In-law problems?

[AuntieKiasi]

My MIL would say her ds's dh is very fillial (always bring her out here & there for makan). But when my dh brings her out, she complain the food not up to her standard lah....blah blah blah. I don't know what *standard* she wants. If we bring her to hawker centre, she will complain that food not nice blah blah blah. If we bring her to top grade restaurants, she will complain that food is mass prepared blah blah blah :stupid: :x :stupid: .

Really don't know what she wants :? :?

[janet88]

AuntieKiasi:

My MIL would say her ds's dh is very fillial (always bring her out here & there for makan). But when my dh brings her out, she complain the food not up to her standard lah....blah blah blah. I don't know what *standard* she wants. If we bring her to hawker centre, she will complain that food not nice blah blah blah. If we bring her to top grade restaurants, she will complain that food is mass prepared blah blah blah :stupid: :x :stupid: .

Really don't know what she wants :? :?

Wah !!! :!:
So hard to please. High end restaurants not cheap, have to pay +++.
If spoil market by bringing her to eat restaurants, taste buds won't accept hawker food liao. Of course she wants to eat there lah, no need to cook and no need to pay. Will split bill but have to put up with all the fake appearances and drama.

[minnie2004]

Sorry to interrupt you guys. Just wanted to share with you that my MIL, who's a widow and lives alone in the US, is in town at the moment, bringing with her 5 of her friends from Taiwan. My hubby paid for everything for them for the trip, air-tix, accomodations for 8 nites, tix to Universal Studio, Night Safari Halloween party, S'pore flyer, duck tour, chilli crab meals etc, etc. As a token of appreciation, her friends gave our kids 2 hong baos and some stuffed animals as gifts.


Tonite, after we came back from dinner, MIL kept asking us what's inside the hong bao. When she found out there were SGD220 cash inside each hong bao, she asked us to return to them :x . She doesn't spend a penny for the whole trip (DH paid for her tix from US-Taiwan-China-Singapore-Taiwan-US) and yet expects my DH to pay for everything for her AND her friends and even return their gifts for our kids! We don't really care about that little bit of $$ but I think it's basic courtesy to at least accept their gifts.

This also reminds me of the other time during our wedding years ago. We invited some of PILs' friends over from the US. Naturally DH paid for everything. And when they gave us a check as wedding gift, she asked us not to clear it, even though she didn't help fund a penny on our wedding, not to mention the only wedding gift she gave me, a golden necklace, was given to her by my DH :stupid:

I don't mind DH paying for them as these are in fact very nice people and they've helped PILs when they were poor. I just don't like the way she thinks it's her fundamental right to act generous with her son's $$ while she just sits there doing nothing :x

This is only the first day and already causing DH to yell at me as I was showing black face due to this incident. The problem is I'm the worst actor in the world. It's not possible to hide my feelings .

Please God give me the strength to go thru the next 8 days!!

[janet88]

minnie2004:

My hubby paid for everything for them for the trip, air-tix, accomodations for 8 nites, tix to Universal Studio, Night Safari Halloween party, S'pore flyer, duck tour, chilli crab meals etc, etc. As a token of appreciation, her friends gave our kids 2 hong baos and some stuffed animals as gifts.


Tonite, after we came back from dinner, MIL kept asking us what's inside the hong bao. When she found out there were SGD220 cash inside each hong bao, she asked us to return to them :x . She doesn't spend a penny for the whole trip (DH paid for her tix from US-Taiwan-China-Singapore-Taiwan-US) and yet expects my DH to pay for everything for her AND her friends and even return their gifts for our kids! We don't really care about that little bit of $$ but I think it's basic courtesy to at least accept their gifts.

Yr MIL thinks it's very cool to act generous in front of her friends and yet have a filial son paying for ALL expenses. The stuff toys should be accepted bcos it's for the kids. As for the red packet, maybe accept token. Very heartache indeed.
My hubby, out of vanity, bought a bracelet. His mother told him it is not nice on him and asked him for it :x Given a chance, all the old ones want to show off.

[AuntieKiasi]

Yah lor, high end restaurants not cheap. Anyone who had dined at Tung Lok group would know. So I tell her, since ur ds is so nice to bring u to Tung Lok, don't complain. Aiyoh, I don't know y she cannot appreciate ppl is trying very hard to be fillial. :? .

[janet88]

AuntieKiasi:

Yah lor, high end restaurants not cheap. Anyone who had dined at Tung Lok group would know. So I tell her, since ur ds is so nice to bring u to Tung Lok, don't complain. Aiyoh, I don't know y she cannot appreciate ppl is trying very hard to be fillial. :? .

Yes, Tung Lok restaurants not cheap leh...with all the GST, service charge etc etc. No need to pay a single cent and yet can show off in front of her friends.

[AuntieKiasi]

janet

OMG!!!!Ur MIL so greedy!!! :shock: Men's bracelet also want!! :slapshead: :siao:

[auntieM]

When my BIL passed on, my MIL savaged all the expensive stuff for herself and her youngest son..from sunglasses to watches.. those unwanted photos and old hats... to my place law..

Don't know the right word to describe, greedy def not 'enuf'...

[minnie2004]

janet_lee88:

No need to pay a single cent and yet can show off in front of her friends.

Seems like that's what MILs like to do

Today we took MIL and her 6 friends for dim sum at lei garden. Of course DH paid the bill. I didn't look at the final bill, but just a dish of HK kai lan cost SGD44!! Yet she showed a long face thru out the meal, complaining this and that, killing all my appetite.

Afterwards DH took them to the MBS casino. She asked my DH for $200 to gamble and said if she wins, she'll keep the money. But given her penny pincher and kiasi character, eventually she just kept the money and didn't bet at all! Just another of her excuses to snatch $$ from her son :x .

[minnie2004]

AuntieKiasi:

Yah lor, high end restaurants not cheap. Anyone who had dined at Tung Lok group would know. So I tell her, since ur ds is so nice to bring u to Tung Lok, don't complain. Aiyoh, I don't know y she cannot appreciate ppl is trying very hard to be fillial. :? .

She's just taking it for granted. Maybe she thinks her son owes the world to her that whatever he does, it's not enough. It's finally payback time.