IVF baby mix-up - TMC
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Sad sad tragedy due to human error. Now I’m even more convinced I would never go for IVF, no matter how much I long for a second child.
Just hope the couple will choose to keep the baby, who is really the innocent one in this saga. after all, he or she didn’t ask to be born. -
ksi:
Easy for you to say.
Actually I don't feel that the couple is in as bad a situation as the hospital for their negligence and I don't think they feel they are either.
I believe the first 2 will happen together:
1. get compensation which would have more than funded the IVF process
2. keep the baby....this is a lucky baby who brings them money luck.
If their IVF has been unsuccessful,
1. they will hv to adopt a child totally without their DNA - all kinds of sicknesses that comes with the baby also has to be accepted.
2. also without this mix-up, there is a possibility that the IVF is totally unsuccessful
So no need to be overly upset.
In fact if don't believe in point 2 in bold, use the compensation money to do IVF again to see if the probability of success is that high. If I remember what someone shared with me, the success rate is less than 20%. So this is in fact a double TOTO strike. If we know how to see optimism in every adversity, life is really not so bad.
Last resort, if still cannot cross emotional barrier, then get the compensation money, give up the child for adoption and go buy a pet.
But difficult for the father to accept that the child is not his and he has to bring up somebody's child which he may not be willing.
Mother definitely will feel for the child cos she carried the child for 9 months.
If it were not the mother's DNA then it may not be so bad....... -
pupilview:
I delivered my kids at Thomson Medical. Excellent service and care for both mum and the new-born. I remember they tag the mum and the baby at the operation table itself. Baby got tag on hand and ankle. Mum got a tag on her hand. So the possibility of an identity crisis is almost nil.If in a doubt , you could always check the tag.[/quote]Yah Sleepy. I read about your situation and wanted to laugh, but that's inappropriate.
Mummy sleepy: What a terrible experience for you!duriz:
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Omigod! Your story freaked me out! I would scream blue murder! What if I take the wrong baby home??! Didn't the nurses tag the baby right after birth? I still remember at Mt Alvernia, the mum and baby will be immediately given matching tags after birth.
Mummy deminc: That's right. When I had DD at MAH last Oct, we were given ,matching tags, one on my left wrist, one on her left wrist and an extra one on her left ankle. I told the nurses to tag the one on her ankle tight tight (terrible Mummy) because she had such tiny ankles, and I was afraid the tag would slip off.
But there will be no mistaken identity for this KS mom. I saw her face for the first time and it's imprinted in my heart and brain. If they brought me the wrong baby, heads will roll :x
I'm shocked this sort of thing can happen in this day and age when all the nurses have to do is snap on the plastic tags. Maybe its harder to ensure that the nurses actually read the tags before trundling the baby out to the mother. :x -
sorry to be blunt about it …
it is like the wife was being raped to produce the child, and for the father, it will take a long while to cross the emo barrier that the child is not his
can sue for how many million $$ ??
okay, fine, it is just a mix up in the lab ? easier said than done
in actual fact, it is not easy to mix up if they have set up a proper protocol in the lab -
carebear:
surrogate mother ? will the owner of the baby please put your hands up ??
Easy for you to say.
But difficult for the father to accept that the child is not his and he has to bring up somebody's child which he may not be willing.
Mother definitely will feel for the child cos she carried the child for 9 months.
If it were not the mother's DNA then it may not be so bad....... -
carebear:
Please do not assume that it is easy for me to say.Easy for you to say.
But difficult for the father to accept that the child is not his and he has to bring up somebody's child which he may not be willing.
Mother definitely will feel for the child cos she carried the child for 9 months.
If it were not the mother's DNA then it may not be so bad.......
If they want a child so badly, they would have explored all possibilities, so the couple should have been prepared for almost all scenarios. Couples also receive counselling before they go through the process. Granted this has come as initial shock amidst their joy but believe me, it is still a blessing compared to many many many more I know who are not even blessed with anything, not even adoption. We are not talking about the mindset of people who are conceiving naturally, those I believe will be in for serious shocks like what duriz has put it, heads will roll..... -
verykiasu2010:
It's almost like adopting a baby. Because for the Chinese & caucasian couple to have a baby with skin complexion that is \"markedly different\" from them ... the baby must have dark skin? *sigh* Really alot of adjusting to accept I'd feel.sorry to be blunt about it .......
it is like the wife was being raped to produce the child, and for the father, it will take a long while to cross the emo barrier that the child is not his
can sue for how many million $$ ??
okay, fine, it is just a mix up in the lab ? easier said than done
in actual fact, it is not easy to mix up if they have set up a proper protocol in the lab
The technician must've been replying SMS or checking email on his handphone while doing the job, man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I can only think of one innocent victim: the poor little baby
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to consciously adopt someone with marked different skin tone is no problem in accepting it - it is a conscious decision made
but to discover it during labour … that is really shocking, and imagine the emo trauma … -
duriz:
I can only think of one innocent victim: the poor little baby
he/she is least to be worried about
if given up for adoption, the queue would be formed overnite
latest report has it that the parents have decided to keep, with lots of tender loving care la.........TMC would have to make compensation and probably settle out of court, with non-disclosure agreement
end of story.
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