All About Full-Time Maids

[jtoh]

janet_lee88:

Maids arrive with one pathetic luggage. Lucky ones will leave with 2 luggages...mum had one who had to buy luggage to bring home her purchases. We bring them along when we shop. This particular maid bought 10 sets of bedsheets ! Imagine the weight. But does she appreciate ? NO. Out of the blue on 2 weekends, she sat on the chair for 3 hours, refusing to budge or prepare lunch. Fearing that she would do something silly, mum decided to send her back.


When I send my rude and horribly stubborn maids home (those with no debts), I use 'pick up' service bcos they don't deserve to be fetched to the airport. I make them pack their things in front of me. They are allowed to bring only their things home, or things they paid with their own money. Clothes, towels, toiletries which I provide are not to be taken.

That's her trick to secure a free trip back to her homeland at your expense. I'm so tired of all these antics that maids come up with.

[janet88]

Hi jtoh,

That maid love-sick lah.
She used to work for 2 families b4 we hired her. One family before us made her paint the whole house. When we hired her, her arms were too tired to work and we had to cook and do housework for 2 weeks while she recovered.

Then the last straw for us was for her to receive a letter from boyfriend working in Japan. He sent her pics of him with pictures of naked women pasted around his bed :!: She went haywire and we decided to send her home before she did something drastic.

[verykiasu2010]

janet_lee88:

Hi jtoh,

That maid love-sick lah.
She used to work for 2 families b4 we hired her. One family before us made her paint the whole house. When we hired her, her arms were too tired to work and we had to cook and do housework for 2 weeks while she recovered.

Then the last straw for us was for her to receive a letter from boyfriend working in Japan. He sent her pics of him with pictures of naked women pasted around his bed :!: She went haywire and we decided to send her home before she did something drastic.

wah, so drama

[hquek]

janet_lee88:

Hi jtoh,

That maid love-sick lah.
She used to work for 2 families b4 we hired her. One family before us made her paint the whole house. When we hired her, her arms were too tired to work and we had to cook and do housework for 2 weeks while she recovered.

Then the last straw for us was for her to receive a letter from boyfriend working in Japan. He sent her pics of him with pictures of naked women pasted around his bed :!: She went haywire and we decided to send her home before she did something drastic.

that man also very weird - send these pictures for what. She should send some with chippendale dancer poster then. Siao these pp.

[janet88]

If that boyfriend had wanted to send her pic, should take pic of just HIMSELF lah. My maid here went haywire bcos of the naked women in the background :stupid: Was he out to tell her he had fun with those women ?

[jtoh]

janet_lee88:

Hi jtoh,

That maid love-sick lah.
She used to work for 2 families b4 we hired her. One family before us made her paint the whole house. When we hired her, her arms were too tired to work and we had to cook and do housework for 2 weeks while she recovered.

Then the last straw for us was for her to receive a letter from boyfriend working in Japan. He sent her pics of him with pictures of naked women pasted around his bed :!: She went haywire and we decided to send her home before she did something drastic.

Crazy people.

[DesertWind]

Hi Hi,


My maid has been working for me for 3 years already now into her 4th year (contract finishing next Aug2011).

I have been singing praises about this maid because really she has exceeded my expectations all these years. But recently in the past 6 months or so her attitude has slowly changed.

Firstly, found that she has not been telling me everything (including she did not turn stove fire off when she went to fetch my kid back from school). Told my hubby the incident who told her to tell me directly. When asked why didn't she tell me certain things & I have to hear from my hubby she will say she told sir already and she thought sir will tell me. :x (My hubby returns home in evening earlier than me btw). Recently got fed up with her when she tell me this I got to outright tell her to please remember who is her employer (ME!) and not to forget who is paying her salary, ok? :x

Secondly, when my MIL visited our place and commented about the dirty wall with pencil markings (my DS's doing lah!) and asked her to clean it, her attitude towards my MIL sucks. My MIL complained to me she did not even look at her, you can see her unhappiness and stuck-up attitude. MIL complained to us bitterly that both of us has spoit this maid terribly.

My response? I am TOTALLY RELYING on this maid to look after my son. I DON'T DARE to scold her too much since my son is in her hands (so to speak). It is hard to get good maids nowadays who can handle and look after kids well. So now I am \"HELD HOSTAGE\" by my maid!
:!:

Thirdly, recently went out to a wedding lunch and a buffet one at that. Kid was fussy and I was running to & fro the buffet table to bring food for kid & maid. I was flustered and harrassed but maid just sat there not much paying attention to kid (thinking since I am handling I am sure!). And slowly eating the food. Even my mother commented my maid is no longer like the past, ie. now it seems more like I am the maid and my maid like a \"tai tai\". :faint:

Anybody with same experience as me can share please?

Q1. Should I tell her her attitude nowadays sucks and she should buck up?
Q2. Should I renew her contract next year or change new maid?

Thanks!
:celebrate:

[verykiasu2010]

it is time to have a new maid then

[pineapple tarts]

wow… exactly the same thing which happend to me before. During that time, I have already made up my mind not to renew her (after finish 2nd contract). Unfortunately, her young son passed away suddenly (dunno tru or not) & I hv to send her back immediately with a one way ticket. I thot might as well since her attitude not as good as before anyway. So I got myself a new maid & that is where I realise, a good maid is hard to come by. My kids & I can’t really click with the new maid. Can’t be trusted & not humble at all. Then change maid after 6 months but she is not any better. Everything was a total mess in that 1 year. I told my friends. If your maid is good & can look after kids, cherish her. Housework is really secondary. Luckily for me, my maid sms me if she can come back. It was really a relief to have her back (a yr already). Before that, I talk frankly abt how I felt about her previous attitude. We spoke openly and iron out some misunderstanding. Until today, I still remind myself to be nice to a poor mother who is living in a foreign land to earn a living.


As for passing message, I suggest you ask your hubby to co-operate. Unless it something serious like kids is injured or stranger come etc. She has to tell you and not sir. Or, after hearing the maid report & feel that it is not serious, ask maid to tell maam again later. If they don wish to repeat the same story, they will automatically wait for u to come back to report to you.

Take it easy my dear, she is human after all. Sometimes when my boss din give me what I want (fatter bonus), I also show him my black face. Or I will eat snake a little bit when boss is not around. Its normal lah.

Good luck

[hquek]

DesertWind:

Anybody with same experience as me can share please?


Q1. Should I tell her her attitude nowadays sucks and she should buck up?
Q2. Should I renew her contract next year or change new maid?

Thanks!
:celebrate:

All along, when we are out, my maids are the one to leisurely eat while I'm the maid having to take care of my kids - but that's MY choice.

You seem to have a good relationship with your maid. Just write out all these on a piece of paper and sit down to have a talk with her. Let her know that you appreciate what she has done for your kid (I assume she's treating him really well), but if she continue in her manners, it's time for her to retire in glory - and actually you will be sad to see her go.

let her know:
1. You're the boss, the sir is just a man in the house - refer to me for anything household related.

2. MIL/mum is employer's mother. You don't treat your mother with disrespect, so please don't do it to yours/sir's.

As for the last. Very easy. Any chance like that happen again. Just take a deep breath, and tell her to get this/that for boy boy or for herself. Then you sit and play with your son, or you go mingle with your friends.