporting PIL and hubby! So you actually have a choice whether to be sahm or ftwm. But I guess you must have your own reasons for returning back to the work-force after 1-year else you would have just quit altogether!
For me, I am a FTWM with a very supportive maid hence I can feel safe going to work. But given the choice I would like to quit and stay at home too because there are lots of things to do for the family. But family and friends mainly not supportive because of financial considerations ie. kid still young and what about own retirement planning?
Anyway, yah, do consider hiring a maid for your MIL!
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peapot:
Probably the employer is out most of the day. I see maids congregating at the playground below my mum's block. Very interesting. They bring kids and leave them alone at playground, and then happily yak away.You know mummies, I m staying in Bukit Panjang and there's this Filipino maid in her 40s, really can yak non-stop. Whenever I meet her downstairs, she will be talking to someone for sure. And I m not talking about 5-10m mins chat but more than 30mins to hours kind of chat. I don't like it because I worry my maid will be influenced by this maid.
What I cannot understand is how come the employer can tolerate such behaviour. Sometimes, I see a whole bunch of maids throwing parties/gathering on weekday afternoons. I also don't understand why employer can tolerate this. Don't they have to take care of kids??!!
My mum brought the maid to NTUC to buy her groceries. Even there, another maid and she can use handsignals to chat to each other....a bit like those forbidden love stories. Farnee -
i am a bit curious. why they are so desperate to chat? do they talk/chat/communicate with employer family members at home? maybe at employer home they are only given instructions about what to do but never communicate?
for my previous two maids, i found it's very hard to talk to them. i am very easy going. but basically they dont quite like to talk to me. seems they keep everything to themselves. whenever i asked them something, they only gave very short answers.
but i think i will try my best with my current maid and see how it goes.hquek:
Probably the employer is out most of the day. I see maids congregating at the playground below my mum's block. Very interesting. They bring kids and leave them alone at playground, and then happily yak away.peapot:
You know mummies, I m staying in Bukit Panjang and there's this Filipino maid in her 40s, really can yak non-stop. Whenever I meet her downstairs, she will be talking to someone for sure. And I m not talking about 5-10m mins chat but more than 30mins to hours kind of chat. I don't like it because I worry my maid will be influenced by this maid.
What I cannot understand is how come the employer can tolerate such behaviour. Sometimes, I see a whole bunch of maids throwing parties/gathering on weekday afternoons. I also don't understand why employer can tolerate this. Don't they have to take care of kids??!!
My mum brought the maid to NTUC to buy her groceries. Even there, another maid and she can use handsignals to chat to each other....a bit like those forbidden love stories. Farnee -
liuhao:
oh! they can share all sorts of things under the sun. My ex-maid knew about neighbour's maid having boyfriend and going geylang hotels BEFORE her employer caught wind of it (and send her home). Also, they may want to rant about their employers and perhaps their families with others in 'the same boat'. All this a bit difficult to share with your own employer.i am a bit curious. why they are so desperate to chat? do they talk/chat/communicate with employer family members at home? maybe at employer home they are only given instructions about what to do but never communicate?
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A neighbour came knocking on my door on Friday evening. I was in the toilet then and when I came to the door, she was asking my maid if she was out with her maid that afternoon. Apparently, her maid was out for about 4-5hrs that day without telling the employer and when questioned, the maid said she was out with my maid. Luckily for my maid, my boy was sick last week and I was home so I am very sure she did not go out at all.
The employer then dragged the maid to my house again and verified in front of her what my maid has said. And throughout, that maid was smiling. I dun understand. She was caught lying and instead of showing remorse and apologising to her employer and my maid she stood there smirking away.
My maid was very angry with that neighbour’s maid. I told my maid very frankly that she’s lucky I was home that day else I will start doubting her as well. I am aware that she has been chatting a lot with that maid at our driveway. I am ok with that as she still gets her work done. My maid started ranting about how she doesn’t understand the mentality of some of these maids, said they paid a lot to get out here to work and instead of making sure they earn what they need to feed their family, they start doing nonsense.
I just told her I am glad she has her priorities right. And this incident goes to show how important it is that she be open with me about who she befriends and who she is out with on her off days.
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