All About Full-Time Maids

[liuhao]

i am a bit curious. why they are so desperate to chat? do they talk/chat/communicate with employer family members at home? maybe at employer home they are only given instructions about what to do but never communicate?


for my previous two maids, i found it's very hard to talk to them. i am very easy going. but basically they dont quite like to talk to me. seems they keep everything to themselves. whenever i asked them something, they only gave very short answers.

but i think i will try my best with my current maid and see how it goes.

hquek:

peapot:

You know mummies, I m staying in Bukit Panjang and there's this Filipino maid in her 40s, really can yak non-stop. Whenever I meet her downstairs, she will be talking to someone for sure. And I m not talking about 5-10m mins chat but more than 30mins to hours kind of chat. I don't like it because I worry my maid will be influenced by this maid.

What I cannot understand is how come the employer can tolerate such behaviour. Sometimes, I see a whole bunch of maids throwing parties/gathering on weekday afternoons. I also don't understand why employer can tolerate this. Don't they have to take care of kids??!!

Probably the employer is out most of the day. I see maids congregating at the playground below my mum's block. Very interesting. They bring kids and leave them alone at playground, and then happily yak away.

My mum brought the maid to NTUC to buy her groceries. Even there, another maid and she can use handsignals to chat to each other....a bit like those forbidden love stories. Farnee

[hquek]

liuhao:

i am a bit curious. why they are so desperate to chat? do they talk/chat/communicate with employer family members at home? maybe at employer home they are only given instructions about what to do but never communicate?

oh! they can share all sorts of things under the sun. My ex-maid knew about neighbour's maid having boyfriend and going geylang hotels BEFORE her employer caught wind of it (and send her home). Also, they may want to rant about their employers and perhaps their families with others in 'the same boat'. All this a bit difficult to share with your own employer.

[Funz]

A neighbour came knocking on my door on Friday evening. I was in the toilet then and when I came to the door, she was asking my maid if she was out with her maid that afternoon. Apparently, her maid was out for about 4-5hrs that day without telling the employer and when questioned, the maid said she was out with my maid. Luckily for my maid, my boy was sick last week and I was home so I am very sure she did not go out at all.


The employer then dragged the maid to my house again and verified in front of her what my maid has said. And throughout, that maid was smiling. I dun understand. She was caught lying and instead of showing remorse and apologising to her employer and my maid she stood there smirking away.

My maid was very angry with that neighbour’s maid. I told my maid very frankly that she’s lucky I was home that day else I will start doubting her as well. I am aware that she has been chatting a lot with that maid at our driveway. I am ok with that as she still gets her work done. My maid started ranting about how she doesn’t understand the mentality of some of these maids, said they paid a lot to get out here to work and instead of making sure they earn what they need to feed their family, they start doing nonsense.

I just told her I am glad she has her priorities right. And this incident goes to show how important it is that she be open with me about who she befriends and who she is out with on her off days.

[hquek]

Funz:

My maid was very angry with that neighbour's maid. I told my maid very frankly that she's lucky I was home that day else I will start doubting her as well. I am aware that she has been chatting a lot with that maid at our driveway. I am ok with that as she still gets her work done. My maid started ranting about how she doesn't understand the mentality of some of these maids, said they paid a lot to get out here to work and instead of making sure they earn what they need to feed their family, they start doing nonsense.


I just told her I am glad she has her priorities right. And this incident goes to show how important it is that she be open with me about who she befriends and who she is out with on her off days.

yup, if your maid can say that, she's (in my eyes) a good maid. One who knows what she is here for and strives towards that goal (legally of course) is one whom I respect. I simply cannot understand those who pay so much money to come here but yet don't seem to want to work. haizzzz.

[Angelight]

Hi Desertwind,


Your maid goes home to Indonesia every year? I thought it's usually every 2 yrs? Just curious, then how do you make sure she will come back?


[quote=\"DesertWind\"]Hi Hi!
My maid just went back to Indonesia for two weeks home leave. I am also on leave so that I can look after my 3 yo son. It has been 2 days and so far so good! But cooked something this evening my son didn't like and did not eat. Did he miss aunty (the maid)? Well yesterday after sending maid to airport we came back and he asked for something from the fridge. When I did not give him, he ran to aunty's room to look for her (because I guess she always give in to him!) then ask \"Where\"? Other than that, I think out of sight, out of mind. Take some getting use to for me to look after DS full-time once every year for 2 weeks but looking forward to it!

[DesertWind]

Angelight:

Hi Desertwind,


Your maid goes home to Indonesia every year? I thought it's usually every 2 yrs? Just curious, then how do you make sure she will come back?

