How to work with shy children

[jedamum]

ImMeeMee:

i am trying to find information on autism as we suspect that our girl may be autistic. she exhibits certain symptoms but we have not had her diagnosed officially yet.


please let me know are there such threads in this forum where I can exchange information. thanks.

http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=935

[jlim]

Other than shyness, autism, there’s another area known as Selective Mutism.

Kids that are very noisy at home will become very quiet when they are outside the ‘home/parents’ environment.
They are not just shy, anxiety plays a part too.
Nobody can force a child to open up and talk. The child will talk when he or she is ready.
Selective Mutism is always treated as shyness by adults, but it goes beyond that.
Seeing a psychologist can assess the child.

[kaydenbrown]

But usually when these kids reach teenage years, they tend to change after some dramatic incidents that affect their lives. Well, I am one example and I was once afflicted with that very ‘illness’ that you mentioned.

[golfer]

my 5 yr old DD cries / worry over small little things , has no confident, afraid other will laught at her.

what should i do to help her?

[jedamum]

golfer:

my 5 yr old DD cries / worry over small little things , has no confident, afraid other will laught at her.

what should i do to help her?

my ds2 (at P2) has very 'thin skin'. i told him that it will be even more embarassed to cry in front of others so he will usually bear it until he reach home.
very sensitive kid.
can only give him my support, my listening ears and my shoulder.

what small things worries your dd? maybe you can cite a few eg.
confidence wise, there is still time to hone. it will also largely depends on your response to her failure to do stuff.

frankly speaking, at this age, many a times, i still feel the same as your 5yo. i attribute this nature to upbringing.

[HyperKiasu]

golfer:

my 5 yr old DD cries / worry over small little things , has no confident, afraid other will laught at her.

what should i do to help her?

perhaps ur DD still too young.
same as my DD (K1 now). when she was in Nursery she was so timid that she even dare not tell teacher that she wanted to pee...
and month ago, she was still too shy to read aloud and there was once a relief teacher told me that my DD was the only one in the class who couldn't read...

I try to seize every opportunity possible to encourage her, praise her every day ... now the feedback from her teacher becomes positive...

[jingle_ding]

I think alot of encouragement is needed and patient. Don’t reprimand him or her, cos she may take it to hard and it will be harder to work on it. There are couple of ways, such as informal activity like letting your child to socialise with one or two kids. Like a buddy team. So things could work out mutually. Also maybe get him or her to involve more of her interest or activity (like any sports or anything) to develop their confidence as well.