In-law problems?

[qizai]

This thread is still going strong! Well done, gals!


In my opinion, those MILs that give problems all the time are those that exhibit the following characteristics:

1) Want to be the centre of the universe (want to be the most popular person in the family among sons/daughters/grandchildren).
2) Practise favoritism
3) Deny that they practise favoritism
4) Want to even out people’s happiness especially if the ‘favorite’ son/daughter doesn’t have it
5) Two-face and very good with words to get sympathy/people to do what they want
6) FIL is usually spineless

My MIL happens to be all of the above, and I’m the husband of her least favorite daughter.

My mother occasionally finds fault with my wife, but my wife definitely prefers her to her own mother!

I have to protect my wife from her own mother. The irony is when I wed her, I gave her parents word I would take good care of her. But I guess that doesn’t include protection from her own family as part of my husbandry requirements.

Thanks for listening to my rant!

Merry Christmas!

[janet88]

qizai:

This thread is still going strong! Well done, gals!


In my opinion, those MILs that give problems all the time are those that exhibit the following characteristics:

1) Want to be the centre of the universe (want to be the most popular person in the family among sons/daughters/grandchildren).
2) Practise favoritism
3) Deny that they practise favoritism
4) Want to even out people's happiness especially if the 'favorite' son/daughter doesn't have it
5) Two-face and very good with words to get sympathy/people to do what they want
6) FIL is usually spineless

My MIL happens to be all of the above, and I'm the husband of her least favorite daughter.

My mother occasionally finds fault with my wife, but my wife definitely prefers her to her own mother!

I have to protect my wife from her own mother. The irony is when I wed her, I gave her parents word I would take good care of her. But I guess that doesn't include protection from her own family as part of my husbandry requirements.

Thanks for listening to my rant!
Merry Christmas!

No worries...we enjoy reading your story and it's definitely not rant.
It's refreshing to read this from a man's point.

1) Centre of universe...possible if she has been given the privilege through the years.
2/3) Practice favoritism...practices this and yet denies it, claiming to be fair to all the kids.
4) Gets happiness at the expense of children.
5) 2 faced or 2 headed snake...say something in front of one daughter-in-law and something else to another and creating misunderstanding.
6) Henpecked.

[growie]

qizai:

This thread is still going strong! Well done, gals!


In my opinion, those MILs that give problems all the time are those that exhibit the following characteristics:

1) Want to be the centre of the universe (want to be the most popular person in the family among sons/daughters/grandchildren).
2) Practise favoritism
3) Deny that they practise favoritism
4) Want to even out people's happiness especially if the 'favorite' son/daughter doesn't have it
5) Two-face and very good with words to get sympathy/people to do what they want
6) FIL is usually spineless

Merry Christmas!

:goodpost: I see the big picture now....how true.

Merry Christmas to all!

[24hr-mum]

wow, i agree all with qizai!

to add on:
1) mil thinks her son is shouldering all the financial responsibilities even tho her dil is wkg and contributing

2) even if she is stayg is her married son’s house, she thinks the house is HER hse, her grandchildren are her KIDS, she is the MOTHER, not the grandmother, she brings over her own pots, pans etc without asking, thinks she is the head of the kitchen n household, thinks dil are the 2nd class citizen

3) cares only for her son (esp eldest son) and grandchildren only. not dil.
care for dil is just obligatory and for show

[24hr-mum]

oh yes, talking abt salt.

they not only add salt to the food, they also say they ‘eat salt more than we eat rice’. haha. how true!

[janet88]

24hr-mum:

to add on:

1) mil thinks her son is shouldering all the financial responsibilities even tho her dil is wkg and contributing

2) even if she is stayg is her married son's house, she thinks the house is HER hse, her grandchildren are her KIDS, she is the MOTHER, not the grandmother, she brings over her own pots, pans etc without asking, thinks she is the head of the kitchen n household, thinks dil are the 2nd class citizen

3) cares only for her son (esp eldest son) and grandchildren only. not dil.
care for dil is just obligatory and for show

Yeah, she thinks the son is the SOLE owner...and she wants the keys to the house too. That will NEVER happen. She once asked and I pretended not to hear.

Caring or pretending to care for her DIL in front of her sons. Behind their backs, the HORNS appear.

[auntieM]

Had to speak to MIL and listen to those fake drama on Xmas eve..sian...only good thing is we are very far away from her, and spared the actual drama, and dinner bill too....



Merry Xmas to all! :celebrate:

[janet88]

auntieM/24hr-mum,

I cannot handle them…nor understand how their brain works.
Ok, I agree they have eaten salt more than we have eaten rice. But putting that aside, I really cannot tolerate the endless drama…the faking of concern in front of their sons and the way they 2 head.
Very very sian.

[24hr-mum]

they literally ate more salt than we ate rice, but they forgot that salt is bad for health, haha!


old era basically clash with new era.
the difference is irreconcible…
a square peg in a round hole…

its like a vegetarian living with a meat-eater. how to reconcile?

[janet88]

24hr-mum:

they literally ate more salt than we ate rice, but they forgot that salt is bad for health, haha!


old era basically clash with new era.
the difference is irreconcible........
a square peg in a round hole.....

its like a vegetarian living with a meat-eater. how to reconcile?

Not possible of course...it's not that we cannot live with her, but it's the reverse. Wherever she goes, she will create problems.
In her bid to win favour with grandchildren and sons, she will refuse to acknowledge things that are wrong. :x :roll: