How can I get my husband to buy me something?

[Funz]

Actually my DH is one such guy. He needs a lot of verbal assurance and expressions of love. He likes little gifts and surprises. In our relationship, I am the blockhead.


Our language of love is different. Ain't that a surprise. Actually, think it is rare to be able to find a couple who has the same love language.

For me, I don't need gifts or surprises, what I want is for him to be more involved with the family and to put me first instead of the countless engagements he has. A bouquet of roses on valentine day or a diamond pendant/ring does not make up for all the times that he abandoned us to pursue his own programme.

[concern2]

Funz, you and my DH would make a perfect couple! :rotflmao: Just kidding. My DH loves to spend time with us, and takes time off from work whenever possible. But I think he's the type who needs others to tell him to 'open his eyes' to his wife's needs rather than trying to be a perfect father. :pokeeye:

[Eagle-Ladybird]

aiya, men needs direct talk and not hints . . . give me his handphone number and i’ll call him now !

[concern2]

And you think this will work? :scared: A stranger calling him up telling him he should buy something for his wife as a surprise? :nosebleed: I can't imagine what his reaction will be...\"Sorry I am not interested.\" :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

[Eagle-Ladybird]

Of course it won't work !! :rotflmao:


I would be mad if I had a call from a stranger to tell me that :spank: :lol:

OK, better go and buy flowers for wifey tonight :rubhands:

[KingRascal]

This thread is interesting


Hmm, how about having an unfamiliar email (to him) sending him a link to some online purchase? You know, like those mailers we would receive for Mothers' Day, Valentines' Day, etc., from online stores, noel flowers...

concern2:

And you think this will work? :scared: A stranger calling him up telling him he should buy something for his wife as a surprise? :nosebleed: I can't imagine what his reaction will be...\"Sorry I am not interested.\" :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

[sleepy]

Funz:

Our language of love is different. Ain't that a surprise. Actually, think it is rare to be able to find a couple who has the same love language.

Funz, I think ours is the same. Yours 'act of service' too?

I like dh to do things for me, on his own initiatives (not I nag then he does it). Open the door, carry all the heavy loads, do house chores, babysit the kids, etc etc.
dh's love language is 'words of affirmation'. This is pretty easy, I just sweet talk him, no need to spend money and he does chores for me if I dose him enough

[foreverj]

Funz:

For me, I don't need gifts or surprises, what I want is for him to be more involved with the family and to put me first instead of the countless engagements he has. A bouquet of roses on valentine day or a diamond pendant/ring does not make up for all the times that he abandoned us to pursue his own programme.

sounds like he's replacing time for you and children with lavish gifts. but does he feel guilty for abandoning you and kids to pursue his own programme? i feel the same way cos dh is those type of workaholic. if he's not working late, then he wil need to meet so-and-so for drinks. nowadays is better as he tries to reserve weekends for us since his new workplace does not allow staff to go back to office on weekends unnecessarily, heng ah!

when he mentioned he wants to pick up golf (which wil effectively take away a whole weekend), he asked me can or not? of course cannot la! :x

[sleepy]

foreverj:

when he mentioned he wants to pick up golf (which wil effectively take away a whole weekend), he asked me can or not? of course cannot la! :x

You are right, better don't start!

My dh super 'siao' golf, can play 7 days a week. Until I stomped my feet, threatened to throw bricks at him (figure of speech, not literally of course )

Now he still plays although tone down substantially after much persuasion. I seriously need him to be home every evening to practice piano with my dd2

[foreverj]

haha sleepy i shall quote u next time he broach the subject again.