All About Full-Time Maids

[DesertWind]

Dear Joanne,


I boldly \"BET\" you on the following since I am speaking from my own experience with my maid who is with me for 3 years already and has already started building her house (not yet finished):

(1) I bet your maid will not be able to fully build her house even with your 2-months loan in advance.
(2) I bet your maid will definitely come back to work for you since she is both willing and also in need of money for a good goal - ie. build her house.
(3) Her home in Bintan very near Singapore right? Take ferry? Should not be too difficult to come back to work for you after her home leave?
(4) So although I can be quite sure that she will come back to work for you and she is a good maid, I still have this to recommend \"MAX ONE MONTH\" only! There is actually no obligation for you to loan her at all but to \"keep relationship\", max is 1 month. She can take it or leave it.
(5) Your maid being a good maid must know how to compromise as well. Either she start building this October or she defer further. Any chance you will allow her to go home next year?
(6) My own maid after working for 2 years got enough money to buy land , give money to her family, pay for daughter's study, medical costs, birth certs, and buy sand, bricks and wood, materials for her house...etc..etc but she could not start building even after 2 years working and saving all her pay because of all these expenses.
(7) In the 3rd year this July, she went home and get the workers to start building using the materials she has already purchased. At the end of 2 weeks home leave, she got the basic infrastructure up and roof covered but not yet cement all the walls, put in windows and doors etc! (need more money!!). By then I put 2 weeks of pay into her account and she came back to work for me.

She told me she still otang the 10 workers about one week of wages of which she negotiated she will pay them only 3 months after she came back to work. Did she ask me to loan her to pay workers off? No, she is a sensible maid. Did I volunteer to loan her to pay the workers off? No, although I am a kind-enough employer. Why leh? Because loan too much it will spoil the working relationship for both maid and employer.

Sorry for being long-winded but hope my sharing of information will help you to make your decision.

:celebrate:

[DesertWind]

Dear Joanne,


Another suggestion for your consideration is to let her go home next year after renewing her contract and after you have shifted to new house and settled down. That way she is not going home too early, got enough money and you also get her help.

You can check with your maid whether this would be better?

:celebrate:

[cmm]

Those are very sound advice from DesertWind. Wld definitely bear these in mind if I ever get into this kind of situation in future… Thanks DesertWind!!

[shine_fs]

We can always T/T the money back to her home town, right :?


Possible the employer just absorb the handling fee.

When she come back after her home leave, it will be safer to loan her advance $$.

Is not advisable to loan her money to bring back. Cos it happened to my sister's maid. Asked for advance $ for 2 mths loan and din come back.

F.Y.I, she also a good maid :x

[Joanne_31]

Hi DesertWind,


Many thanks for the very helpful suggestions.

According to my helper, she already has the money for the building material. Her brother is in construction line. During her home leave, she will be paying the workers a certain portion of the money and will leave the rest of the money with her brother. As she is the main breadwinner of the family (her husband is also working but not earning as much as her), her family is waiting for her to go back to take care of the financial details.

I dont know if she would be able to build her house in Bintan with those money or not. She said she will shift her family to the new house when ready in order to be near her in SG. Actually i also dont want to cultivate such practices between us but since she spoken to me, I find it hard to reject her. I wont voluntee to send her money. Just in case.

[Joanne_31]

shine_fs:

We can always T/T the money back to her home town, right :?


Possible the employer just absorb the handling fee.

When she come back after her home leave, it will be safer to loan her advance $$.

Is not advisable to loan her money to bring back. Cos it happened to my sister's maid. Asked for advance $ for 2 mths loan and din come back.

F.Y.I, she also a good maid :x

Oh good idea! never tot of that. Will sound her out tonight

[Joanne_31]

I have sound out the idea proposed by shine_fs last night. My helper said have to discuss with her family first but I dont forsee her family will agree to it. Guess i will leave it in her hand for the time being.

[shine_fs]

Joanne_31:

I have sound out the idea proposed by shine_fs last night. My helper said have to discuss with her family first but I dont forsee her family will agree to it. Guess i will leave it in her hand for the time being.

Remit the money only take 1 day woh....I can't understand if she disagree. And don't let her neg with you, if not she will become more daring.

[MrsSeah]

shine_fs:

Joanne_31:

I have sound out the idea proposed by shine_fs last night. My helper said have to discuss with her family first but I dont forsee her family will agree to it. Guess i will leave it in her hand for the time being.

Remit the money only take 1 day woh....I can't understand if she disagree. And don't let her neg with you, if not she will become more daring.

Yes. T/T very fast one. My indo maid t/t by western union thru post office, with 5 minutes, her family member can get the money at western union over their side.

So I don't see why her family member can't agreed to it. :roll:

[cher_06]

my maid just made my blood pressure boil.


Now there is a great demand for transfer filippino maids as filippino has problems coming to Singapore. Please do not employ her to save yourself alot of heart ache. I am asking her to go home, but she refuse and wants a transfer!!!

for those need her name, please do not hesitate to check with me.