In-law problems?

[janet88]

I think we are :offtopic: already. HaHaHa.

But a quick note before we go back to the main topic again, mummies do kiss your sons while they still allow you to. Mine here (10 years old) doesn't allow me to give him a peck when he turned 7.

Ok, back to MAIN topic again before Chief is unhappy.

[CatTy 007]

Let me bring u guys back to topic then. Hahaha...

I voted no It's not easy for 2 ppl to stay together. I can still remember the initial teething probes I have with my dear. We can quarrel over the simplest thing like putting the toilet seat up, pack his things, etc... Imagine living with in laws. Gosh... Things will get worse if his parents were to side him during our arguments. But having said that, we should still stay near to our in laws. I stay in the same vincinty as my inlaws and we're doing well. It helps to forge a stronger family bond and they won't be interefering with all my domestic problems thus lowering the percentage of clashes of interest or philosophy. Thus my relationship with my in laws are not too bad. I must confess that the external help is really beneficial too :lol:

[Monster Mummy]

Hi,


I think that it’s true not easy for 2 ppl to stay together with the different background and living style. Sometime, even siblings also can’t get along. I believed that is the give and take but never leave the hard feeling else it will carry on for life.

[janet88]

CatTy 007:

Let me bring u guys back to topic then. Hahaha...

I voted no It's not easy for 2 ppl to stay together. I can still remember the initial teething probes I have with my dear. We can quarrel over the simplest thing like putting the toilet seat up, pack his things, etc... Imagine living with in laws. Gosh... Things will get worse if his parents were to side him during our arguments.

After marriage, it's tough enough to adjust to each other's habits and if staying with in-laws, it means adjusting to 3 people's habits as well. Worse if his mother defends him for everything.

[CatTy 007]

Yup, very true. But i feel it’s essential to still stay nearby cos good to inculcate strong family bonds to our children.

[janet88]

CatTy 007:

Yup, very true. But i feel it's essential to still stay nearby cos good to inculcate strong family bonds to our children.

Sorry I can't bring myself to stay near in-laws as their values aren't very good. I had a tough time in first few years after marriage - issues like hygiene and wrong mindset.

[CatTy 007]

Jia jia you Ben nan nian de jing… Must be hard on u. Take care ya

[janet88]

CatTy 007:

Jia jia you Ben nan nian de jing... Must be hard on u. Take care ya

I am very particular about hygiene. That was the hardest part.

[minnie2004]

janet_lee88:

CatTy 007:

Jia jia you Ben nan nian de jing... Must be hard on u. Take care ya

I am very particular about hygiene. That was the hardest part.

same here! It seems my mil's family has v different hygiene standards from my family, and its evident that the bad habits have been passed to her 2 sons. This was also the reason she kicked me out of her house when we visited her in the US when dd was 10 months old. Hygiene was especially important for small babies and it's not something I was ready to compromise. My relationship with mil was never good in the first place and this was like the last straw.

[janet88]

minnie2004:

janet_lee88:

[quote=\"CatTy 007\"]Jia jia you Ben nan nian de jing... Must be hard on u. Take care ya

I am very particular about hygiene. That was the hardest part.

same here! It seems my mil's family has v different hygiene standards from my family, and its evident that the bad habits have been passed to her 2 sons. [/quote]To begin with, the values she passes on are wrong. I cannot accept that.
Hygiene wise, I am very particular esp with SARS and HFMD now.