Children need to know that their parents care for them.

[daisyt]

\"Wrapping books, waking them up to study at the oddest hours. I even go to the extent of waking my son, who is studying abroad – via the phone.\" - I cannot accept any of these for teens and after teens time. If one alarm clock is not enough, make it two and three and four. If worry about getting back to sleep again, adjust all the alarm clocks with time intervals. If the soft alarm clock won't work, buy the traditional bell type.


Maybe she also need to give her son a call to wake him up for his wedding? Then wake him up, its time to feed his baby milk at night. :lol:

This remind me of the recent litter bug commercial on TV. The mum feels, she has failed, even the son is very succesful in study.

[autumnbronze]

Andaiz:

THis is an article on Diva (http://divaasia.com/article/9956) by \"Dedicated\"


Let me know what you think of it...

I REMEMBER doing most of my school tasks and assignments by myself while in school. My parents ensured that I had the basic necessities like food, clothing and books. As for my education, they helped by sitting with me as I studied into the wee hours of the morning.

I remember dad used to wake up at 3am to keep me company as I studied because he was worried that I would doze off. He did not want any mishap to occur – we used kerosene lamps then.

Dad would flip through the papers and mum would iron the clothes. This made me feel that my parents were watching over me and I understood that they cared for me.

I did not depend too much on them, knowing that they, too, had to toil hard.

After that first call, I have to double check at short intervals to ensure he does not fall asleep again. During the exams, I only take 40 winks. What if he wakes up late for his paper – I would never forgive myself.

Whatever it is that I have to do, at the end of the day, I find that all these sacrifices pay off because my sons have performed well.

They are aware of our presence, even though we might be absent. This truly builds their confidence and character. In a way it complements spending quality time together.

I believe that if parents continue to make sacrifices for their children, they will reap the fruits and their children will, in future, carry on the legacy.

They will not feel depressed or neglected; they know they have the scope for expression, they have a role model to follow, and a shoulder to cry on. They will not feel desperate or confused.

Therefore, it is important that parents accompany their children all the way. It should not be regarded as pampering because this guidance will go a long way towards helping them achieve their goals and aspirations in life.

I thank my parents for what they’ve done for me, and I know my children, too, will appreciate me.

My ILs were somewhat like that with their first born - my DH. Though I admit that he learnt to be independent ie living on his own while studying overseas etc ... a little later in life, what I can say is that his parents' sacrifice paid off big time. He is one of the most giving, caring, affectionate, loving people that I know of (of course he has his flaws too, don't we all :D). When I first met him when he was 20, one of the things that attracted me to him was his high dose of confidence (not to be mistaken for arrogance, in fact he is the sort that believes that \"I can do it\" and not give up easily), the way he carried himself and the sense of stability he exuded at that age. He is also very filial towards his parents. He has a close relationship with them and drops by their place for a few mins to chat with them, telling them abt his day etc ... whenever he can. He also speaks with them on the phone at least twice a day everyday. I attribute all that to his parents' upbringing.

They do not depend on him at all, but always accomodate him if he needs to depend on them, even now.

His parents have always put their children's needs above their own, to the point of disadvantaging themselves. His mom has zero social life and sometimes look haggard compared to her siblings. But it has worked out very well, and in a certain ironic way, to their advantage.

I personally subscribe to my IL's way of bringing up their kids, though of course certain changes/adjustments have been made ummmm like for example if my DS is always running late for sch, I would not help him put on his shoes and feed him so that he can make it for the sch bus on time. He has to learn the hard way that he needs to wake up earlier

[mummyjoyce]

Our parents are less expose to the world (no internet and less travelling during their times) and thus cannot really contribute much in our homework, discussion, even advice us on the course to take in uni. I dont blame them as their key focus was to get enough $ for the family so that all the children can have a better life.

However the parents of today is different, we are so much better and smarter in term of knowledge so we can give more pointers in term of school works and discussions. However we must remember to handoff whenever possible so that they can have the freedom to think and do stuffs on their own. The children of today make less mistakes then us and I am concern in this space. Mistakes make us learnt and appreciare things better in life.

[Luvkid]

Andaiz:

THis is an article on Diva (http://divaasia.com/article/9956) by \"Dedicated\"


Let me know what you think of it...

Sound touching to me. But seems to be over protective/overdoing. I am still doing most of them for DS, but i would hope to let go when he grows older. I can't be there for him all the time to check on minor thing like stationeries. Broken pencil..... I am letting go thing slowly.... He has to remember stuff like replenish his pocket money daily(since i give his pocket money weekly), soak his socks/ uniform (in years to come, i am making him to wash & iron them)all the minor daily things to do. He ought to be independent.


Coaching him with his school work is the only one i can't bring myself to let go.... not at the time being, will only let go until i can't manage his syllabes

[notabox]

Well, I am touched. This is a mother's love and dedication towards her child, we shouldn't judge.


If your child happens to be a really sleepyhead, will you actually let him miss school or his exam just so he will learn a lesson?

I was one sleepyhead when young and my dm, everyday without fail, would have to wake me many times before I will get my butt off the bed. Did I need her to wake me up on my wedding day? No.

I guess you may call it retribution because everyday now, I have to nag long and hard before my ds1 will get out of bed in the morning. It makes me realise how much my dm must have loved me. This gives me the strength to do the same for my ds1 and one day, he will look back and know how much I love him.

Will I have to wake him on his wedding day?

[peterch]

I didn't have that kind of memories...... as my parents were too busy


But I don't want my kids share the same experience, so I tried my best to accompany my DS and DD while they are doing their homework or studying for exam. :imanangel:

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