Any parents here ever felt pressurized by others?
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kiddo:
Wah this type of people also have ahhhh....... :? need to :spank: :spank: :spank:
I agree with you about there being hypocrites among us and people misleading others with misinformation.jtoh:
[quote=\"powerpuffmum\"]I know of people who would even mislead u with information just so that you don't get a headstart..very ugly indeed.
At the end of the day, we do our best to impart the right values that they will carry with them the rest of their lives and support them in whatever they do. To me, it is about giving it their personal best. We are just facilitators to make sure they are on the right track. Now if you've done all that..CHILL! We, parents need a break too every one in a while. :lol:
This mother I knew went around telling everyone how wonderful a school Nanyang Girls High, that it was so much better than RGS, that her dd was going to apply DSA for Nanyang only... She went around telling everyone that, encouraging everyone to apply for Nanyang over RGS. Turns out her dd didn't apply for Nanyang at all. Her dd applied only for RGS. It was her plan to remove competiton from RGS for her dd. Of course she overestimated her ability to influence the decisions of others.
She tried the same ploy again in selecting a Third Language. She went around telling everyone that it was VERY difficult to get into Japanese and if your child wanted to do a third language, it was better to opt for German. Never mind if the child was interested in German or not. It was just prestigious to do a third language. So she went around telling everyone not to apply for Japanese. Of course her dd, Isabella, applied for Japanese.
Sigh! What's wrong with these people? And do they think that other people can't see what they're doing?
totally agree Imparting values is more important than marks :celebrate:[/quote]Haha (bitter laugh), this reminds me of a mummy who told me last year, 'Dun go for GEP test! Not good one...' and of her dd ' one day she will be like me, a SAHM, so why study so hard?' And guess what? Her dd did sign up for the GEP test this year, and till today her dd's classmates still remember her dd sobbed miserably after receiving her SA2 results last year, telling her friends that her mum would definitely cane her for not getting the ideal result. Actually the poor gal was already one of the top gals in the best class, but her results slipped in SA2.
This mum always tries to act 'relaxed', but those who know her well enough can see through those pretentious act... I can only :stupid: last year when I start to see her true colours. Luckily, she is the only hypocrite-mummy I know.
Hope I dun have to cross path with her ever again :siam: -
Picolo:
U never \"embarress\" her by asking her \"How come you go and tell everyone dont sign up but you ka-ki sign your dd up for the test - orghhh -- bluff all of us is it??\"
Haha (bitter laugh), this reminds me of a mummy who told me last year, 'Dun go for GEP test! Not good one...' and of her dd ' one day she will be like me, a SAHM, so why study so hard?' And guess what? Her dd did sign up for the GEP test this year, and till today her dd's classmates still remember her dd sobbed miserably after receiving her SA2 results last year, telling her friends that her mum would definitely cane her for not getting the ideal result. Actually the poor gal was already one of the top gals in the best class, but her results slipped in SA2.
This mum always tries to act 'relaxed', but those who know her well enough can see through those pretentious act... I can only :stupid: last year when I start to see her true colours. Luckily, she is the only hypocrite-mummy I know.
Hope I dun have to cross path with her ever again :siam:
Usually - when you sia suay them abit -- then they will think twice before blatently telling 'lies' again. -
vicki:
Have not met her recently, so cannot 'embarrass' her yet. Furthermore, she said that to me last year, so she can feign ignorance ' got meh? did i say that?' in return. She also bad-mouthed about the top kid and the parents, so you know, she must have a lot of 'hatred' for those who win her kiddo... cannot share too much info here, else she track me down and hantem me... :!:
U never \"embarress\" her by asking her \"How come you go and tell everyone dont sign up but you ka-ki sign your dd up for the test - orghhh -- bluff all of us is it??\"Picolo:
Haha (bitter laugh), this reminds me of a mummy who told me last year, 'Dun go for GEP test! Not good one...' and of her dd ' one day she will be like me, a SAHM, so why study so hard?' And guess what? Her dd did sign up for the GEP test this year, and till today her dd's classmates still remember her dd sobbed miserably after receiving her SA2 results last year, telling her friends that her mum would definitely cane her for not getting the ideal result. Actually the poor gal was already one of the top gals in the best class, but her results slipped in SA2.
This mum always tries to act 'relaxed', but those who know her well enough can see through those pretentious act... I can only :stupid: last year when I start to see her true colours. Luckily, she is the only hypocrite-mummy I know.