Hi Angelight!

Yes, I let my maid go home to Indonesia every year during my 2 weeks compulsory leave. Because she has a daughter there now about 5 years old just going K2! She came here to work to support her daughter because her husband not helping her at all hence because of this, I am quite sure she will come back. Well, this is already her 3rd year with me and 3rd time going home, so far she always came back!

Even after her 1st year when she went back home, I somehow have no doubt she will come back. If she doesn't come back how? Well, actually I take it very easy because who is the one losing? Her right? Can't be me because I just take another maid lor!

I remembered the first year when I went back to the maid agency to book the air-ticket and passport chop etc. for her leave, the maid agency asked me why I let her go back after one year? She said the maids won't want to come back after such long leave. Also why I allow her to go back for 2 weeks instead of just a few days? Also she advised me to make sure I keep her POSB account with at least SGD500 to ensure she will come back.

My answer is, to buy the ticket is so expensive so of course she should stay as long as possible there lah. Also go back once a year only so should stay longer. I wish I can give her one month (which is not uncommon with my neighbours' maids) but I can't max. only 2 weeks.

Anyway, my this maid is sensible. Other type of maids, I cannot say.
:celebrate:

[shine_fs]

DesertWind:

Hi Angelight!

Yes, I let my maid go home to Indonesia every year during my 2 weeks compulsory leave. Because she has a daughter there now about 5 years old just going K2! She came here to work to support her daughter because her husband not helping her at all hence because of this, I am quite sure she will come back. Well, this is already her 3rd year with me and 3rd time going home, so far she always came back!

Even after her 1st year when she went back home, I somehow have no doubt she will come back. If she doesn't come back how? Well, actually I take it very easy because who is the one losing? Her right? Can't be me because I just take another maid lor!

I remembered the first year when I went back to the maid agency to book the air-ticket and passport chop etc. for her leave, the maid agency asked me why I let her go back after one year? She said the maids won't want to come back after such long leave. Also why I allow her to go back for 2 weeks instead of just a few days? Also she advised me to make sure I keep her POSB account with at least SGD500 to ensure she will come back.

My answer is, to buy the ticket is so expensive so of course she should stay as long as possible there lah. Also go back once a year only so should stay longer. I wish I can give her one month (which is not uncommon with my neighbours' maids) but I can't max. only 2 weeks.

Anyway, my this maid is sensible. Other type of maids, I cannot say.
:celebrate:

What can I say.....you are so lucky....

[DesertWind]

LKVM:

Kudos to you DesertWind :salute:

Thanks LKVM and shinefs!

It is my most sincere wish that all employers out there got good maids!

[shine_fs]

Just for sharing…


AN INDONESIAN maid who stole from her employer’s mother-in-law twice and blamed the ex-maid was jailed for 10 months on Monday.

On May 27, Desi Kurnia Dewi, 23, was found unconscious in the flat with two wooden chairs on top of her by her employer’s mother-in-law, Madam Chan Har Mooi, 68.

The maid, who had earlier stolen foreign currencies and jewellery from the victim, claimed that she was assaulted by ex-maid Siti Mariah before she lost consciousness.

Siti Mariah was arrested and remanded for two weeks.

Further investigation showed that she staged the robbery after forcing open the drawer to steal valuables. She caused some bruises to her arms and pretended to have passed out.

On June 11, she handed $500 to Madam Chan and asked her to buy an air ticket for her to go home, claiming her family members had sent her the money.

Suspicious, Madam Chan checked and found $2,888 missing from a red box in a drawer. In her statement to the police, she again alleged that Siti Mariah had instigated her to steal.

Desi could have been jailed for up to seven years and fined for theft as a servant. For giving false information to the police, she could have been jailed for up to one year and/or fined up to $5,000.


This maid was my colleague ex-maid, she send her back last year. The maid hands are not "clean, my colleague’s sons’ peggy bank coins always missing and her FIL’s money was stolen too…

The maid is smart, she went back change her name and got herself new passport and return to Singapore… :x

[liuhao]

this afternoon i was at shell petrol station. while i was queuing to make payment for petrol, in front of me there was this fil maid with a after school 7-8 yrs old boy. she turned back and looked at me once and i could feel the way she looked at me was a bit strange. then when it was her turn to make payment, she bought a $15 hand phone top up card. that was usual but the unusual thing was she paid this $15 all in small coins: all 10 or 20 cents coins, there was no single 50 cents or 1 dollar coin. it was large amount of coins and it took long time for the cashier to count. i think most likely she stole coins from the boy’s pocket money.


hope one day she got caught and sent back home or police.