Is it necessary to get a new daddy for my son?
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Liz_Ryan:
Thanx so much LOLMum, for your enlightenment. I don't know why, but after reading your reply, am feeling so much at ease.... guess bcoz it's exactly what I've been thinking all these years.... Thanx so much..LOLMum:
hi,
yes, it would be nice to have a companion but if my kids are fine without the need for a father, then i would remain single till they have all grown up.
the thought of not providing the kids a normal family frame will always make us feel guilty and sometimes we rush or push ourseleves into situations which are bad. so just be careful with your decison.wapobs:
Hi wapobs, ever since I had my son, honestly I bearly think anything for myself, let alone thinking of getting another companion.a new daddy for your son?
or
a new companion for yourself?
HappyAvon, I'm so happy for u & yor mom for being blessed with a new man in your lives
And thanx everyone for sharing your experience/opinion with me
Over the years, I've grown to believe that not everyone is blessed in every way in life......
Whatever it is, per ksi' advice, I shall just go with the flow... I shall do my best to give what I can to my son, and when it comes to relationship, shall take things as they come....
thats the way... good luck! -
Hi,
Personally I also wish to have a new dad for my kids... Esp when there is any outing/event, sure has someone asks : where is daddy?
There are some men who wanted to date me out, but refused to meet my kids.. so they were off of my list after 4~5 times of outing.
Was a single man, can mix around with my kids and my kids like him too. We were enjoy most of the outing and blah blah blah... after sometimes, his mum called and told me that they disagreed of this kind of relationship, as I have 2 kids. To her, I am just a woman who wanted to grab a man to provided all the $$$. She told me directly that his son is innocent, is better to apart with his son, his son is single sure can find a better partner...
Seriously I felt hurt,
in fact I felt is an insult. After some consideration, I decided to leave him, as I believe that I wont be in bliss if I married him, so do my kids. We have to face their family members, which I think those situation is unneccessary for my kids. Even he told me that he can disown his parents, what a sin if he does so...
After this incident, I gave up on find a new dad for my kids.
Let natures take its course. But I do think and consider a lot before I run into a new relationship, whether it is for myself, or kids...
There are some blissful cases too. For the meanwhile , just take good care of yourself and your son. There is always a better tomorrow! Good luck :love: -
fussyMummy:
Hiya fussyMummy, just want to say that you are a wonderful, selfless mommy and I really admire you for your strength and love that you have for your family. Your children are very blessed to have you as their mommy. :lol:Hi,
Let natures takes it course. But I do think and consider a lot before I run into a new relationship, whether it is for myself, or kids... -
schweppes:
:goodpost:
Hiya fussyMummy, just want to say that you are a wonderful, selfless mommy and I really admire you for your strength and love that you have for your family. Your children are very blessed to have you as their mommy. :lol:fussyMummy:
Hi,
Let natures takes it course. But I do think and consider a lot before I run into a new relationship, whether it is for myself, or kids...
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fussyMummy:
I have a friend of mine who also faces the same situation as you.Hi,
Personally I also wish to have a new dad for my kids... Esp when there is any outing/event, sure has someone asks : where is daddy?
There are some men who wanted to date me out, but refused to meet my kids.. so they were off of my list after 4~5 times of outing.
Was a single man, can mix around with my kids and my kids like him too. We were enjoy most of the outing and blah blah blah... after sometimes, his mum called and told me that they disagreed of this kind of relationship, as I have 2 kids. To her, I am just a woman who wanted to grab a man to provided all the $$$. She told me directly that his son is innocent, is better to apart with his son, his son is single sure can find a better partner...
Seriously I felt hurt, in fact I felt is an insult. After some consideration, I decided to leave him, as I believe that I wont be in bliss if I married him, so do my kids. We have to face their family members, which I think those situation is unneccessary for my kids. Even he told me that he can disword his parents, what a sin if he does so...
After this incident, I gave up on find a new dad for my kids.
Let natures takes it course. But I do think and consider a lot before I run into a new relationship, whether it is for myself, or kids...
