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[janet88]

jedamum:

janet_lee88:

I thought your hubby will be happy (or happier) to have his wife help him share the financial load. If like what you mentioned, everything remains status quo, might as well you stay at home. I don't think I can go back to work, endure 8 hours of stress in the office and come back to face housework & coaching kids in their studies.

that's his point....to make it my incentive to stay at home. been through a lot of stress when i was working previously....after stressful day at work, he don't want to go home to face more stress in child rearing, academic, ILs-relations etc, hence he prefers to forgo holidays/vacations/extra savings from the additional income.
maybe he knows i will neglect the family once i start working again..... :oops:

My hubby is also not a holiday kinda of person...we don't have the travel bug at all...esp with the craziness of plane mechanical problems now, volcano smoke and all the packing. Oh yes, not to forget my kids' fussy eating. So we rather stay in Singapore.

If I go back to work, the schedule will change drastically...kids will be in morning session and noons are dedicated to their homework & revision.

[jedamum]

janet_lee88:

Hi ELcurve,

If I have to suffer 8 hours in the office to come back to MORE stress, might as well I stay at home...looking after the kids and coaching them in their studies is tough enough. If I have to go out to work and outsource to tutors, that's even worse.
Tutors nowadays have no sense of responsibility.

Even though kids have tuition, I still believe in being the 'backup'...I don't know exactly how my kids are coached but giving them the extra boost helps. At least it 'tells' the tutor I know what is happening.

janet_lee88,
with the single income, i hope to be able to coach my boys in the rest of the subjects (except CL) for as long as possible. it is very tempting to want to sign up for popular enrichment classes, but that means more financial commitment and lesser justification of me staying at home.

[jedamum]

janet_lee88:

My hubby is also not a holiday kinda of person...we don't have the travel bug at all...esp with the craziness of plane mechanical problems now, volcano smoke and all the packing. Oh yes, not to forget my kids' fussy eating. So we rather stay in Singapore.

If I go back to work, the schedule will change drastically...kids will be in morning session and noons are dedicated to their homework & revision.

haha...we are somewhat in comfort zone already....

[buds]

jedamum:

.....maybe he knows i will neglect the family once i start working again..... :oops:

That.... and also the looking through the window & the clock
every now and then... :idea: ... and trying to appease that
DS1 of yours... yes yes... she's on her way back oredi..
on the way... on the way...

[duriz]

buds:

jedamum:

.....maybe he knows i will neglect the family once i start working again..... :oops:

That.... and also the looking through the window & the clock
every now and then... :idea: ... and trying to appease that
DS1 of yours... yes yes... she's on her way back oredi..
on the way... on the way...

:rotflmao:

True that :celebrate:

[janet88]

jedamum:

janet_lee88:

My hubby is also not a holiday kinda of person...we don't have the travel bug at all...esp with the craziness of plane mechanical problems now, volcano smoke and all the packing. Oh yes, not to forget my kids' fussy eating. So we rather stay in Singapore.

If I go back to work, the schedule will change drastically...kids will be in morning session and noons are dedicated to their homework & revision.

haha...we are somewhat in comfort zone already....

Completely agree with you...in comfort zone for so long...how to go back to work again ?

[duriz]

Today, I'm a newly re-appointed SAHM.


All hail the long-suffering, all-appeasing, totally-skillful, too-flexible to describe, unconditional-loving SAHM.

:celebrate:

[buds]

sleepy:

buds:

Lucky mummies who have helpers at all to begin with..


In my case, I'm the God-sent one!

Pao-everything! :idea:

Me too 一脚踢
Do you feel your kids take you for granted sometimes?

Actually i do find that being humans... it is natural that we sometimes
take one another or things for granted, especially if it's there ALL THE
TIME...

Like when we always have money, we won't know how to appreciate it
until we're dry. Like when hubs usually helps out around the house and
i sometimes forget to say thank you or show appreciation for it... :oops:
when he's not around, i feel that i have more work to do.

Like i cook almost everyday... and then suddenly fall sick for the whole
week all knocked out... they will all come to my bed massage here and
there and whine... mummy arh... we wish you will get well soon... we
really miss your cooking.

That's when i go, \"Cooking oni arh...? Cheh..\"

When SAHPs find that somehow there is a tinge of taking-for-granted-ness...
try to NOT DO certain things... see how things pan out. It works ya know.
It shows that something's up. :evil: That the SAHP is up to the neck with
everything and just needs to chill.

When i'm quiet... and i mean literally quiet... not nag not scold not stare...
everyone in the house gets nervous. The quiet spell is far more
dangerous than the raging mad one. :evil:

[buds]

duriz:

Today, I'm a newly re-appointed SAHM.


All hail the long-suffering, all-appeasing, totally-skillful, too-flexible to describe, unconditional-loving SAHM.

:celebrate:

:celebrate: All hail! :celebrate:

[buds]

janet_lee88:

Completely agree with you...in comfort zone for so long...how to go back to work again ?

Can! :evil: Must see what's the motivating factor..

I honestly do not mind having time to work flexi.
I have been on flexi and ad-hoc stints these past years as SAHM.

I do enjoy it! :love: