Self tutor or Outsource??

[mummy of 2]

kids_r_innocent:

mummy of 2:

I outsource to DH when I'm not in the mood to teach

:lol: Tats a good one!! No need to spend $$....

Juz wonder y most of the time, Mummies are the ones doing these work

Exactly, both of us work, so it's only fair to take turns to coach the kid, isn't it? Of cos when the younger one also needs coaching, then have to work out another system. Till then I can remain sane,

[kids_r_innocent]

mummy of 2:

Exactly, both of us work, so it's only fair to take turns to coach the kid, isn't it? Of cos when the younger one also needs coaching, then have to work out another system. Till then I can remain sane,

Hee... it's really not easy being a modern woman hor!!

[atrecord]

it's not easy for us as DD is not focused, and tends to be distracted by everything. Or rather, perhaps it's because she cannot concentrate...


As a result, it's been frustrating. DW, who handles most of the coaching, is often screaming at DD, who has also developed a temper and easily throw tantrums

We're toying with the idea of sending her to tuition, hoping that she'll pay more attention when being taught by someone else...

[cherrygal]

Yes, the problem with coaching them ourselves is the discipline. Kids don’t usually listen to parents but they pay attention to teachers (external party).


When my hubby tells him to do work, he will dawdle. If we want him to budge, I would need to use my stern tone. I also find myself getting agitated when he shows me a blur face.

But he does his work very quickly at childcare or enrichment centres. He derives pride from being #1. So if we were to outsource the tuition, I would choose a group tuition setting for the "competition".

I have decided to spend my free time doing "fun" things like painting, reading or baking with him. I will also educate him on general knowledge instead of coaching on schoolwork.

[mrswongtuition]

Another thing to note about outsourcing:

Teacher’s word is GOLD.

I tell my son the same thing but he refuses to listen. His tutor tells him the exact same thing and he listens readily. (Like referring to his private parts as penis instead of bird.)

The same happens for my students.
Their parents tell them that they need to study hard for their own future but they don’t listen and argue.
When I tell them the exact same thing, they go home telling their parents that I told them to study hard for themselves and they are willing to do it.


I personally prefer to outsource but parents monitor closely.
Tuition is for teacher to teach the methods/skills, parents monitor closely is to ensure the child is putting in effort to complete the work and revise regularly. It’s alright if parent’s cant teach, just email the tutor or make a note and get the tutor to teach during the next lesson.
This is what my students’ parents will do. They will copy questions into a notebook to ask me during lessons. Can be school homework or additional work given by parents.

Even my son’s lessons at enrichment centres, I look at the worksheets after every lesson and will check if he knows the work or not. I also check his homework daily to make sure that he has completed his work.
Our time spent together is more for doing puzzles and other learn through play activities like games and reading.

[janet88]

It’s definitely NOT easy to be a self-tutor but when we coach kids ourselves, we are in control and know weakness. But there will come a day when we cannot handle anymore, and that’s when you have to outsource. I outsourced my son’s Eng to Jan & Elly since March this year…but I still keep a close watch on him. Same goes for Chinese.

He has Eng/Chinese only once a week. I’m relieved to be a backup.

[kids_r_innocent]

atrecord:

it's not easy for us as DD is not focused, and tends to be distracted by everything. Or rather, perhaps it's because she cannot concentrate...


As a result, it's been frustrating. DW, who handles most of the coaching, is often screaming at DD, who has also developed a temper and easily throw tantrums

We're toying with the idea of sending her to tuition, hoping that she'll pay more attention when being taught by someone else...

My younger child has the same problem. She is not able to focus for too long and i am always so frustrating...

Well... as she is still young and doesnt like enrichment classes. I have no choice but to stick with self coaching. However, i also notice that if we (as parents) are able to see the \"effective\" way to teach our individual children, then the effect would be there. For instance, since she cant sit still for too long, i would try to make more but short sessions with her. Think it works pretty well for now....

[kids_r_innocent]

cherrygal:

Yes, the problem with coaching them ourselves is the discipline. Kids don't usually listen to parents but they pay attention to teachers (external party).

*sigh* i agree.... it seems like kids from long long time ago are already exhibiting this type of attitude.

[kids_r_innocent]

mrswongtuition:

Another thing to note about outsourcing:

Teacher's word is GOLD.

Exactly!!! Tats y we muz hunt for GOOD tutor to cultivate and teach good values; besides coaching them in their studies.

[kids_r_innocent]

janet_lee88:

It's definitely NOT easy to be a self-tutor but when we coach kids ourselves, we are in control and know weakness. But there will come a day when we cannot handle anymore, and that's when you have to outsource.

Good point there. However, i also noticed that there are some children who can excel in their studies but they do not have tutition at all; they come from a humble family background and some even have siblings who can do as well as them. :? Maybe it's the family background that spurs them to do well???