In-law problems?

[janet88]

24hr-mum:

haha, never offend a woman. she will dig up the story years later.


ur sil is really too much lah..

We are women too.... but honestly, I am not so free to dig up issues like this. There are more important things in life worthy of my time & attention. For goodness sake, if she is fortunate enough, she would have kid(s) by now...busy with education and well-being instead of scolding relatives for not attending her wedding and giving her face. She is supposed to be holding a IMPORTANT position in the company, earning more than her hubby. Really eat-too-free-nothing-to-do. :x Idiotic.

If it's just hubby & I, then we will be holding hands in the park, watching movies or else doing housework...not so free to call BIL to scold him. She really is one damn f!@# rude.

[24hr-mum]

so ur sil isnt busy at work too

[tracytmks]

do anybody MIL likes to keep those plastic containers (eg those container like peanut butter type or the suan mei type containers)? mine likes to keep and she will sure find something to put in case i throw it away hahaha… last nite i saw one i threw it away. just now call home, my gal asked me u throw away ah ma container izit. i blur just kept quiet and told her is lost by itself…


my also like to keep the nescafe container really don’t understand why she likes to keep? to put gold izit hahaha… once i saw it sure throw away then she will tell my hubby i very ji siao throw away… :x

[24hr-mum]

u are not alone.

mine like to keep.
while its gd to keep some to recycle, i dont believe in keeping EVERY SINGLE container. my mil is worse, she likes to keep DISPOSABLE MICROWAVABLE CONTAINERS whc are meant for 1-time use, as well as GLASS containers whc she doesnt keep properly but keep at upper shelves whc have the danger of toppling down n hitting the head esp if kids are in the kitchen. i usu transfer them to lower shelves.

last time there was this new pan whch she never uses and as i was moving hse i ask her son to ask her gv away. she nvr disagree with the son but when i went home she scolded me and said she will throw things herself and that night she purposely took out the pan to use!
i was pregnant and stll hv to quarrel wif her - she forgot she is the one who stay in my house, not the other way round, so i shd hv the right to decide what things stay in MY kitchen!

[janet88]

24hr-mum:

so ur sil isnt busy at work too

My hubby told me she earning more than her husband and very busy also. Then how come so free to find fault and dig up old things ? I asked my hubby, 'I thought your brother said his wife holding big post and very busy ? How come so free to dig up past events ? Weekends no need to do housework meh ?'

This thread is my avenue to vent frustrations on those idiotic troublemakers.

[24hr-mum]

ya its gd to vent out.

when my mil stayed wif me, i didnt know abt this forum.
was bottling up till almost depression

[janet88]

24hr-mum:

u are not alone.

mine like to keep.
while its gd to keep some to recycle, i dont believe in keeping EVERY SINGLE container. my mil is worse, she likes to keep DISPOSABLE MICROWAVABLE CONTAINERS whc are meant for 1-time use, as well as GLASS containers whc she doesnt keep properly but keep at upper shelves whc have the danger of toppling down n hitting the head esp if kids are in the kitchen. i usu transfer them to lower shelves.

last time there was this new pan whch she never uses and as i was moving hse i ask her son to ask her gv away. she nvr disagree with the son but when i went home she scolded me and said she will throw things herself and that night she purposely took out the pan to use!
i was pregnant and stll hv to quarrel wif her - she forgot she is the one who stay in my house, not the other way round, so i shd hv the right to decide what things stay in MY kitchen!

Darling, to her, your house is HER house...these people don't seem to regard daughters-in-law as human...only her own children are.
I remember once she asked my other SIL whether she has those cutlery from the plane...my SIL told her those belong to the airline and she doesn't take.

[janet88]

24hr-mum:

ya its gd to vent out.

when my mil stayed wif me, i didnt know abt this forum.
was bottling up till almost depression

I had hell time with her during my courtship days right until after getting married and having 1st one. If I don't stay far away from her and see her only a while, I will have to stay in IMH (Institute of Mental Health).

[24hr-mum]

then i admire u, still proceed with the marriage despite knowg ur mil’s pattern.


i thot i wont hv prob cos my mil seems nice person n she takes care of her own mil very dutifully. but i didnt realise her taking too much care applies to my kids too - too much control.

i overestimated my tolerance. sigh. regretted getting married .

they only care abt their children n grandchildren.
its true.
last time there was once, we were staying in a rented condo. the landlord came n gave some present. my mil didnt bother to tell me what is that thing lying on the table. she waited for my hubby to be home and tell him - as if i m transparent at home! then she will wait for my #1 to be home after childcare n bring her up to thank the landlord!
she must bring my girl along wherever she goes. very idiotic！

[janet88]

24hr-mum:

then i admire u, still proceed with the marriage despite knowg ur mil's pattern.


i thot i wont hv prob cos my mil seems nice person n she takes care of her own mil very dutifully. but i didnt realise her taking too much care applies to my kids too - too much control.

i overestimated my tolerance. sigh. regretted getting married .

they only care abt their children n grandchildren. its true.
last time there was once, we were staying in a rented condo. the landlord came n gave some present. my mil didnt bother to tell me what is that thing lying on the table. she waited for my hubby to be home and tell him - as if i m transparent at home! then she will wait for my #1 to be home after childcare n bring her up to thank the landlord!
she must bring my girl along wherever she goes. very idiotic！

I'm not marrying her. Of course my hubby was brought up by her and have twisted mentality...she taught her children one twisted mentality - MONEY IS MOST IMPORTANT. I am particular about hygiene and now hubby is trained to know what is cleanliness and drink water. He doesn't drink water then...only Pepsi. Advised him to cut down on sugar, oil and salt for health reasons.

She doesn't do her part as a grandmother, and yet expects the grandchildren to know who she is. I am praying hard for the both of them to fly to US and preferably stay there for as long as possible.