In-law problems?

[Mrs Ang]

janet_lee88:

I have a SIL who can be nasty too...out of the blue one April Fool's Day, she called me just to create trouble and I didn't even do anything.

救命啊 ! Thought it was an April Fool's Day joke but it wasn't. Got fed-up and sms-ed her back to ask what went wrong with HER !!! For nothing gave me so much sh!@ with so many crazy sms-es.

From then on, I stay ARMS length and MILES away from her. Scared of her. Told hubby about it, since I think he should know.

Haha....I also have crazy SILs. One called me to talk about my prob with my MIL and etc. The other SIL wrote me a email which I forwarded to my DH and told him that I didn't know your sister \"miss\" u so much. Looking at their behaviour when we visited PIL once a mth, their \"misses\" don't carry any meaning or love in it.

[Jennifer]

buds:

I'm trusting hubs will do it right this time.

Am upset to read these updates from you. Thought things were finally to be proper for you, a brand new happy start.

Dun give up though. Wld be rooting for you :snuggles:

[janet88]

Mrs Ang:

janet_lee88:

I have a SIL who can be nasty too...out of the blue one April Fool's Day, she called me just to create trouble and I didn't even do anything.

救命啊 ! Thought it was an April Fool's Day joke but it wasn't. Got fed-up and sms-ed her back to ask what went wrong with HER !!! For nothing gave me so much sh!@ with so many crazy sms-es.

Haha....I also have crazy SILs. One called me to talk about my prob with my MIL and etc. The other SIL wrote me a email which I forwarded to my DH and told him that I didn't know your sister \"miss\" u so much.

There was once she told me wanted to divorce BIL. Talked to BIL and he told me they had problems, told him to discuss and talk things out. He is a nice guy. Know what happened after that ? That crazy woman called me on my mobile and said I had no integrity :x OMG, what the hell did I do wrong.

[kanyaramesh]

hapydino:

i have told my HB right from day 1 too.. and reminded him every now and then..

buds:

I too thought the same but i relented and sacrificed for the love for my
husband... in consideration of his dilemma... in the pride of how i had
been raised by my family well enough to respect my elders & understand
their silver journey.

The sad part was definitely that he failed to see through what i've done
to make sure we are together as a family... no matter where we were.
When things happen at home, he'd just say dun care where we live right
as long as there's a place to live... a roof over our heads. I thought it is
supposed to be a home where family is... a sense of belonging... where
we can be happy together, but to solve or rather dismiss the issues at
hand which he thinks are petty or rather he tries not to dwell on them...
he says it can just be a house where everybody lives.

Dear Buds

I chanced upon this topic and got interested in your posts. I must say your fortitude and patience over the past 10 years is more than admirable. You have been an excellant DIL. Your PILs should worship the ground you walk upon but instead treated you so badly.

I will pray for you and hope that you will have the much deserved peace and happiness in your new home.
:ugogirl:

[buds]

janet_lee88:

Hi buds,

Your pregnancy and the post-natal stage is the best time for your parents to come into the picture. Your hubby would definitely know by now what post-natal blues are. Hope your hubby will ask your parents to look after you. Take care.

Oh you won't believe when i tell you that hubs thinks that post natal
blues are something i pushed myself into. Think too much until stress.
It can be something that can be avoided. Choice of care for me would
be my decision ultimately. Of course i would go with the person i am most
comfortable with and whom i trust can take care of me sincerely with utmost
love in her heart.

He offered to ask once but i said no thank you immediately. :siam:

[buds]

LKVM:

buds I like schweppes's idea for renting a place it will be too far yet too near for ur DH

Just think of it this way, we're talking Singapore.
And how big is Singapore? :idea: Nowhere is far
enough to travel from one end to another within
the hour. That is why when BIL doesn't come
knocking to visit his family, i wonder is it really
that far.... but i guess their absence makes ILs
heart grow fonder. As for my case, ermmm.....
familiarity breeds contempt?

[Andaiz]

my dear buds, I don't know how or where to begin! I shall echo autumnbronze's expressions!


Big hug my friend. :snuggles: for DD1, :snuggles: for DD, :snuggles: for BB and

:snuggles: for you...

LKVM and schweppes's idea of renting a place for the IL's is probably the way to go, dear...it has to be SEPARATE households or zilch!

[buds]

Jennifer:

Am upset to read these updates from you. Thought things were finally to be proper for you, a brand new happy start.


Dun give up though. Wld be rooting for you :snuggles:

Was feeling pretty upset over the weeks over many different reasons,
Jen. I thought too that things were finally looking out for me... and that
i'm so close to that promised brand new start. No, i'm not giving up. After
this long and this close, i wud give it one last pit with all i've got in me.

I am indeed a fighter within just that perhaps all this time i fought too much
like a girl. :lol: Thanks Jennifer for your kind words and your rooting for me
makes me feel all warm and fuzzy here... :love:

To a brand new start.. :celebrate:

:snuggles:

[Andaiz]

buds:

but i guess their absence makes ILs

heart grow fonder. As for my case, ermmm.....
familiarity breeds contempt?

it ain't that....MIL probably has the same idea as mine - she needs to \"show that she is being fair\" so the everyday-ness of her encounter with you, she needs to show the best to other DIL (i.e., SIL).

It's okay, so long as we trampled on people bounce back and are BIGGER THAN LIFE!
:love:

[buds]

kanyaramesh:

Dear Buds


I chanced upon this topic and got interested in your posts. I must say your fortitude and patience over the past 10 years is more than admirable. You have been an excellant DIL. Your PILs should worship the ground you walk upon but instead treated you so badly.

I will pray for you and hope that you will have the much deserved peace and happiness in your new home.
:ugogirl:

WHOAH! :!:

This is the ultimate i've gotten thus far, new friend. :salute:
You're just visiting today and you seem to already understand the constant
turbulences i'm facing with my ILs. I try to think i have been an excellent DIL
but i may not have been in their eyes. All this years i tried to gauge what wud
make them tick (in a good way) in response to what i did or may have done
to make them happy. I came back from that research with nothing still cos to
date, i dunno what wud make them happy other than just take my husband
and children away from me for good. Worship the ground i walk upon is definitely
something i dare not even dream or rather even think of cause that ain't never
gonna happen in twilight years. All i have been yearning for was basic respect,
some personal space, less intrusion into my marriage and motherhood and yes,
a little love would be nice. By that i meant, genuine ones. Not pretend ones.

Yes, kanyaramesh.. peace is what should ideally come should all the promises
that have been made eventually be fulfilled. I hope i live to see that day.