All About Full-Time Maids

[moonee]

Just curious, has anyone here reached quota of 5 or 6 maids and had application put on hold by MOM till employers course ws completed or had interview with their officer?

[janet88]

Angelight,

I ever asked my agent the same question - aren’t maids human too and why they never appreciate ???
She told me those Indonesian maids simply do not take other people’s kind thoughts into consideration 不重情, 没有人情味. It’s very very true.
But I can’t bring myself to ill-treat or scream at them.

[minnie2004]

I have learned my lessons not to treat them like family members ever since my first maid. No matter how well we treated them, they eventually left for greener pasture - all three of them left for Europe after just one year. So for our current one, we are giving her fewer perks such as phone cards, pocket money, and not let her sleep in our aircon guest room. We also don’t take her out as often and go on holidays w/o her (partially it’s b/c our kids r bigger now). They r after all, workers, not family.

[HappyAvon]

minnie2004:

I have learned my lessons not to treat them like family members ever since my first maid. No matter how well we treated them, they eventually left for greener pasture - all three of them left for Europe after just one year. So for our current one, we are giving her fewer perks such as phone cards, pocket money, and not let her sleep in our aircon guest room. We also don't take her out as often and go on holidays w/o her (partially it's b/c our kids r bigger now). They r after all, workers, not family.

Hi minnie2004, I agreed with you.. They do not appreciate us cos They do not treat us like their family too..they think they are just here to work n be paid..I had set my maid back on Thursday n now feel so much relieved...strangely, my 5 yrs old girl Is happy n did not miss her at all even though she had been with us for 11/2 yrs.. When I came back on d same day n chatting with next door neighbour, I was told the maid is always chatting on d hp with her earpiece when I was out in d am....u see..this is just one of the things she does when I'm not around...but when I'm around, things are different...they are just too good in their acting..all these I can close one eye but having bf is definitely a no no for me...they just get bolder n bolder each time if we dun take any actions

[HappyAvon]

minnie2004:

I have learned my lessons not to treat them like family members ever since my first maid. No matter how well we treated them, they eventually left for greener pasture - all three of them left for Europe after just one year. So for our current one, we are giving her fewer perks such as phone cards, pocket money, and not let her sleep in our aircon guest room. We also don't take her out as often and go on holidays w/o her (partially it's b/c our kids r bigger now). They r after all, workers, not family.

Hi minnie2004, I agreed with you.. They do not appreciate us cos They do not treat us like their family too..they think they are just here to work n be paid..I had set my maid back on Thursday n now feel so much relieved...strangely, my 5 yrs old girl Is happy n did not miss her at all even though she had been with us for 11/2 yrs.. When I came back on d same day n chatting with next door neighbour, I was told the maid is always chatting on d hp with her earpiece when I was out in d am....u see..this is just one of the things she does when I'm not around...but when I'm around, things are different...they are just too good in their acting..all these I can close one eye but having bf is definitely a no no for me...they just get bolder n bolder each time if we dun take any actions

[janet88]

minnie2004:

I have learned my lessons not to treat them like family members ever since my first maid. No matter how well we treated them, they eventually left for greener pasture - all three of them left for Europe after just one year. So for our current one, we are giving her fewer perks such as phone cards, pocket money.

I couldn't agree more with you. Maids cannot be treated as part of the family because they are not. It's definitely not worth treating them well like giving them phone cards to call home or bringing them out on Sundays. My agency even told me not to start buying teabreaks for them or they will expect it...which is so true :x :x
We go to IMM often and sometimes get food stuff like curry puff or Beard Papa as the kids love them. I gave them small treats like this and after 1 or 2 times, they EXPECT this everytime...and stare greedily when the kids eat.

[janet88]

There was once I desperately needed to get rid of the present maid and replace her with another as she was literally on my nerves. When the maid is sent back to agency, she is still considered under my employment…so my application for another maid was put on hold. I called MOM and spoke to an officer to explain the situation…told her that I didn’t want to face the maid anymore or she will drive me up the wall & I’ll be charged with maid abuse.

After this call, the agency told me at the end of the day that my application was successful and I sent the stubborn maid back. So very very relieved.

[Angelight]

Hi Minnie,


I learnt my lesson the hard way too. Despite giving my previous maid alot of chances despite her many careless mistakes and bad attitude, she still wanted a transfer and didn't even care to wait until I get a replacement. :x

But if you don't bring the maid out on weekends when you go out as a family, wouldn't leaving her at home be more worrisome cos you don't know what she would be up to, going thru your stuff etc.

And when you go on family vacations, where do you place the maid if you don't bring her along?

minnie2004:

I have learned my lessons not to treat them like family members ever since my first maid. No matter how well we treated them, they eventually left for greener pasture - all three of them left for Europe after just one year. So for our current one, we are giving her fewer perks such as phone cards, pocket money, and not let her sleep in our aircon guest room. We also don't take her out as often and go on holidays w/o her (partially it's b/c our kids r bigger now). They r after all, workers, not family.

[janet88]

Angelight,

I wanted to leave my maid at home whenever we went out but hubby was concerned she would be going through our stuff. Ok fine, bring her out but literally dragging her feet as she walked. :x I pretended not to know or see.

My friend didn’t have the habit of bringing maids out except to supermarket. Guess what, her maid told her she had stomachache or headache when she told her to go…because she didn’t want to carry anything.

[minnie2004]

Angelight:

Hi Minnie,


I learnt my lesson the hard way too. Despite giving my previous maid alot of chances despite her many careless mistakes and bad attitude, she still wanted a transfer and didn't even care to wait until I get a replacement.

But if you don't bring the maid out on weekends when you go out as a family, wouldn't leaving her at home be more worrisome cos you don't know what she would be up to, going thru your stuff etc.

And when you go on family vacations, where do you place the maid if you don't bring her along? .

Hi angelight, we left her at home when we go for vacation this time (even though she's been with us for less than a 2 months) as I don't want to feel like I have to take care of a 3rd child :P. When our kids were smaller, we used to take our maids to most of our vacations. Now that ds is 4 and dd is 6, we can cope w/o a maid. Bringing her along only adds extra burden for us. Also, we can finally enjoy some privacy
We make her a list of things to do like washing the curtains, cleaning the ceiling fan etc to keep her busy. Also, dh bought a camera which we can see what's going on in the house by calling a number. So she won't do anything crazy.