Teachers' Violence

[DesertWind]

Daddy

Ermm...So your boy stopped crying cos' u carried him for 1 hour? Or after he got familiar to the room and the ST's instructions?

I think us parents usually don't like other adults to discipline our kids.

Hi Hi,
My boy stopped crying after about half-an-hour and I carried him only for about 1 minute and tell him this is a new school and this new teacher is going to teach him to speak so please stop crying!

After half-an-hour, he got familiar with the room and the ST's instructions too and that surely helped. But I think no need for the ST to shove him around in the first 15 mins. (Don't like the man-handling).

After 45 mins the ST was talking to me and so my boy got a break. He calmed down and when the hour is up, he was smiling and seems as good as new! When his daddy came to pick him up no sign at all of the \"turbulence\".

Only left my maid and me in shock. I am still in shock until now.

The choice should be pretty obvious - stop going to this ST.
:stupid:

Signing off now everybody....I should be able to come to grips and decide on the next course of action.....
:slapshead:

[Sun_2010]

DesertWind:

The choice should be pretty obvious - stop going to this ST.

:stupid:

Signing off now everybody....I should be able to come to grips and decide on the next course of action.....
:slapshead:

Yes desertwind,

Surely there are more speech therapists around.

So chill , relax and think about what happened after a couple of days. U r really in a very emotional frame of mind now. after a couple of days, if you still feel ST is not riht one , find a new one.

just an advice, maybe you could prepare him for his session by telling him what he will be doing, and go 15-30 mins b4 his session so that he can be a the strange envi is not threatenning. He seems like a sensitive one like my DS. Maybe you do this already.

End of the day - a mom's gotta do what she's gotta do.

[autumnbronze]

Hi DesertWind,


:hugs: to ya.

Hope your DS has forgotten about the incident.

Agree with you that the ST shouldn't have treated your DS so roughly to the point of shoving him.

Agree with Sun_2010's sound suggestions.

Also agree that at the end of the day, mummy knows best, so go with what your instincts tell you.

:hugs: again.

[blueblue]

autumnbronze:

Hi DesertWind,


:hugs: to ya.

Hope your DS has forgotten about the incident.

Agree with you that the ST shouldn't have treated your DS so roughly to the point of shoving him.

Agree with Sun_2010's sound suggestions.

Also agree that at the end of the day, mummy knows best, so go with what your instincts tell you.

:hugs: again.

Shoving is certainly wrong. What if a child starts thinking that it is alright to shove at other ppl?

The ST is from private? Think the ST is too immune already.

[mrswongtuition]

Just sharing about STs…


My friend is a ST and she has no patience with kids.
When she decided to study to become a ST, she did not think that she would be working with children - until it was too late to change course cos her parents had already paid alot for her to study overseas.

She totally does not like kids. When she comes to my house and my boy simply walk in front of her while she was watching TV (not blocking her view in any way cos he’s still too short), she will yell at him to ‘get lost’.

Not all STs are patient and nurturing. Similarly, not all teachers are patient and nurturing too.

[markfch]

mrswongtuition:

When she comes to my house and my boy simply walk in front of her while she was watching TV (not blocking her view in any way cos he's still too short), she will yell at him to 'get lost'.

:shock: And she's still your friend? You are really magnanimous.

mrswongtuition:

Not all STs are patient and nurturing. Similarly, not all teachers are patient and nurturing too.

And not all teachers are of exemplary characters, this according to my uncle whose daughter is a teacher.

[mrswongtuition]

markfch:

mrswongtuition:

When she comes to my house and my boy simply walk in front of her while she was watching TV (not blocking her view in any way cos he's still too short), she will yell at him to 'get lost'.

:shock: And she's still your friend? You are really magnanimous.

Still friends, after she got a huge scolding from me. I told her that she can get out of my house if she can't treat my son with respect.

[DesertWind]

Hi Sun_2010,


Thanks! Recounted the incidence to my PIL & SIL today and all were horrified. All were unanimous in their advice - quit going to this ST! My maid also told me if we decide to bring my boy again, please exclude her as she is not going to sit in and look on the \"ill-treatment\" again.

Did try to prepare him by telling him where we are going but difficult to do since this is also first time for me and dunno what to expect too.
:celebrate:

Sun_2010:

Yes desertwind, surely there are more speech therapists around. So chill , relax and think about what happened after a couple of days. U r really in a very emotional frame of mind now. after a couple of days, if you still feel ST is not riht one , find a new one.

just an advice, maybe you could prepare him for his session by telling him what he will be doing, and go 15-30 mins b4 his session so that he can be a the strange envi is not threatenning. He seems like a sensitive one like my DS. Maybe you do this already.

End of the day - a mom's gotta do what she's gotta do.

[DesertWind]

LKVM:

Well I wont be taking my kid after this incident :shock:

Me neither.

[DesertWind]

autumnbronze:

Hi DesertWind, :hugs: to ya. Hope your DS has forgotten about the incident. Agree with you that the ST shouldn't have treated your DS so roughly to the point of shoving him. Agree with Sun_2010's sound suggestions. Also agree that at the end of the day, mummy knows best, so go with what your instincts tell you. :hugs: again.

Thanks autumnbronze,
DS seems non the worst but don't think any of us adults can take another bout of such treatment (which BTW the ST said will happen for another few more sessions! :!: )

My instincts are telling me to leave my boy alone. Let him develop naturally (& he is beginning to speak more) and surely it will come in a relaxed manner rather than trying to push it.

So no more private ST except the KKH one!
:hugs: