Advice - Divorce or Not to Divorce

[schellen]

BlueOcean:

Hi San76,


Thanks for taking the time to empathise... think I'm so down that hearing another person's voice is just comfort to me.

I have decided to see a lawyer to get a better sense of my options; from there I hope and pray that I will be able to make the right decisions.

Thanks again!

BlueOcean

Good luck and anytime you need comforting words or a \"listening ear\", you can always come back here. ^_^

[schellen]

ZacK:

Hahaha for all you know.. I'm even older than you

No offence but I think you are right.

[san76]

BlueOcean:

Hi San76,


Thanks for taking the time to empathise... think I'm so down that hearing another person's voice is just comfort to me.

I have decided to see a lawyer to get a better sense of my options; from there I hope and pray that I will be able to make the right decisions.

Thanks again!

BlueOcean

Blue Ocean,

Nobody wishes to be alone when they are down. There are much much people outside that is willing to help, just open up to them and all the advises you need will be there.

True, seeing a laywer is one of the option, dont forget their profession. Pardon me if I said something wrong. Please seek a mediator from help centre or church, though you need not to be the same religion. Listen to what they can advise... Sitting alone at home wont solve the problem. It will makes you more miserable.

Tell you something harsh, but you have to accept. Since it is the fact, stand up and move on. The kids still needs you.

All the best to you. Take care.

[ZacK]

schellen:

ChiefKiasu:

Welcome back schellen! Heard from sashimi that you were sick. Flu? :!: Hope you are better now.

Yup, better now. Thanks for your concern.

Must get better cos sch hols coming. Got plans....

JAPAN JAPAN JAPAN!!!!

[ZacK]

schellen:

ZacK:

Hahaha for all you know.. I'm even older than you

No offence but I think you are right.

Hahahah even if I were wrong.. I would never dream of winning a war on this

[MLR]

Hi BlueOcean


Sorry that can’t be of much help. Theres a toll free hotline that you can call whenever you need a listening ear, they are trained volunteers who lend very good listening ears. Its manned by Care Corner, they are a family service centre, hotline number is: 1800 3535 800.

[Rena]

Hi blue ocean


I agree with MLR…perhaps you wanna seek counselling first. btw do u have any religion?

[buds]

Counselling will help i guess...

But only if both parties are
willing to push and honestly
make it work. No point going
for counselling but remain
sceptical and defensive thru
out...

One of my old girlfriend tried,
but the hubby always didn't
turn up. The counsellor called
the hubby a couple of times
only to get a rude shock of
an answer. :roll: He was 1
of those guys who was always
out womanizing, with local girls
and foreigners... just for kicks.
My girlfriend has 4 kids, from
an infant to early primary, back
then. We have since lost touch.

I'm saddened by sharings like
these as it's unfair to the wife
and children. One needs to get
away with only one temptation
to continue doing it over and
over again..

[Windy]

My husnabd go drinking everynight from Mon to Sun and only come home 5am or 6am, he will go straight from his office, lock his phone with password, MSN to girl in chinese, chg his bank account, chg his dressing and go for expensive haircut, had ONS with vietnam girl when he was in vietnam last year, visit china pro in KTV, found eye lasher in his front car seat (he said belong to KTV pro), not interested in intimacy with me and not interested to go out with the family. But he still pay monthly maintainance, go market with me, buy me dinner on Sat at coffee shop, pay tution fees and said he love me. After I realised the changed since last Sept, I need to take sleeping pill everynight till today and will wake up at interval of 3am, 4am, 6am to check if he is back or gave him a call, but he still will not come home. I had 2 children, 7 and 9, I m early 40 with a job, should I divorce? :?

[jedamum]

Windy:

I had 2 children, 7 and 9, I m early 40 with a job, should I divorce? :?

No one can (or will) advise you whether to go down the divorce route. Ask yourself, what is holding you back? kids? still love your husband and hope that he will turn back? 'comfort'-zone/fear of unknown?