Any parents here ever felt pressurized by others?
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Reading all these postings about those pretentious mums made me self-reflect.
I think I've been very kancheong type and always asking friends to plan ahead for P1 registration as well as build their kids' foundation so they have a smooth sailing time in primary school...
When kids do well, I will display I am happy. But I am really happy because our efforts paid off not because of \"show off\" factor. Similarly, when they do badly, I am very disappointed and I let it show. I am also transparent if they don't do well and I don't hide.
Going through these, I hope no one will classify me under those pretentious mums
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Just to share about the caning of child when they dont do well.
My child did not do very well during one of the exam, he actually went round and tell the whole class that I will cane him, which is never the case.sometime, kids never really tell the truth too.
Talking about hypocrate parents,I have come across some.
1 Recommend u a lousy tuition teacher that is no good as they have tried out.Good tutor only meant for themselve, and will not share.
They will tell u their kids have no tuition.
2Tell the world that they will let the children to enjoy their childhood, but , actually is working the child very hard.
3 Knowing their own kids are good, yet will tell u their own is no good, but actually they are working very hard and is beyond good.
Not only parents are like that, sometime, the children also behaves like the parents…very sad to see this… -
Leanne:
3 Knowing their own kids are good, yet will tell u their own is no good, but actually they are working very hard and is beyond good.
Maybe their benchmark is high???? Eg. they know their kids are good but probably they are expecting them to be \"perfect\" so they are still not good enough in their eyes :? -
Leanne:
Children pick up cues from their parents on how to behave. Parents like this probably tell the kids not to share information with their classmates.
Not only parents are like that, sometime, the children also behaves like the parents...very sad to see this... -
"Not only parents are like that, sometime, the children also behaves like the parents…very sad to see this…"
I know someone. Her son is so obnoxious and rude…I think he just pick the ques from his mom and think he can be so condescending to others.
Her son is academically not as good as my son and yet he will behave like he’s so superior. Once he asked my son…what did you get for Maths, English and Science for SA2…I wanna know whether you are good enough!!
I told my son never to compare grades cos it proves nothing, if you are really good, you will get into a good sec school. Work hard and prove yourself and don’t need to be such a braggart. -
MMM:
Being happy wif kids' results is not a sin. U R juz being U!Reading all these postings about those pretentious mums made me self-reflect.
I think I've been very kancheong type and always asking friends to plan ahead for P1 registration as well as build their kids' foundation so they have a smooth sailing time in primary school...
When kids do well, I will display I am happy. But I am really happy because our efforts paid off not because of \"show off\" factor. Similarly, when they do badly, I am very disappointed and I let it show. I am also transparent if they don't do well and I don't hide.
Going through these, I hope no one will classify me under those pretentious mums
I will find it scary only when pple tell me thgs that will put them at an advantage but at my expense. Those are pretentious mums. -
MMM:
Or perhaps they are humble, wanna keep a low profile, don't want to appear 'hou lian' ? If go around telling the whole neighbourhood how good their kids are also totally turn people offLeanne:
3 Knowing their own kids are good, yet will tell u their own is no good, but actually they are working very hard and is beyond good.
Maybe their benchmark is high???? Eg. they know their kids are good but probably they are expecting them to be \"perfect\" so they are still not good enough in their eyes :?
Actually come to think about it - say or don't say, either way somehow someone would have something to say :scratchhead:
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