All About Full-Time Maids

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auntieM:

I've seen maid pushing stroller and yakking on handphone in the light rain.. bochap the baby getting wet, and chiong traffic light somemore :x .. ...

Obviously she is not aware that using handphone increases rate of lightning strike? Not scared '被雷劈‘.

[KoalaMummy]

duriz:

KoalaMummy:

just hope that she'll appreciate it and work well for us and not to abuse it.

All the best KoalaMummy.
Hope you maid appreciates and remembers your gesture

Thanks, Duriz. :celebrate:

[KoalaMummy]

LKVM:

duriz:

[quote=\"KoalaMummy\"] just hope that she'll appreciate it and work well for us and not to abuse it.

All the best KoalaMummy.
Hope you maid appreciates and remembers your gesture

Yes I too hope she doesnt misuses it after meeting ppl outside [/quote]Actually, my maid has a lot of relatives and friends here...but she's a matured adults lah... i trust her a lot... jus that i din trust the wrong person.

[duriz]

DesertWind:

Hi duriz, Thanks! So are you currently maid-hunting or something? Decided from which country to get?

We are deciding on a maid from Indonesia.
But I'm thinking of going back to be a SAHM.
I love being with DD.
It's just that we stay with PILs.
When I was a SAHM (and during weekends/PHs now that I'm a FTWM), I'm so bogged down by housework.
Every night after dinner, I'm doing the dishes and sterilising DD's things, DH and DD will hang around the kitchen playing with magnets on the fridge and doodling on recycled paper because they miss and want to be near me. MIL will be watching tv alone in the living room.
DD is now at the age when she sees me leave/not in the same room as her, she will wail for me. Even though I spend 10-12 hours away form her due to work. MIL will suan and say she takes good care of DD but all DD wants is her momma. HAH :love:
Dilemma. See how lah. Still contemplating options.

Thanks for asking DesertWind :celebrate:

[janet88]

It’s nice to be a SAHM, but the housework can kill. Maid is good having around to do all the non-value added stuff like washing up/laundry so that you will have time to spend with your kids instead of having to do all these.

[cmm]

DesertWind:

Hi cmm,

Although glad your maid is working out well but ya....a bit alarmed by the scalding incidence though! :!:
So you have extended this maid's contract already?
Are you a SAHM or working? Who is watching over your maid?

:celebrate:

Yes, just extended her contract in July. I'm self-employed, so working very flexible hours. When I'm at work, I park my kids at my mom's place so she can jaga them.

The scalding incident was definitely sim tiah for me. But it was an accident, albeit plus carelessness on my maid's part. Surely having something like this happen due to an accident (which I can forgive) is much bearable than with malicious intent. We've all heard of horror stories here and there. Hence, with the quality of maids coming in nowadays (she was my 3rd in a year), mai hiam liao lor.... :roll:

As my kids get older, I'm slowly relieving her of the child minding duties. I'm working towards being maid-free. She should be my last maid.

[DesertWind]

Hi duriz,

I can understand your dilemma! When my DS was about 1+, I too had such a strong urge to stop working and just look after him full-time. Missed him so much during the day at work! But of course when I actually managed to spend full-time with him (during 2-weeks maid vacation), I found that actually my disposition was not much suitable to be a SAHM. Sadly even my hubby said that, firstly I got so tired of doing housework, secondly I was so tired from cooking, washing, bathing him that I got short-tempered with my DS when he even slightly messed things up like when eating!

With maid, I made conscious effort to spend time with him whenever I can ie. in the evening and night he sleep with me and during weekends/PH I will play with him and bath him. Having a maid to help out is certainly good so that I won't get so \"pek chek\" when he messes things up!

Perhaps you can start by having a maid first and see how it works out. With your MIL around, certainly there is somebody watching over her so cut down one less worry since she can help your MIL. Maid can do those heavy-duty work whereas you will do those that brings you close to DD like bathing, feeding, playing etc!

But yes you should take time to consider your options and see what you would really like to do. All the best!
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duriz:

But I'm thinking of going back to be a SAHM.
I love being with DD. It's just that we stay with PILs.
When I was a SAHM (and during weekends/PHs now that I'm a FTWM), I'm so bogged down by housework......DH and DD will hang around the kitchen playing with magnets on the fridge and doodling on recycled paper because they miss and want to be near me..........all DD wants is her momma. HAH :love:
Dilemma. See how lah. Still contemplating options. :celebrate:

[DesertWind]

cmm:

.....with the quality of maids coming in nowadays (she was my 3rd in a year), mai hiam liao lor.... :roll: As my kids get older, I'm slowly relieving her of the child minding duties. I'm working towards being maid-free. She should be my last maid.

Hi cmm,

I like your \"mai hiam liao lor\"...! hee...hee...hee...

Another phrase I can think of is \"chin chye lah...!\"

I think your maid must like working for you!

Anyway, maid is maid, less we rely on them the better!

All the best!

:celebrate:

[HappyAvon]

Hi all, I recently spot checked on my maid's hp n realized she had been using the hp whenever I'm not at home...I'm a SAHM but I still go to hubby's office in d am n then fetch my girl from childcare in noon..on certain days of the week I may oso need to send my girl for her enrichment classes in the afternoon..I started to chk on her cos I realized she seems to be getting forgetful n seems to be rushing to bed even at 9 pm plus...we actually allowed her to rest for the nite at 10 pm daily...to my surprise, she had been using her hp even at 11 pm plus or even midnite...lately I saw a local hp no whom she always SMS n seems to be some mushy smses....so I got my gf's help to call d hp n the recipient turned out to be a man!!! I was very disappointed wif her n we have decided to send her back to agent this weekend.... Her work is acceptable but we cannot tolerate her having affairs here n knowing she is married wif kid...it really reflects badly on her....I hv not told her abt it n intend to just ask her to pack on d day itself..... I knw it's useless to confront her cos she will not admits it n is those hard headed type... I will just tell her I do not need a maid anymore....haiz... Cannot understand why these maids do not knw how to behave properly.... :?

[auntieM]

HappyAvon,

Really ‘heng’ that you managed to pick up the tell tale signs early and decided on taking action behind her back…
Make sure you have company when you break the news to her in case she turn ‘havoc’…