All About Full-Time Maids
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does your maid have handphone?
keep quiet. then buy you neighbor a nice gift and ask your neighbor to take a picture using handphone when next time your neighbor see her with the dark skin guy. meanwhile, looking for replacement...
one thing i dont understand is why ph maid likes to mess up with those dark skin guys, ie, bangla man...they are different species and religious and i dont see anything common between them. why?pandafam:
Hi need some advise here about maid.
My ph maid with us for 1yrs plus, 4 months ago, my neighbour told me she saw her at void deck toking to a dark skin man for a few times in the afternoon. This neighbour warn me about my maid. Went back I question her, she denied and even said she has 1 day off every month she wouldn't do this kinda thing. And even said if I see it with my own eye, she has nothing to say.
Day time she will be home alone, dh and myself go to work, ds1 and ds2 at childcare. She will cook dinner, fetch ds1 and ds2 at hse bus-stop and prepare them for dinner. I reach home around 7plus, sometimes 8. My mum will come to my place once a while in the afternoon and today she caught her at my blk void deck loitering around, probly meeting up the 2 dark skin man my mum saw sitting at the stone chairs. But she denied everything when mum ask and said she just happen to walk around there. This is very suspicious....
What is your advice? My first time encountering this problem
although I had maid last time but everytime put at my mother's place. -
pandafam:
I don't like maid who tell lies :xHi need some advise here about maid.
My ph maid with us for 1yrs plus, 4 months ago, my neighbour told me she saw her at void deck toking to a dark skin man for a few times in the afternoon. This neighbour warn me about my maid. Went back I question her, she denied and even said she has 1 day off every month she wouldn't do this kinda thing. And even said if I see it with my own eye, she has nothing to say.
Day time she will be home alone, dh and myself go to work, ds1 and ds2 at childcare. She will cook dinner, fetch ds1 and ds2 at hse bus-stop and prepare them for dinner. I reach home around 7plus, sometimes 8. My mum will come to my place once a while in the afternoon and today she caught her at my blk void deck loitering around, probly meeting up the 2 dark skin man my mum saw sitting at the stone chairs. But she denied everything when mum ask and said she just happen to walk around there. This is very suspicious....
What is your advice? My first time encountering this problem although I had maid last time but everytime put at my mother's place.
Since she worked 1 yr 4 mths...... :idea: is time to find new maid if lack of trust anymore. When your new maid arrive, her contract will be ending soon.
I will not renew the contract with her since her behavior is suspicious. -
she is loves my kids and they like her too. And finally got her after 3rd round of change
Should I pretend not to know what happen today, and catch her myself next week. Give her a last warning. Or should I warn her tonite? Very vexed, cos she takes care of my 2 sons when we are work late. -
hi pandafam,
i know it’s tough in your case as both you and husband are working, and it’s not easy to find a maid the kids can get along with.
is it possible to ask your mom to go over to your place more often to watch her? if your maid is left alone at home most of the time, she’s bound to feel bored and will want to wander around. -
Another way is to bring her to my mum’s place like last time. And she cannot bring her hp (tho I told her can only use hp after 9pm at nite, now alone at home sure use it when I am not around). Kids schoolbus send to my mum’s place, then nite time bring them back home. Its a hassle lah but at least its bullet proof hahahah.
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dont warn her. collect evidence first. otherwise she will do it in more discreet way in the future that you could hardly find out. as far as you dont have concrete evidence, she knows there is nothing you can do about her. even you send her back based on suspicious reason, she can later complain to agent that it's your problem and agent may not stay in your side.
for me, no matter how she loves my kid before, once this happened, your kid is no longer her first priority anymore. your home security will also be compromised. it's simply not worth the risk.
i dont mind maid having male friend. but it highly depends on the nature. a married maid with husband normally gives you peace of mind. but a maid desperately looking for a boyfriend gives you big trouble.pandafam:
she is loves my kids and they like her too. And finally got her after 3rd round of change
Should I pretend not to know what happen today, and catch her myself next week. Give her a last warning. Or should I warn her tonite? Very vexed, cos she takes care of my 2 sons when we are work late. -
Angelight:
Hi angelight, good to hear you've finally got a new maid. Hope things will turn out ok for you :celebrate:After almost 2 months without a maid, my new Myanmarese maid finally arrived yesterday after some delay from the agent.
Btw, what's the basic insurance for maid? Can anyone enlighten me? The agent charged me $235.40, is it the universal basic insurance for all maids? I have to pay almost $3000 including maid loan, insurance and agent fee to the agent. :roll:
My new maid has been with us for over a week now and she still seems pretty clueless. Even though she's filipino, she seems to have a hard time understanding Eng, both spoken and written. I have to admit she's hard working (i purposely picked her as she's an ox). But I also want someone who works smart. So my physical stress has been replaced by mental stress :stupid:
As for the fees, I paid 267.5 for insurance and the total bill is $2100+. It's cheaper as it's a direct hire but then I don't have the option send her back to the agent is she's not good.
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liuhao:
Btw she is married with 3 kids, youngest one already 14yrs old. I just called my agent. His advice is to give warning letter, In short its like this:i dont mind maid having male friend. but it highly depends on the nature. a married maid with husband normally gives you peace of mind. but a maid desperately looking for a boyfriend gives you big trouble.
1) get her parent's no., then have to tell her parents she has a bf here, anything happen to her is not my problem
2) it is unsafe to my home and children, the indian bf can really sweet talk to her until he go inside my hse
3) he may have a motive. She has to be careful
4) after warning still like see the man, she has to get her own air ticket and fly back
Perhaps I should talk to her seriously but she already lied to me. I dun think I can trust her anymore
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be very careful. i strongly suggest you to collect evidence first. this is important. yes agent is now standing in your side but later can change. if you dont have evidence, the maid and agent can turn against you and accuse you of over suspicious later. it will create big mess and end of the day, you could be the one who has to pay her transferring fee and airticket.
you dont have evidence now. she can simply deny everything and agent may choose to believe her!
this is exactly what happened to my previous maid. the agent initially was very angry to the maid and supported me. however after the maid met the agent and they talked and discussed, agent started to change and told me that the maid is innocent. but i have video tape as evidence. however the agent still tries to support her and keeps saying sorry to me and promises me that she is a different person now and hope i can forgive her of \"small\" mistakes blah blah blah...
pandafam:
Btw she is married with 3 kids, youngest one already 14yrs old. I just called my agent. His advice is to give warning letter, In short its like this:liuhao:
i dont mind maid having male friend. but it highly depends on the nature. a married maid with husband normally gives you peace of mind. but a maid desperately looking for a boyfriend gives you big trouble.
1) get her parent's no., then have to tell her parents she has a bf here, anything happen to her is not my problem
2) it is unsafe to my home and children, the indian bf can really sweet talk to her until he go inside my hse
3) he may have a motive. She has to be careful
4) after warning still like see the man, she has to get her own air ticket and fly back
Perhaps I should talk to her seriously but she already lied to me. I dun think I can trust her anymore -
No need to do anything.....
Just pretend nothing happen. No point given her chances....anyway she is already 1 yr 4 mths with you. Her behaviour will change. I think you also don't want to re-contract her so don't waste your time now.
Go and find a new maid and send her back. This will takes maybe few months.
I think your kids will gets along well with anyone (maids)
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