In-law problems?

[hquek]

hi buds,


it's amazing that after all these years, your ILs still haven't woken up from their dream.

Gosh, hugs to you; take care of yourself and bb - the rest is secondary (except your other 2 darlings).

Sorry that I can only offer that much consolation.

you really are a VERY good DIL, wife and mum.

My MIL gave me cold shoulder once for something I didn't know I did (but I guess I did). I gave the ICE shoulder back to her for months/years....guess I'm lucky cos I'm forceful type and earn my own keep. Very bad DIL I am....but I'll still ask my hubby to buy this/that for her - just dun want to see her face so much.

[Funz]

:celebrate: to you buds for this small victory. You have protected your turf so to speak. Keep your spirits up.


Sometimes, to preserve one's own sanity, one has no choice but to be hard hearted.

[Mrs Ang]

vicki:

Live with my MIL and we are get on really well! Dont have any probs at all only for the time when the confinement nanny was around after DS3 was born (1st time i actually saw my MIL so mad!)

You are very lucky!

[Mrs Ang]

qizai:

Well, in my humble opinion, SAHMs struggle hard to justify their working hours to themselves, their hubbies, parents, friends etc...

It seemed that nothing gets done at the end of each day, and the fact remains that there's no benchmark for SAHMs, unlike working full-time while the work day ends at 5pm, and you get a paycheck that acknowledges your effort at the end of each month, and one can't argue too much with having money.

But for SAHMs, they can't really say \"Yes, I cooked a good meal today. Great job!\". That's not the end of the story, because kids get hungry a few hours later. There's no end of the story, it's never-ending...

You are a very understanding husband and your wife is very fortunate. I heard stories where husband complaining wife never do enough as she is SAHM.

[janet88]

I told my hubby I hope I don't have to stay with son after he gets married...then added on to say, 'hope daughter studies hard, get a job with good pay and DON'T be a SAHM'. Hubby looked at me with a :shock: I know it's double standard.

[buds]

Mrs Ang:

You are a very understanding husband and your wife is very fortunate.

I fully agree with you, Mrs Ang. :celebrate:

She's one fortunate wife. :love:

Mrs Ang:

I heard stories where husband complaining wife never do enough as she is SAHM.

:roll: Don't we ever hear enuf of that, uh? :roll:

[Mrs Ang]

qizai:

It's hard for guys to admit that there's a problem that we cannot handle. We prefer to live from day to day doing stuff we like and are good in, and believing there's no problem that's too difficult for us.


To tackle this, you need to \"train\" your hubby. You need a strategy.

Thanks a lot! I won't let my DH see your post

[buds]

buds:

Goreng Pisang Panas refers to HOT BANANA FRITTERS.

And this one banana is hot from the wok.
CAUTION... beware of scalding.

duriz:

Watch, hot mama alert :celebrate:

janet_lee88:

I love goreng pisang leh.

Mrs Ang:

Me too. :lol:

Sun_2010:

I like banana with cream please. :boogie:
So chill buds...

autumnbronze:

Whoa!!!!!! can feel the sssssssssssssssssssssizzle -ing heat emanating :celebrate:

:celebrate: Cheers to all goreng pisang lovers! :celebrate:

[buds]

Sun_2010:

To most of us , As long as ILs are in this planet it is a tad too close for comfort

:lol: I've yet to hear of ILs living in other planets! :lol:

Other countries, yes. Other planets... definitely interesting. :rotflmao:

Sun_2010:

Did some one tell u that u r a saint :roll:
Time to be human and take care of yourself. You owe it yourself.
Hope things go more positive for you.

I don't think i'm a saint la. I'm sure there were things that ILs weren't
happy about but instead of telling me or advising me properly, they go
round the world telling other people and in the end it reaches me anyhow.
Or they'd do it via the usual sarcasm. Worst was, create friction for me
and my husband. But you see... i'm not them. The way i take care of my
husband... my kids... my family will be my way... with my type of care...
with my personal values and beliefs. The family i have now is mine. I did
not impose on how MIL took care of her kids or her husband albeit i thot
some were nonsensical... because she is her own person. She chose to
live her way and her life like that. I am sure i cannot be like them or rather
like... her. :roll: Not that i'd want to anyway. Yes, time to take care of
myself since i can only count on myself. I do hope things can be more
positive for me and also for my family.

buds:

When hate sinks in, i'm afraid it is gonna be one helluva Jekyll that is gonna come out... .

Sun_2010:

U r right , when hate sinks in it leaves a desctruction behind; not just to those around you , but including you...

I have been thru this depressing soul numbing journey - when life sorta loses its meaning because u are drained of all the goodness within... when u feel all used by people who are supposed to love u; when u are trying so hard for them and u get this in return???

Gosh. You do know exactly how i'm feeling.

Sun_2010:

Things changed for the better for me, hope you can move on too with little damage.

I'm very happy for you Sun_2010. At least you came out triumphant in
the end. :hugs: Thanks for your well wishes.

[minnie2004]

hquek:

My MIL gave me cold shoulder once for something I didn't know I did (but I guess I did). I gave the ICE shoulder back to her for months/years....guess I'm lucky cos I'm forceful type and earn my own keep. Very bad DIL I am....but I'll still ask my hubby to buy this/that for her - just dun want to see her face so much.

You are one tough lady hquek! Wish I can be as strong as you :nunchuk: