Any parents here ever felt pressurized by others?

[hquek]

PowerPuff Mum:

You can 't change the world we live in but we can change and adapt ourselves. Easy to say I know..it's never that easy. :lol:

Thanks Powerpuff mum, you are very right!

[autumnbronze]

PowerPuff Mum:

I was a careerwoman busy building my career before and have a travelling job until 5 years ago when I became a WAHM. I didn't spend enough time in Singapore to find out what are the best school etc..I thought all primary schools should be the same, right?


When it was time to register my son for primary school, I had a shock of my life when I get so many misleading information abt schools and came face to face with the ugly Singaporean syndrome where ppl purposely give you wrong information to mislead you.

Anyway, to keep a long story short..I put my son in a primary school nearest to my house and it turned out very well. I have no regrets whatsoever. The school environment is so vibrant and the principal is so hands on and very approacheable.

This is what I learned..
1. Never let anybody tell you tt your neighbourhood school is not good enough.
2. If you want to volunteer or give time to yr school..give it sincerely and unconditionally, don't expect anything in return..
3. You reap what you sow..don't expect the school to raise yr child.that's not their job!
4. You work with the school and not against the school if u want anything to be done and hv a positive outcome. Talk. Negotiate but never accuse and be defensive.
5. Love yr child in whatever form they come in.
6. Strike a balance..that applies in everything we do.

You can 't change the world we live in but we can change and adapt ourselves. Easy to say I know..it's never that easy. :lol:

:goodpost: PowerPuff Mum ....

Yes, easy to say and its never that easy, but we gotta try .....

[verykiasu2010]

autumnbronze:

PowerPuff Mum:

I was a careerwoman busy building my career before and have a travelling job until 5 years ago when I became a WAHM. I didn't spend enough time in Singapore to find out what are the best school etc..I thought all primary schools should be the same, right?


When it was time to register my son for primary school, I had a shock of my life when I get so many misleading information abt schools and came face to face with the ugly Singaporean syndrome where ppl purposely give you wrong information to mislead you.

Anyway, to keep a long story short..I put my son in a primary school nearest to my house and it turned out very well. I have no regrets whatsoever. The school environment is so vibrant and the principal is so hands on and very approacheable.

This is what I learned..
1. Never let anybody tell you tt your neighbourhood school is not good enough.
2. If you want to volunteer or give time to yr school..give it sincerely and unconditionally, don't expect anything in return..
3. You reap what you sow..don't expect the school to raise yr child.that's not their job!
4. You work with the school and not against the school if u want anything to be done and hv a positive outcome. Talk. Negotiate but never accuse and be defensive.
5. Love yr child in whatever form they come in.
6. Strike a balance..that applies in everything we do.

You can 't change the world we live in but we can change and adapt ourselves. Easy to say I know..it's never that easy. :lol:

:goodpost: PowerPuff Mum ....

Yes, easy to say and its never that easy, but we gotta try .....

power puff mum (grown up from PPG) can still do wonders in Townsville ..... lol

always wary of people who try so hard to \"advise\" you......

[markfch]

ksi:

jtoh:

[quote=\"sleepy\"]

She's an insecured mum who doesn't believe in her dd having 真材实料

Yes, exactly.

I think it is quite naive of her to think that competition can be removed by her own single efforts alone? unless she has amazingly big network, even then, she will get a bad sorethroat from talking so much.... :rotflmao:[/quote]yalor yalor. In PSLE, our kids are not competing with our neighbours. Our kids are competing at the national level. Further down the road at 'O'/'A' or Uni, they'll be competing globally (once all the overseas scholars comes in).

If parents can have this mindset, then they won't need to be so kiasu towards personal friends.

[sleepy]

markfch:

yalor yalor. In PSLE, our kids are not competing with our neighbours. Our kids are competing at the national level. Further down the road at 'O'/'A' or Uni, they'll be competing globally (once all the overseas scholars comes in).

If parents can have this mindset, then they won't need to be so kiasu towards personal friends.

Agreed :celebrate:

I told my dd PSLE is the most important exam in primary school and then 多嘴 mentioned that PSLE scholars are usually from which top schools. She promptly asked me what's her school ranking across the nation (er.... ) and why didn't I enrol her in any of those top schools in Singapore :faint:

[jtoh]

sleepy:

markfch:

yalor yalor. In PSLE, our kids are not competing with our neighbours. Our kids are competing at the national level. Further down the road at 'O'/'A' or Uni, they'll be competing globally (once all the overseas scholars comes in).

If parents can have this mindset, then they won't need to be so kiasu towards personal friends.

Agreed :celebrate:

I told my dd PSLE is the most important exam in primary school and then 多嘴 mentioned that PSLE scholars are usually from which top schools. She promptly asked me what's her school ranking across the nation (er.... ) and why didn't I enrol her in any of those top schools in Singapore :faint:

Quickly tell her now that the top PSLE scorer was from a neighbourhood school last year.

[jtoh]

markfch:

ksi:

[quote=\"jtoh\"]
Yes, exactly.

I think it is quite naive of her to think that competition can be removed by her own single efforts alone? unless she has amazingly big network, even then, she will get a bad sorethroat from talking so much.... :rotflmao:

yalor yalor. In PSLE, our kids are not competing with our neighbours. Our kids are competing at the national level. Further down the road at 'O'/'A' or Uni, they'll be competing globally (once all the overseas scholars comes in).

If parents can have this mindset, then they won't need to be so kiasu towards personal friends.[/quote]True. But narrow-minded people like this parent don't have a global view.

[PowerPuff Mum]

[quote=\"verykiasu2010


power puff mum (grown up from PPG) can still do wonders in Townsville ..... lol
always wary of people who try so hard to \"advise\" you......[/quote]



hahahaha! :rotflmao:

[cantbearit2]

jtoh:

I agree with you about there being hypocrites among us and people misleading others with misinformation.

This mother I knew went around telling everyone how wonderful a school Nanyang Girls High, that it was so much better than RGS, that her dd was going to apply DSA for Nanyang only... She went around telling everyone that, encouraging everyone to apply for Nanyang over RGS. Turns out her dd didn't apply for Nanyang at all. Her dd applied only for RGS. It was her plan to remove competiton from RGS for her dd. Of course she overestimated her ability to influence the decisions of others.

She tried the same ploy again in selecting a Third Language. She went around telling everyone that it was VERY difficult to get into Japanese and if your child wanted to do a third language, it was better to opt for German. Never mind if the child was interested in German or not. It was just prestigious to do a third language. So she went around telling everyone not to apply for Japanese. Of course her dd, Isabella, applied for Japanese.

Sigh! What's wrong with these people? And do they think that other people can't see what they're doing?

That is really scary!!!! :scared:

Luckily I have not met such parents. So far, all the parents are quite supportive and gave me geniune advice. They are also not shy to admit their reasons for choosing one sch over another. eg. academic results

[verykiasu2010]

well, you have the following types of kiasu parents :


1. bo chap - simply don’t care

2. vain pot - appearance is of paramount importance

3. snob / show off - see, i have …(fill the blanks) and u don’t have (unspoken)

4. scheming 阴险 - say one thing and do another thing, entice the tiger to leave the mountain

5. super kaypoh - everything also want to know

6. super b1tchy - express gossipers

7. super worrier - sigh every minute and say 'cham, die liao, how, how, how …???)

8. super warrior - cheong ah!

9. super advisor : everything must tell you what you must and must not do

any more ?

and you are pressurised by which type ?