There are some blissful cases too. For the meanwhile , just take good care of yourself and your son. There is always a better tomorrow! Good luck :love:
saluate to those single mums who rejected love and relationship for the sake of their kids even though they hope to search for and start another relationship. -
fussyMummy:
Why “off” them only after 4-5 times of outing? Should have given them a straight NO if they have already given the impression that they are not interested in your kids in the first place. You won’t be wasting time going out with them at all.
There are some men who wanted to date me out, but refused to meet my kids.. so they were off of my list after 4~5 times of outing.fussyMummy:
Why cry? You should have told tat old hag “How sure are you that your son will get a better partner than me!!!”... after sometimes, his mum called and told me that they disagreed of this kind of relationship, as I have 2 kids. To her, I am just a woman who wanted to grab a man to provided all the $$$. She told me directly that his son is innocent, is better to apart with his son, his son is single sure can find a better partner...
Seriously I felt hurt, fussyMummy:
Don’t ever say ‘give up’, babes. Maybe the right man has yet to come by…….After this incident, I gave up on find a new dad for my kids.
True, just let nature take it’s course.
I believe in predestination. Not everyone is blessed in every way, but we are all blessed in one way or another.
No point harping on the past.
There are people who would cry “I grew up without parents, I have no parents’ love since young”
Some would cry “My parents were always fighting when I was young”, “I rarely saw my parents when I was young”, “My ex husband/wife had cheated on me. I’ve lost trust in men/women” etc etc etc….
How much time are we going to waste on crying over our pasts?
We should concentrate more on our current lives and plan for the future.
We must understand one thing, when God fails to answer our prayers, He could have made better plans for us….
For myself, maybe I’m not blessed to have a partner, but I’m blessed with a wonderful kid. And that is a fact which I have always acknowledged.fussyMummy:
Thank you… And may God bless you and kids with all the good things life has to offer.For the meanwhile , just take good care of yourself and your son.
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I believe that there are cases where families that are supposedly complete with a set of parents in actual fact function as single parent families. This happens when one of the parents are totally hands off and leaves everything to the other parent to handle. So you are not alone. There are many others who share a similar predicament in raising their kids. I think it is important that you choose a man that loves and cares for you and takes your son as his own.
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fussyMummy:
hi,Hi,
Was a single man, can mix around with my kids and my kids like him too. We were enjoy most of the outing and blah blah blah... after sometimes, his mum called and told me that they disagreed of this kind of relationship, as I have 2 kids. To her, I am just a woman who wanted to grab a man to provided all the $$$. She told me directly that his son is innocent, is better to apart with his son, his son is single sure can find a better partner...
Seriously I felt hurt, in fact I felt is an insult.
i hope you've gotten over this incident. just take note that this \"mum calling\" thingy might happen again.
it is never easy for a mum to accept that her kids' partners are divorced/widowed and a bigger shock, if there are children.
it is kinda unbalanced scale that a man could easily get married again the 2nd time round than a woman.
sometimes i wish that marriage is just between 2 persons but this cant be right? well, unless both are orphans. -
Actually I think the whole perfect family image is perhaps an ideal if modern times. In the past when there are large families and life was more unpredictable, people were perhaps more accomodating of personal histories and colorful characters.
In any case, I don’t think children need a replacement parent as much as they need a strong role model and someone who can mentor them. -
LOLMum:
Hi LOLMum,
hi,
i hope you've gotten over this incident. just take note that this \"mum calling\" thingy might happen again.
it is never easy for a mum to accept that her kids' partners are divorced/widowed and a bigger shock, if there are children.
it is kinda unbalanced scale that a man could easily get married again the 2nd time round than a woman.
sometimes i wish that marriage is just between 2 persons but this cant be right? well, unless both are orphans.
I never blame his mum. In fact I can fully understand how she felt, as a mother...
As for myself, I dont think I have anymore 'energy\" to fight for those...
Is sad to admit that men can easily re-marry again, and others will \"proud\" of him. But for women, the rest mostly will think that she just \"desperate\"...Liz_Ryan:
For myself, maybe I’m not blessed to have a partner, but I’m blessed with a wonderful kid. And that is a fact which I have always acknowledged.
I agreed with you.
Me too blessed with 2 wonderful kids.
Last night, they discussed that they will give the their Edusave Merit Bursary (EMB) to me, to reward me as a mummy... :love: Of course I will save it for them
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