Any parents here ever felt pressurized by others?
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This is an interesting thread....I need to destress and get away frm the DSA thread! It makes me feel like doing this .. :stupid: cos DSA can be so nerve wrecking.
Anyway, this is my 2 cts worth. I TRY not to be stressed by others but I think in reality it is hard. The Singapore system doesn't allow u to kick back and let the kids learn at their own pace. Like it or not, that's just the way it is.
I get frustrated sometimes cos I get tired of the rat race but at the same time I can't just let go and let the kids figure it out by themselves. The opportunity cost is very high cos our education system systematically weed out the weak ones and don't give the kids much leeway..it's almost like if u are not diligent enough to maintain yr exam results ..u end up in a weaker class and taught at a different pace/way which leads to a \"perceived\" not so favourable path.
I must clarify that I am not here to whinge..that's the system..we just hv to live with it. And if we care enough for the kids, we do our part to \"help\" them succeed academically as much as we can. What's a parent to do?
There are hypocrites amongst us who always say what they don't mean and do quite the opopsite of what they say. This is in partly due to the kiasu culture in our society. Nothing you can do about it cos it's already so enthrenched into the very fabric of our society. We just have to live with it.
I know of people who would even mislead u with information just so that you don't get a headstart..very ugly indeed.
At the end of the day, we do our best to impart the right values that they will carry with them the rest of their lives and support them in whatever they do. To me, it is about giving it their personal best. We are just facilitators to make sure they are on the right track. Now if you've done all that..CHILL! We, parents need a break too every one in a while. :lol: -
PowerPuff Mum:
At the end of the day, we do our best to impart the right values that they will carry with them the rest of their lives and support them in whatever they do. To me, it is about giving it their personal best. We are just facilitators to make sure they are on the right track. Now if you've done all that..CHILL! We, parents need a break too every one in a while. :lol:
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PowerPuff Mum:
unfortunately, what is quoted above is quite true ..... facts of life
The opportunity cost is very high cos our education system systematically weed out the weak ones and don't give the kids much leeway..it's almost like if u are not diligent enough to maintain yr exam results ..u end up in a weaker class and taught at a different pace/way which leads to a \"perceived\" not so favourable path.
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There are hypocrites amongst us who always say what they don't mean and do quite the opopsite of what they say. ....
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We just have to live with it.
I know of people who would even mislead u with information just so that you don't get a headstart..very ugly indeed.
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Hi, i am quite new here. Is pressure by your all. N2 went enrichment class? My son P1 next year. Is pre-primary necessary? Isn’ K1 and K2 classes for them to get ready in P1?
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verykiasu2010:
The problem is that many parents refuse to accept that the fact that being streamed to a weaker class or being taught at a slower pace could potentially be better for their children. In this society, everyone wants to get their kids to be in the top classes in order not to lose out (esp when the kids could be learning more stuff in the top classes than other classes).
unfortunately, what is quoted above is quite true ..... facts of lifePowerPuff Mum:
The opportunity cost is very high cos our education system systematically weed out the weak ones and don't give the kids much leeway..it's almost like if u are not diligent enough to maintain yr exam results ..u end up in a weaker class and taught at a different pace/way which leads to a \"perceived\" not so favourable path.
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There are hypocrites amongst us who always say what they don't mean and do quite the opopsite of what they say. ....
......
We just have to live with it.
I know of people who would even mislead u with information just so that you don't get a headstart..very ugly indeed.
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PowerPuff Mum:
I agree with you about there being hypocrites among us and people misleading others with misinformation.This is an interesting thread....I need to destress and get away frm the DSA thread! It makes me feel like doing this .. :stupid: cos DSA can be so nerve wrecking.
Anyway, this is my 2 cts worth. I TRY not to be stressed by others but I think in reality it is hard. The Singapore system doesn't allow u to kick back and let the kids learn at their own pace. Like it or not, that's just the way it is.
