All About Careless Children
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skkitty:
I said that I was very upset. As my focus on SA1 was mostly on checking and reducing careless mistakes rather than the school's syllabus (which was pretty basic and managable), I asked him if he realised that he has been wasting his own time if he take each revision only as a piecework and doesn't learn from his mistakes. I told him that regardless of how much revision we had done, if he didn't make the effort to recap what are the common errors that he had made when he was doing checking, it defeats the purpose of doing further revision. He might as well go to play for the rest of the week - and if his results is less than desirable, I told him that I just had to send him to tuition cos I had done my best, and perhaps the tuition teacher has a better method to make him remember (I 'threatened' him cos I know that he doesn't want to go for tuition).Hi Jedamum
So what did you do or said when you flare up to your kid that makes him/she remember?
He is sensible by nature...just that I need him to think through his past mistakes and go through his papers before submitting them to me.
While I flare up, I didn't shout at him. My tone is more of a sian mode...followed by quite a long period of silence. Then he kwai kwai volunteered to do another compre paper and this time, perfect score (tenses, caps, punctuation all in place, words copied from the passage also copied correctly), handwriting improved somemore.
But haiz...I think now he forgotten already...holiday mood. -
jedamum:
Then he kwai kwai volunteered to do another compre paper...
VOLUNTEERED to do another paper!!! jedamum, your son is a gem! -
clarabella:
He values my opinions (and his teachers
VOLUNTEERED to do another paper!!! jedamum, your son is a gem!) a lot and is a very sensitive boy to start with.
But you must have missed this....jedamum:
But haiz...I think now he forgotten already...holiday mood.
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Hahahaha! It just means that he knows when to work and when to play! Excellent!
So, jedamum, next time he'll bring his girlfriend(s) home for you to approve. Think how fun that'll be :lol: -
Hi Sskitty and all
I am facing the same problem. My girl is very careless too, she lost one or two marks in her maths test due to carelessness but lost many many many marks in her SA1 exam which upsets me very much.
I told her I am very upset, she cried. I felt bad. I tried the carrot method before the exams too, but it didn’t work.
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Hi Dilemma
Yes that is what is exactly that is happening that upset me. Good idea, wonder if Abacus can train them?
Btw what is the carrot method? Can share?
Hi Jedamum
Thanks for sharing. Will try your method talking to him and see what he says. As you said, he will only listen for the moment and forget after that. He called me just now automatically and asked me which assessment book he can do!
Anyway to make them remember? sigh… -
I have the same problem too. My son’s handwriting is really illegible. Last year, when his teacher was on maternity leave, the relief teacher that took over the class was very fierce. For that two months, he was so scared of this teacher that he became so conscious about his handwriting. After the relief teacher left, back to “normal” again. :x I have yet to find any solution to this but I have threatened him that during next week PMT session, I am going to ask the teacher to punish those with bad handwriting by asking them to re-write 100 times! As usual, he will say “ok lah!” So I shall see if my “threat” is going to work.
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skkitty:
Just to share. I finally found a way that works for my ds1. I used to have to tell him (okay, more like screech at him) \"Check your work!\", \"Tidy your desk!\", \"Tidy your room!\", \"PRACTISE your piano!\", \"Learn your spelling!\" etc.
Anyway to make them remember? sigh......
Invariably, he will claim that he forgot my instructions. Like many kids, my words seem to go in one ear and go out the other immediately. So, since the auditory way didn't work, I created visuals of what he's supposed/agreed to do for work, instead of telling him or writing a list. As an example, to remind him to practise on the piano, I snapped a picture of him sitting at the piano and stuck it right at his desk. He can't miss it (big! colourful!) and can't claim that he 'forgot' when it's staring at him in his face. It's harder for him to ignore a photo (esp one of himself), but very easy to tune my nagging out!
Unexpected benefit: apparently ds1 feels that he is reminding himself to do his work since he's the subject in the pics, so I am no longer the one badgering him. I think our r/s improved because he doesn't get irritated with my incessant nagging.
So, skkitty, just a thought here - maybe you can take a picture of the assessment books that you're asking him to do. Or get him to strike a pose with them hahaha. Even if it doesn't work to remind him, can get some laughs out of doing a funny thing. -
It really looks that many parents are having the same problem. Wonder if the careless problem will improve as they grow older?
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Hi Clarabella
Thanks for the suggestion.
Will take a photo of him and make him remember and maybe put words on the picture to remind him of his carelessness and ask him to take note.