If you could, would you decide on a 3rd child?

[jedamum]

cherrygal:

Yup buds, I luv my girl too... the bond between mother n daughter is different from mother n son. at least when i had my gal, i can dream of going shopping with her like how I shopped with my mom.

lolz. my ds1 is the dd that i never had.
he likes heart-to-heart talk (at least now at this age..:politebleah:)
and we both like to shop at bookstores (i don't like to shop for clothes ).
but i know when he grows up, he belongs to his wife. :idea:
so glad that i have a sis, so when our boys grew up and flew the coops, we can go out on occasional high tea or just sit around and watch idol-dramas despite already being grandmas.

[janet88]

I love my gal very much. She is caring, understanding & thoughtful...the bond with her is very different as compared to my son. With my son, I can accept that he will fly the coop and belong to his wife. It's ok.


Know of someone who has 5 daughters :shock: . Hubby told wife enough of kids. BTW, it's the wife who wants a son.

[janet88]

Yes, the wife wants a son.

[janet88]

LKVM,

I dare not imagine more than 3 kids, let alone 5 !!!
Wife is doctor.

[duriz]

janet_lee88:

LKVM,

I dare not imagine more than 3 kids, let alone 5 !!!
Wife is doctor.

Cute hor.
My friends whom I grew up with in the same neighborhood have SEVEN boys, aged 15-2 years old.
The couple were neighborhood, school sweethearts, then married.
They are both doctors.
The hubby is a podiatrist, the wife is a dentist.
She wants #8, regardless of the gender of the child.
HE DOES NOT WANT ANYMORE CHILDREN.

Please excuse the caps :oops:

[janet88]

Hi Duriz,

It’s really ironic that the person giving birth still wants to have more but erm… the one providing the sperm is calling it QUITS.

The husband (father of 5 girls) told wife to stop…don’t want to try anymore.

[duriz]

janet_lee88:

Hi Duriz,

It's really ironic that the person giving birth still wants to have more but erm... the one providing the sperm is calling it QUITS.

janet,

Personally, I feel 4 children is more than enough.
5-7 to beyond that is just craziness, for the parents, in the house, going out of the house, growing up, fighthing, crying, more fighting, screaming, shouting, more crying .....
Sure there willl be alot of fun, laughter, love and funny moments but when I think about it *arraaarararraafghhhhhhhhhhh*

[janet88]

Duriz,

I'm stress-free every morning (WEEKDAYS)...come 12pm, my stress builds up bcos the both of them make a lot of noise...fighting, crying is just too much. Sure, like what you mentioned, lots of laughter and other components associated with children, but $$$ is necessary bringing kids up. 3rd child ? No way. Up till now, I don't know whether it's good if kids are in different sessions or morning session.

[buds]

janet_lee88:

Up till now, I don't know whether it's good if kids are in different sessions or morning session.

There are pros and cons both ways, darling..
It is how we organise our time and also the children's time.

I've experienced having them both in same and different sessions.
Both ways had its advantages. Once you find a routine comfy
enuf for all three of you, it will work out fine. :hugs:

[duriz]

LKVM:

Yes for me too 4 is max and that is really max

Yeah I mean I may talk easy now lah.
I only have one child.
But like janet said, if money (and for me time as I'm 41) permits, I would like to have 4.
No gender preference.
It would be tough, no joke.
But it will be well worth it when they're all grown and we can be heart to heart chitchat/shopping/kopi/general kpo and gossip pals :love: