All About Teaching Values

[Pinkynose98]

It is monkey see monkey do isnt it? Kids pick up all our habits - regardless.


When my kids were 3 years old we bought them toyogo plastic drawers. I believed:-
- give them their own domain.
- let them have privacy for their own toys
- play with drawers without asking for permission to open/close
- kill their curiosity about drawers

my kids learn to maintain their domain, stay away from our private drawers (i do not lock mine) and learn at a tender age how not to clip thier fingers. If they do its plastic, they are not going to get fractured fingers. I am not a protective mom. I believe in letting my kids to learn within perimeters of course and allowance to make mistake.

To prevent them from looking over the parapet - when she learnt Humpty Dumpty. I sang the rhymns wth her, drew / color her egg. And allow her to drop it from the balcony - 6 floors down. When she saw the aftermath of her broker egg with all the messy yolk. That day on, she realises if she leans over a balcony - she will also be like the egg.

I adopt a very pragmatic approach to life. My kids are 12 & 7 a girl and boy. They are my joy and I kissed them and hug them all the time. Physical expression are important both in the home and outside. Do not be shy to display your love for them. My discipline are tough, but the kids accept and understands.

[jedamum]

Pinkynose98:

To prevent them from looking over the parapet - when she learnt Humpty Dumpty. I sang the rhymns wth her, drew / color her egg. And allow her to drop it from the balcony - 6 floors down. When she saw the aftermath of her broker egg with all the messy yolk. That day on, she realises if she leans over a balcony - she will also be like the egg.

i beg to differ that teaching about dangers precedes the necessity to install grilles for young children; cos accidents do happen and they are call 'accidents' for a reason.

[jedamum]

Hypothetically, if your child has been selected to join the school's team (be it clubs or sports) as a RESERVED player, will you encourage your child to go ahead, bearing in mind that


1. have to spend equal amount of time on preparation work but will only have the chance to use it if MAIN player is 'out' for some reasons.
2. that your child may secretly look forward to the MAIN player being 'out' so that he/she has the chance to shine.

Or do we as parents, put a stop to the kid 'wasting' the time preparing as RESERVED player and better utilise that time for other stuff?

[HoSayLiao]

Hi Jedamun


The correct attitude is that the team is more important than the individual. If your child had to be the waterboy so that the team can win, he should be happy to be the waterboy. Praying for the main player to be injured so that he can shine? This kind of attitude will only get beaten up.

[jedamum]

HoSayLiao:

Hi Jedamun


The correct attitude is that the team is more important than the individual. If your child had to be the waterboy so that the team can win, he should be happy to be the waterboy. Praying for the main player to be injured so that he can shine? This kind of attitude will only get beaten up.

hi,
thanks for sharing.
ideally, one needs to be noble in our intentions; but don't all Reserves wish to be main players one day? if i am caught in this situation, i will respect my boy's decision whether to continue being a Reserve...with a lot of reluctance. :oops: rooting for the best for the team is noble; but is it selfish to think of own benefits?
similarly, ideally if one school has a part in grooming the kid to shine, should the kid drop the opportunity for a transfer to a more reputed school? repaying what the sch has done by staying on is noble; but is it selfish to think of own benefits?
hm...

[HoSayLiao]

In a competitive environment, like taking exams, competing for a job interview, u have to be selfish and there is nothing wrong it.


In a co-operative environment, like playing a team sports, in the army, it will then be 100% wrong to be selfish. If there are other players better than him, it means the team has a higher chance of winning, then he should be happy about it. Feeling reluctant is the wrong attitude.

Manchester Utd has a reserve called Ole Gunnar Solskaer. He was very good, but always the reserve and he was happy about it because when the whole team wins, he also gets the winners’ medal. That is the right attitude and right values we need to impart to the next generation.

If your child feel reluctant to be a reseve, u should tell him to improve his skills and stop feeling reluctant.

[jedamum]

HoSayLiao:

In a competitive environment, like taking exams, competing for a job interview, u have to be selfish and there is nothing wrong it.


In a co-operative environment, like playing a team sports, in the army, it will then be 100% wrong to be selfish. If there are other players better than him, it means the team has a higher chance of winning, then he should be happy about it. Feeling reluctant is the wrong attitude.

Manchester Utd has a reserve called Ole Gunnar Solskaer. He was very good, but always the reserve and he was happy about it because when the whole team wins, he also gets the winners' medal. That is the right attitude and right values we need to impart to the next generation.

If your child feel reluctant to be a reseve, u should tell him to improve his skills and stop feeling reluctant.

hi again,
thanks for sharing. :goodpost: (in bold above)

i mean i am the one who will be reluctant.... :oops: bad me! :heresmyfish:

[csc]

:goodpost:


Thanks for sharing this beautiful story. Modelling is one of the best ways to impart values indeed!

[parangtor]

with the recent spate of violence on our streets still on our minds…


pls share your thoughts on what values are needed to address such violent behaviour in our youths?

[Quintessential Mum]

Children are a reflection of their parents.