I get frustrated sometimes cos I get tired of the rat race but at the same time I can't just let go and let the kids figure it out by themselves. The opportunity cost is very high cos our education system systematically weed out the weak ones and don't give the kids much leeway..it's almost like if u are not diligent enough to maintain yr exam results ..u end up in a weaker class and taught at a different pace/way which leads to a \"perceived\" not so favourable path.
I must clarify that I am not here to whinge..that's the system..we just hv to live with it. And if we care enough for the kids, we do our part to \"help\" them succeed academically as much as we can. What's a parent to do?
There are hypocrites amongst us who always say what they don't mean and do quite the opopsite of what they say. This is in partly due to the kiasu culture in our society. Nothing you can do about it cos it's already so enthrenched into the very fabric of our society. We just have to live with it.
I know of people who would even mislead u with information just so that you don't get a headstart..very ugly indeed.
At the end of the day, we do our best to impart the right values that they will carry with them the rest of their lives and support them in whatever they do. To me, it is about giving it their personal best. We are just facilitators to make sure they are on the right track. Now if you've done all that..CHILL! We, parents need a break too every one in a while. :lol:
This mother I knew went around telling everyone how wonderful a school Nanyang Girls High, that it was so much better than RGS, that her dd was going to apply DSA for Nanyang only... She went around telling everyone that, encouraging everyone to apply for Nanyang over RGS. Turns out her dd didn't apply for Nanyang at all. Her dd applied only for RGS. It was her plan to remove competiton from RGS for her dd. Of course she overestimated her ability to influence the decisions of others.
She tried the same ploy again in selecting a Third Language. She went around telling everyone that it was VERY difficult to get into Japanese and if your child wanted to do a third language, it was better to opt for German. Never mind if the child was interested in German or not. It was just prestigious to do a third language. So she went around telling everyone not to apply for Japanese. Of course her dd, Isabella, applied for Japanese.
Sigh! What's wrong with these people? And do they think that other people can't see what they're doing? -
verykiasu2010:
I cannot agree more.Some will tell u, I believe in my child having childhood, but they are really doing the opp, way....
unfortunately, what is quoted above is quite true ..... facts of lifePowerPuff Mum:
The opportunity cost is very high cos our education system systematically weed out the weak ones and don't give the kids much leeway..it's almost like if u are not diligent enough to maintain yr exam results ..u end up in a weaker class and taught at a different pace/way which leads to a \"perceived\" not so favourable path.
....................
There are hypocrites amongst us who always say what they don't mean and do quite the opopsite of what they say. ....
......
We just have to live with it.
I know of people who would even mislead u with information just so that you don't get a headstart..very ugly indeed.
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jtoh:
It was her plan to remove competiton from RGS for her dd. Of course she overestimated her ability to influence the decisions of others.
Sigh! What's wrong with these people? And do they think that other people can't see what they're doing?
She's an insecured mum who doesn't believe in her dd having 真材实料 -
I was a careerwoman busy building my career before and have a travelling job until 5 years ago when I became a WAHM. I didn't spend enough time in Singapore to find out what are the best school etc..I thought all primary schools should be the same, right?
When it was time to register my son for primary school, I had a shock of my life when I get so many misleading information abt schools and came face to face with the ugly Singaporean syndrome where ppl purposely give you wrong information to mislead you.
Anyway, to keep a long story short..I put my son in a primary school nearest to my house and it turned out very well. I have no regrets whatsoever. The school environment is so vibrant and the principal is so hands on and very approacheable.
This is what I learned..
1. Never let anybody tell you tt your neighbourhood school is not good enough.
2. If you want to volunteer or give time to yr school..give it sincerely and unconditionally, don't expect anything in return..
3. You reap what you sow..don't expect the school to raise yr child.that's not their job!
4. You work with the school and not against the school if u want anything to be done and hv a positive outcome. Talk. Negotiate but never accuse and be defensive.
5. Love yr child in whatever form they come in.
6. Strike a balance..that applies in everything we do.
You can 't change the world we live in but we can change and adapt ourselves. Easy to say I know..it's never that easy. :lol:
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