Hope I dun have to cross path with her ever again :siam:
Usually - when you sia suay them abit -- then they will think twice before blatently telling 'lies' again. -
Picolo:
Have not met her recently, so cannot 'embarrass' her yet. Furthermore, she said that to me last year, so she can feign ignorance ' got meh? did i say that?' in return. She also bad-mouthed about the top kid and the parents, so you know, she must have a lot of 'hatred' for those who win her kiddo... cannot share too much info here, else she track me down and hantem me... :!:[/quote]Yes, people like that will deny everything if called out on it. Can you imagine the pressure their poor children are under? Parents like that will not accept second best from their children. Unfortunately I've seen a lot of stressed out kids crying their hearts out after receiving their results saying their parents will cane them because they're not #1. Sad, but true.
U never \"embarress\" her by asking her \"How come you go and tell everyone dont sign up but you ka-ki sign your dd up for the test - orghhh -- bluff all of us is it??\"vicki:
[quote=\"Picolo\"]
Haha (bitter laugh), this reminds me of a mummy who told me last year, 'Dun go for GEP test! Not good one...' and of her dd ' one day she will be like me, a SAHM, so why study so hard?' And guess what? Her dd did sign up for the GEP test this year, and till today her dd's classmates still remember her dd sobbed miserably after receiving her SA2 results last year, telling her friends that her mum would definitely cane her for not getting the ideal result. Actually the poor gal was already one of the top gals in the best class, but her results slipped in SA2.
This mum always tries to act 'relaxed', but those who know her well enough can see through those pretentious act... I can only :stupid: last year when I start to see her true colours. Luckily, she is the only hypocrite-mummy I know.
Hope I dun have to cross path with her ever again :siam:
Usually - when you sia suay them abit -- then they will think twice before blatently telling 'lies' again. -
Reading all these postings about those pretentious mums made me self-reflect.
I think I've been very kancheong type and always asking friends to plan ahead for P1 registration as well as build their kids' foundation so they have a smooth sailing time in primary school...
When kids do well, I will display I am happy. But I am really happy because our efforts paid off not because of \"show off\" factor. Similarly, when they do badly, I am very disappointed and I let it show. I am also transparent if they don't do well and I don't hide.
Going through these, I hope no one will classify me under those pretentious mums
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Just to share about the caning of child when they dont do well.
My child did not do very well during one of the exam, he actually went round and tell the whole class that I will cane him, which is never the case.sometime, kids never really tell the truth too.
Talking about hypocrate parents,I have come across some.
1 Recommend u a lousy tuition teacher that is no good as they have tried out.Good tutor only meant for themselve, and will not share.
They will tell u their kids have no tuition.
2Tell the world that they will let the children to enjoy their childhood, but , actually is working the child very hard.
3 Knowing their own kids are good, yet will tell u their own is no good, but actually they are working very hard and is beyond good.
Not only parents are like that, sometime, the children also behaves like the parents…very sad to see this… -
Leanne:
3 Knowing their own kids are good, yet will tell u their own is no good, but actually they are working very hard and is beyond good.
Maybe their benchmark is high???? Eg. they know their kids are good but probably they are expecting them to be \"perfect\" so they are still not good enough in their eyes :? -
Leanne:
Children pick up cues from their parents on how to behave. Parents like this probably tell the kids not to share information with their classmates.
Not only parents are like that, sometime, the children also behaves like the parents...very sad to see this... -
"Not only parents are like that, sometime, the children also behaves like the parents…very sad to see this…"
I know someone. Her son is so obnoxious and rude…I think he just pick the ques from his mom and think he can be so condescending to others.
Her son is academically not as good as my son and yet he will behave like he’s so superior. Once he asked my son…what did you get for Maths, English and Science for SA2…I wanna know whether you are good enough!!
I told my son never to compare grades cos it proves nothing, if you are really good, you will get into a good sec school. Work hard and prove yourself and don’t need to be such a braggart. -
MMM:
Being happy wif kids' results is not a sin. U R juz being U!Reading all these postings about those pretentious mums made me self-reflect.
I think I've been very kancheong type and always asking friends to plan ahead for P1 registration as well as build their kids' foundation so they have a smooth sailing time in primary school...
When kids do well, I will display I am happy. But I am really happy because our efforts paid off not because of \"show off\" factor. Similarly, when they do badly, I am very disappointed and I let it show. I am also transparent if they don't do well and I don't hide.
Going through these, I hope no one will classify me under those pretentious mums
I will find it scary only when pple tell me thgs that will put them at an advantage but at my expense. Those are pretentious mums.
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