In-law problems?

[orchids]

Angelight:

She also likes to play favouritism between the 2 sons and DILs and the grandkids. She favours my BIL (DH's bro) and his family over DH, me and DD. When I was having confinement (after giving birth to DD) at her home (we were staying together then), she actually asked DH to pay her back the money spent on my confinement food/tonics and even the baby stuf she bought for DD. She was that calculative with me and DH :x

In the same boat as you until recently last yr when SIL started to talk rudely to MIL. Her disrespect getting worser each day without any interference from my BIL, which I see it as \"retribution\" of my MIL's favoritism. MIL never dares raise her voice at them (cos' of her love for BIL), and would grouse about them occasionally. Sometimes, I pity her being 遭踏 but then, it takes two hands to clap.

[janet88]

kiasume:

Poor gals, I seriously don't understand why you gals MIL are like that? :? I just don't understand why they want their children' family to break up eh? :siao:

You'll be surprised to know that some MILs are like that :!:
Maybe to them, their concept is this wife not good...next one better.

[tracytmks]

for those staying with MIL, since they made u so piss off do you all sometimes show angry face, tell them off or throw tantrum infront of them? what is their reaction then?


me will do that cause it really made u mad or drive you crazy :x . MIL will sure talk bad behind your back (back stepper hahaha…). yesterday both really made me then piss off. hubby paint the door and it smells right they can’t even take a fan out and blow the smell away. when i came back from work the house smell and i took a small fan out the living room and let it blow. last night when everyone slept oredi, MIL is the last person to go to bed, she can’t even know how to switch off the fan fed up right? little things oso must tell what to do when to do what very frustrating you know… that’s why is always made me so piss off, think my blood pressure shot up very high. got hypertension is because of her…

[janet88]

I’m pissed bcos hubby’s sister has no bloody manners…she thinks she’s some big shot, ordering hubby to run errands for her all the time. What made me FURIOUS is that, she had the nerve to call me an idiot when I have no contact with her at all. Brainless woman, always listening blindly to her ex-husband and present husband…no brain of her own.

Thinks she is so clever to marry angmoh…angmohs also got upmarket and low grade type.

[Angelight]

The MIL 'commanded' DH and me to come for dinner (at her place) on the SAME day as her other precious son and his family. All along, we come on different days cos I really don't like to watch her play favouritism between her 2 sons and 2 DILs.


But now that she made this request, saying that she wants my DD to mingle with her cousins (only God knows if it's true ), I am stuck between a brick and a hard wall. Any advice? Anyone with similar experience? Care to share pls?

[janet88]

Angelight:

The MIL 'commanded' DH and me to come for dinner (at her place) on the SAME day as her other precious son and his family. All along, we come on different days cos I really don't like to watch her play favouritism between her 2 sons and 2 DILs.


But now that she made this request, saying that she wants my DD to mingle with her cousins (only God knows if it's true ), I am stuck between a brick and a hard wall. Any advice? Anyone with similar experience? Care to share pls?

Do you realize that the old one always used the kids as excuse for any get together ? The one other cousin my kids have is my eldest BIL's daughter. As for any other cousins, I'm not interested...esp if those kids have a ill-mannered mother ie my hubby's idiotic sister. If she comes back to Singapore one day and MIL tells us to go back, I will demand for an apology first.

Since your MIL commanded you to be there, looks like you don't have a choice. Eat your dinner and then plonk yourself in front of the TV.

[tracytmks]

:x :x Should understand that working mum had a tired day after work MIL yesterday like act as if i not around like that hack care the 2 kids they fight she oso bo chap. my 2 kids in the room want to sleep have to asked her help me look after them so i can hang my working clothes. :stupid: :stupid: :stupid:


asked her look after them in the room she don't even want to go inside my room she stand inside her room what is this men..... %$@#...xaxcb%$##@ :frustrated:

[janet88]

tracytmks:

:x :x Should understand that working mum had a tired day after work MIL yesterday like act as if i not around like that hack care the 2 kids they fight she oso bo chap. my 2 kids in the room want to sleep have to asked her help me look after them so i can hang my working clothes. asked her look after them in the room she don't even want to go inside my room she stand inside her room what is this men..... %$@#...xaxcb%$##@ :frustrated:

This is indeed a good avenue to release frustrations. It's either the old one who gets on my nerves or her precious brainless daughter...who insisted her brother get the cheapest air tickets for the old folks to go to US to HELP her. When hubby told her couldn't make it, she put the blame on him by asking him if he is preventing parents from seeing her kids. I can't believe it...she is the one who needs help and yet so demanding :x :x

[carrotz]

Seems like in some cases, it’s the mil and her daughters creating the problems. His sisters also like to give him ‘assignments’ or come up with this and that ‘suggestion’ and force it down his throat (‘force’ cos they know husband would be in a difficult position and therefore can’t say no.) Yes, often involves $. Come to think of it, most of the time. One of them had asked him to fix her stuff >20 times within a year. He finally had enough(yah, very high tolerance level for all her nonsense) and put a stop to it. I’ve noticed mil and her daughters are very persistant in fulfilling their objectives, and will do whatever(eg. keep calling him, butter his ego, act the damsel, try to make him feel guilty) to get what they want from him. It’s evident that they don’t give a damn about their son’s/bro’s situation or our family. They are the ones who boast about how well they are doing("I’m thinking of investing in property overseas" said aloud for everyone’s ears/mil’s constant reminders to children) and yet when it comes to $, will squeeze what they can out of you.

[janet88]

The MIL and her daughter(s) will make demands. My hubby is always the one who gets targeted bcos he doesn’t know how to turn down his bossy sister…like telling him to go home bcos it was already 10pm when we were dating. She havoc all night outside…or else fetch her here and there bcos she woke up late. Latest now is telling him to sniff out the cheapest airtickets at Natas last Sunday and blaming him when he told her he wasn’t free. All the idiotic demands.

She made it seem like only she has a family and not her brothers.