Is it possible to treat your children equally?

[verykiasu2010]

Sun_2010:

KSP:

Give more love to dd is better. Here are my reasons.


1. dd next time marry, the parent will \"earn\" half a son; that will eventually equal to 1.5.
2. ds next time marry, the parent will \"lose\" half a son; that will eventaully left only 0.5.

So the decision obvious.

Actually this is becoming so obvious even in our generation now.

An accountant I presume.
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

ya, try to balance the books, no suspense accounts allowed

[janet88]

When daughter gets married, probably there is a HIGH chance I will earn a son. 1.5.


Son gets married, may probably lose 1/2 a son.

Hubby said I have ‘double standard’ between the 2 kids. When daughter gets married, I will tell her to continue working and NOT be a SAHM. Son told me he will want a wife to stay home and look after the kids/family. I didn’t teach him that though.

[tree nymph]

janet_lee88:

When daughter gets married, probably there is a HIGH chance I will earn a son. 1.5.


Son gets married, may probably lose 1/2 a son.

Hubby said I have 'double standard' between the 2 kids. When daughter gets married, I will tell her to continue working and NOT be a SAHM. Son told me he will want a wife to stay home and look after the kids/family. I didn't teach him that though.

For my MIL, the opposite is true. But her daughter is still her favourite compared to her son.

But I'm still 200% my mum's gal.

[sleepy]

Sun_2010:

I think most mums are like that ...

For grown up children:
The more talented, smarter, etc one will survive, what about the lesser one? For them to be equal, a mom has to care more abt the lesser one ...

In fact i know of a few such people. One close friend told me that the price of her success is her mom thinks she needs lesser love.

So do make sure both feel well loved...

You raise a good point. I've never seen it in this light. Thanks!

[sleepy]

markfch:

so dd1 is more talented, but dd2 is more cunning? :lol:

dd2 is more babyish. Oh so cutie cutie :snuggles:

[HyperKiasu]

DS is smart, sly, but also headstrong

DD is slow, easy going but very sensible

It is easy for me to love them equally

But impossible for me to treat them equally....

[vicki]

I have 3 sons!! Hopefully i dont lose all 3 when they get married…


But, i think i do love and treat them equally at this point in time - at least from my perspective! I just gotto double chk often n make sure that the middle son dont feel any ‘middle child’ syndrome!

[RRMummy]

janet_lee88:

Son told me he will want a wife to stay home and look after the kids/family. I didn't teach him that though.

He must be loving every minute from all the attention he has got from u being a SAHM..

:celebrate:

[janet88]

RR Mummy,

It’s so true that what the parents do reflect the child’s mindset.
As the firstborn and born with cleft, he definitely has LOTS of attention as compared to my daughter. But honestly I do love my daughter more bcos she knows how to wriggle her way to my heart.

With my son, I’m shocked that he wants a wife to stay home. I told him it’s not possible for his generation…girls are getting well-educated. I don’t want my daughter to be a SAHM.

[sleepy]

janet_lee88:

I told him it's not possible for his generation...girls are getting well-educated. I don't want my daughter to be a SAHM.

Me neither. Kind of wasted my investment on her.

My brother is supporting his parents in law. They only have daughters & both daughters not working. To lead by example, my hubby too gave my parents allowance since I'm not working

Hence, I told her unless her future hubby is able & willing to support hubby & I if she decides to stay home, else she better continues working