In-law problems?
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Dear LKVM and hapydino,
Thank you both.
It's just that this morning DD cut her upper lip when she fell.
Two weeks ago she fell from the bed and had a baluku.
All under MIL's care (?).
She'd apologise profusely to me and I'd let both incidents go.
Children learning how to walk will have many accidents, I give.
Until that fated phone call from DH.
$@#$%@%@^@&*
I'm sad to feel so angry.
When I think of Mummy buds
Haiz, motherhood really isn't for sissies. -
hapydino:
Sorry to hear.my DD is 1st grandchild of both sides.. my MIL said no big celebration for DD's full month as her side siblings won't attend so she conclude since her relatives dun wan to attend, we dun need to order buffet etc but what about fil's side of relatives?? she dun care..
not to mention she nv remember's DD's birthday for 3 yrs running..
this yr, we turned up at her place with DD's birthday cake and she goes oh i forget again, sorry sorry.. :x
And yet you're a hapydino.
Kudos to you :celebrate: -
duriz:
Don't mean to rub salt in, but how come your daughter's birthday is a normal dinner with no guests ? Are your parents attending ?DH just called to say his mom doesn't want a big celebration but only a dinner at home among ourselves, no guests, just like dinner everyday. He also added that they are at the cake shop, can they go ahead and order the cake.
The only I said to him was:\"If you are the mother of the child, would you like to see how the cake looks like before ordering it?\" -
janet_lee88:
Don't mean to rub salt in, but how come your daughter's birthday is a normal dinner with no guests ? Are your parents attending ?
No problem.
And no.
Just the people living under the same roof.
PILs, BIL (if he's around) and the three of us.
MIL prefers to keep it simple.
I beg to differ.
I'm not thinking of a big birthday bash with 500 guests.
But I'm not agreeable to her idea either. -
Duriz,
Your MIL funny ah…birthday dinner for just the people under the same roof. It’s not like you’re having a dinner with 5 tables.
Mine here is the bochap type…she wants others to remember her birthday and not the other way. When SIL invited her for daughter’s birthday party, she arrived late and wants transport to/fro. She will also have that damn buay shiok look. -
duriz:
If she gets it done her way, it will be more difficult to 'handle' in future..janet_lee88:
Don't mean to rub salt in, but how come your daughter's birthday is a normal dinner with no guests ? Are your parents attending ?
No problem.
And no.
Just the people living under the same roof.
PILs, BIL (if he's around) and the three of us.
MIL prefers to keep it simple.
I beg to differ.
I'm not thinking of a big birthday bash with 500 guests.
But I'm not agreeable to her idea either.
Drop her strong hints can? -
Hi Duriz,
I think you have every right to decide, since you are mummy.
This reminds me of the time when my son was born. Told me she didn’t like the name SIL gave to her daughter. I asked her if she was the one who named her 4 kids…and she said YES. So I asked her, ‘why can’t the mother name her own kid ?’ -
janet_lee88:
my MIL told me that I have no right to name my own kids, saying that i'm not senior enough nor knowledagble - what crap! Out of politeness, we ask her to list down a list of nice English names that she like for us to pick. And I will give my kids chinese names. She insulted me saying i'm not qualified to name my kids! She - does not know a single word of Mandarin - wanted HER mum to name my child, who was also educated in English???!!!Hi Duriz,
I think you have every right to decide, since you are mummy.
This reminds me of the time when my son was born. Told me she didn't like the name SIL gave to her daughter. I asked her if she was the one who named her 4 kids...and she said YES. So I asked her, 'why can't the mother name her own kid ?'
No choice, I have to give up my rights and pay for a name...
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duriz:
Duriz,janet_lee88:
Don't mean to rub salt in, but how come your daughter's birthday is a normal dinner with no guests ? Are your parents attending ?
No problem.
And no.
Just the people living under the same roof.
PILs, BIL (if he's around) and the three of us.
MIL prefers to keep it simple.
I beg to differ.
I'm not thinking of a big birthday bash with 500 guests.
But I'm not agreeable to her idea either.
If I were you, I will go ahead with the birthday celebration. You can do this:
Choose one weekend to hold the birthday celebration. invite your best friends, your relatives and cook up a storm or just order buffet. Order the cake you want!
On the actual birthday, keep it simple and have a small celebration for the people living under the same roof lor. Then can just get a normal cake lah.
In this case you are still having a small celebration with the family only on her actual birthday, not wrong. -
tree nymph's suggestion sounds great..
I will order another cake for DD 'in case' I drop y MIL's cake leh
Soli, that was evil me..
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