Is it possible to treat your children equally?

[sleepy]

Sun_2010:

I think most mums are like that ...

For grown up children:
The more talented, smarter, etc one will survive, what about the lesser one? For them to be equal, a mom has to care more abt the lesser one ...

In fact i know of a few such people. One close friend told me that the price of her success is her mom thinks she needs lesser love.

So do make sure both feel well loved...

You raise a good point. I've never seen it in this light. Thanks!

[sleepy]

markfch:

so dd1 is more talented, but dd2 is more cunning? :lol:

dd2 is more babyish. Oh so cutie cutie :snuggles:

[HyperKiasu]

DS is smart, sly, but also headstrong

DD is slow, easy going but very sensible

It is easy for me to love them equally

But impossible for me to treat them equally....

[vicki]

I have 3 sons!! Hopefully i dont lose all 3 when they get married…


But, i think i do love and treat them equally at this point in time - at least from my perspective! I just gotto double chk often n make sure that the middle son dont feel any ‘middle child’ syndrome!

[RRMummy]

janet_lee88:

Son told me he will want a wife to stay home and look after the kids/family. I didn't teach him that though.

He must be loving every minute from all the attention he has got from u being a SAHM..

:celebrate:

[janet88]

RR Mummy,

It’s so true that what the parents do reflect the child’s mindset.
As the firstborn and born with cleft, he definitely has LOTS of attention as compared to my daughter. But honestly I do love my daughter more bcos she knows how to wriggle her way to my heart.

With my son, I’m shocked that he wants a wife to stay home. I told him it’s not possible for his generation…girls are getting well-educated. I don’t want my daughter to be a SAHM.

[sleepy]

janet_lee88:

I told him it's not possible for his generation...girls are getting well-educated. I don't want my daughter to be a SAHM.

Me neither. Kind of wasted my investment on her.

My brother is supporting his parents in law. They only have daughters & both daughters not working. To lead by example, my hubby too gave my parents allowance since I'm not working

Hence, I told her unless her future hubby is able & willing to support hubby & I if she decides to stay home, else she better continues working

[janet88]

There are just 2 kids now…even hawkers’ children do not want to follow in their father’s footsteps, let alone kids 20 years from now.

My daughter at 6 is still young, but I will advise her to study hard when she goes to school.

Flat are getting more and more expensive…in time to come, don’t know if kids can afford their own place. I told my son he better study hard bcos in time to come, even eating at food court will be expensive…if get a girlfriend who wants to eat at restaurants only, all the best to him.
But I love both my kids, though in different ways.

[sleepy]

janet_lee88:

There are just 2 kids now...even hawkers' children do not want to follow in their father's footsteps, let alone kids 20 years from now.

Haha, you know some hawkers own a few landed properties?

janet_lee88:

My daughter at 6 is still young, but I will advise her to study hard when she goes to school.

That's a given. Of course must study hard.... as a back up plan.

[RRMummy]

janet_lee88:

As the firstborn and born with cleft, he definitely has LOTS of attention as compared to my daughter. But honestly I do love my daughter more bcos she knows how to wriggle her way to my heart.

We love them in the best way we can. :love: :love:

janet_lee88:

With my son, I'm shocked that he wants a wife to stay home. I told him it's not possible for his generation...girls are getting well-educated. I don't want my daughter to be a SAHM.

Goes to show that you have and are doing great at home, dear. :celebrate:

Why do you not want DD to be SAHM?

I think in every generation SAHM will still be around. Our generation is afterall much more educated than our grandparents. IMHO, there will always be a group of well-educated mummies who will choose to be SAHM. They will still find that their contribution as SAHM will far surpass that of a FTWM. We have so many mummies here like you who are well-educated SAHM and doing so well with their kids. Kudos to you all.. :celebrate:

Being SAHM or FTWM, we have our rewards, our concerns and our sacrifices. In many cases, the grass seem greener on the other side.. for me I would love it so much if I could get hubs support to be a SAHM..