Mum...may I...

[winth]

insider:

PS: Saying ‘No’ is an art by itself. For example if a preschooler crying for an ice cream before dinner, you may say:


“No, you can’t have it until you finish your dinner” or

“Yes, you can have it after you finish your dinner”.

Hearing ‘Nos’ enough frustrates young children and so we need to use language positively to convey ‘negative’ results. Somehow, it works as what your preschooler (or lower primary schooler) prefers to hear is the word ‘Yes’ and not ‘No’ even though the outcome is a ‘No’… (reserve 'No' only on more extreme cases such as danger of going into a deep pool, playing with fire, etc, then the 'No' will be more powerful in a way as the kids know you mean business).

That's a really GOOD observation. Think I must change my tonation too.

I'm trying to use the 4 guidelines on 'Why We Must Stop Fixing Our Children' and my husband agrees it's a good article there.

insider:

I observed her skin and it seems like her skin texture belongs to those 'tough' type that makes closing of the holes more difficult (like mine. My earing holes would never close even after so many years of not wearing earings).

That's really too bad. It's her marriage palace there... But hope the holes will narrow up when she stops wearing those.

My BIL had earrings studs at first after DH said 'yes' with all the conditions attached - only ear studs, no smoking/glue sniffing, must answer phone call, going home every night. My MIL lost total control of BIL so only DH could manage to negotiate with him.

After he had the studs, subsequently, he moved on to the lips n brows. Plus all the conditions initially agreed upon were not met.

So, I would think we should still exercise caution and watch out for every warning signal that the child displays.

[sunflower]

I had a male colleague who went to have one of his ears pierced years’ back. I remembered him telling me that normal males would only pierce the left ear, unless you want to proclaim that you’re gay, then pierce the right or both ears. I hope I got the left/right ear correct as it has been many years since I left the organisation. Correct me if I’ve got it the other way round. Anyway, can anyone confirm whether that’s really the case?

[Poonie]

Hi All


Going off tangent here for a while…tryng to give Jennifer some tips on her problematic ears.

Hi Jennifer,

You mentioned that your choice of fashionable earrings are limited due to allergy. I had the same problem for many years until I discovered plastic studs. I wore one pair for a period of 2 months without removing them. To my amazment I can now wear any type of metal (except gold) without the constant itching. Try it!

[Jennifer]

Poonie:

Hi All


Going off tangent here for a while.......tryng to give Jennifer some tips on her problematic ears.

Hi Jennifer,

You mentioned that your choice of fashionable earrings are limited due to allergy. I had the same problem for many years until I discovered plastic studs. I wore one pair for a period of 2 months without removing them. To my amazment I can now wear any type of metal (except gold) without the constant itching. Try it!

Poonie, thanks for the tip. Where do you find the plastic stubs earrings?

[schellen]

Jennifer and Poonie, although I don’t have sensitive skin, I do have 1-2 pairs of plastic studs. I realise that if I wear them daily, I eventually lose them cos the "stick" part of the stud will break off or the "tension" will wear off and the stud will become loose. Does this happen to you Poonie? (FYI, this happens whether I wear the cheap-cheap kind or the more ex kind.)

[Poonie]

These plastic studs can be found at pushcarts in any shopping malls. Remember seeing some at Vivo City basement and Tiong Bahru Plaza 2nd floor. I agree with Schellen that the glue cannot hold the stone in for very long esp when I bathed in them. The plastic post also bent after sleeping in them for a long time. What I did was I bought a few pairs at one go. When I eventually got tired of these undurable (though undurable the stones were full of lustre…better than diamonds) stuff I tried swtiching back to metal earrings and that’s how I discovered that I have recovered from my allergy!

[Jennifer]

Poonie:

I tried swtiching back to metal earrings and that's how I discovered that I have recovered from my allergy!

This is already worthwhile.

[Jennifer]

insider:

My maid reported something to me this morning about my son. He actually sneaked in a friend at around 3 am for the past two days into his room.

Huh? What abt your maid- not sleeping at 3am?

That's why I am thinking of renovating the junior bedrooms- converting one into a twin sharing room (put the two kids together, keep an eye on one another), and the other one into a study room again shared by all in the family.

[Jennifer]

insider:

Jennifer:

Huh? What abt your maid- not sleeping at 3am?

My maid's room is closer to the main door and she is a light sleeper...

Interesting to know what's actually up his sleeves. It's a pitching of wits later...

Remember to keep your cool.

[Andaiz]

insider:

Rule No. 1 of 'Crisis Management' - Keep Your Cool...


Many things can be learnt from a crisis if one is able to maintain his/her cool at the onset of it...

Well said, well said indeed insider. I like your style gal! It's good pointers coz I'm one of those mums who blow top first then allow the kids to explain - but which time I've lost them :roll: