How to tell if a child is gifted?
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2ppaamm:
pingsped, thank you for the recommendation. I will certainly look into buying book.
It is already too late to skip lower primary. He is already 10. Now we have an opportunity to skip to Sec 3, but he does not want to go. He wants his friends, which is fine by me.
That P2 teacher was so busy telling me how she knew my son was not gifted because hers was in GEP and she could identify one a mile away, and why I should be smacking my son instead of asking for provision given his disabilities. I wonder why she is still teaching in the school.
There are limited good social skills resources for children with AS.
I find that the book is useful as a curriculum guide. As it is not specifically written for children with ASD, you'll need to think of different ways to deliver the message/teach goal.
I used to think some of them should be fired. haha.
Now I'll usu recommend parents make written complaints to principal or MOE, depending on severity of the situation. Generally, the teacher will be counselled or warned. A simple investigation is enough to make them think twice.
Firing all of them may deepen misunderstandings/animosity towards children with special needs or ASD whose parents may be very ignorant.
They need to know that other teachers can help and the children can be helped.
I think your son has chosen wisely. It's impt that he enjoys his remaining childhood years.
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2ppaamm:
This's my main struggle with my boy!!7. If I have my choice, I'd want my son's IQ be to around 120, and an EQ of 210 (if there's a measurement of EQ). Add a kind heart and a love for living, joy and not bitterness, the ability to present and have his ideas accepted. A sympathy for the poor and respect for the old. A love for his country, patriotism, filial piety, gratitude, politeness, forgiveness, and most importantly, humility. In other words, VALUES. I want him to value principles more than academic knowledge.
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Nebbermind:
Nebbermind, don't cry! What struggle is that? Maybe we can help...
This's my main struggle with my boy!!2ppaamm:
7. If I have my choice, I'd want my son's IQ be to around 120, and an EQ of 210 (if there's a measurement of EQ). Add a kind heart and a love for living, joy and not bitterness, the ability to present and have his ideas accepted. A sympathy for the poor and respect for the old. A love for his country, patriotism, filial piety, gratitude, politeness, forgiveness, and most importantly, humility. In other words, VALUES. I want him to value principles more than academic knowledge.
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vlim:
Probably, but I don't blame her for that. Who wouldn't be proud of their kids? I wished she had given my son a chance, too.
ya the teacher probably think that her gep son is the smartest..
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2ppaamm:
Nebbermind, don't cry! What struggle is that? Maybe we can help... :D[/quote]The lack of EQ, a kind heart (sympathy), filial piety/respect for the old and, lately, humility. In general, a whole lot of self-centredness!
This's my main struggle with my boy!!Nebbermind:
[quote=\"2ppaamm\"] 7. If I have my choice, I'd want my son's IQ be to around 120, and an EQ of 210 (if there's a measurement of EQ). Add a kind heart and a love for living, joy and not bitterness, the ability to present and have his ideas accepted. A sympathy for the poor and respect for the old. A love for his country, patriotism, filial piety, gratitude, politeness, forgiveness, and most importantly, humility. In other words, VALUES. I want him to value principles more than academic knowledge.
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Nebbermind:
The lack of EQ, a kind heart (sympathy), filial piety/respect for the old and, lately, humility. In general, a whole lot of self-centredness![/quote]But isn't this what the next generation all lack and not just our children? Affluence has soften our kids and make them self-centred and selfish. I often tell the kiddos that they will stand out by being different and exude these qualities... much more than having a big IQ. We parents must find a way to educate that. Let's start by being an example, not that I'm really good, but I'm willing to try.
Nebbermind, don't cry! What struggle is that? Maybe we can help...2ppaamm:
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This's my main struggle with my boy!! -
Don't think we can blame everything to affluence. My boy has been like this since young, nonchalant in nature while my girl is more 'socially conforming'. As it is, we noticed this since he was young and had been working VERY hard to correct it....sometimes it improves, sometimes just the 'regular' him....*sigh*
we just continue
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2ppaamm:
But isn't this what the next generation all lack and not just our children? Affluence has soften our kids and make them self-centred and selfish. I often tell the kiddos that they will stand out by being different and exude these qualities... much more than having a big IQ. We parents must find a way to educate that. Let's start by being an example, not that I'm really good, but I'm willing to try.
Probably is due to a lack of exposure. If kids are shown and exposed to how people live in other countries, they'll learn to appreciate what they have.
Start by discussing with them how they can donate their money and time to the poor. Schools do organize certain activities like visiting an old folks home or orphanage but parents can also do it on their own. We can even teach them in the course of our daily lives. I've taught my DSs to greet everybody they come in contact with, even thanking the bus driver at the end of a trip. Simple things like this teach them that we have to respect others irregardless of status. I heard from my friends that when their children came across a foreign worker, they'll complain that he is smelly etc and avoid him. I talk to foreign workers as if they are friends and the least we can do is to greet them. My DSs have no problem chatting with them. In fact, those foreign workers in my condo help me do up my new apartment and they charge much cheaper than a local firm. I feel for them when they talk about their families back home and how they are trying to earn enough money to see their children through Uni or get married. They even do certain things like drilling holes to hang pics for free cos we are 'buddy buddy'. -
Hi 2ppaamm
How’s your progress? Any new development after speaking to various GEP school principals? Can get a transfer for your ds? -
sleepy:
Not much solid progress or results, except that I'm still actively talking to a few parties. I've been on a discovery road these few weeks and my perspective of things changed quite a bit. I will share my experience once I have some solid findings. I hope they will benefit some folks here who have very gifted children.Hi 2ppaamm
How's your progress? Any new development after speaking to various GEP school principals? Can get a transfer for your ds?
Thank you!
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